Potty Training Question - Belleville, MI

Sounds like she is right on schedule for her age. Most kids dont fully "get it' until right around age 3. My suggestion is to get a potty training video (maybe from the library) and have her watch it. i drug the potty chair in front of the tv so she could interact.

It takes patience. My daughter was very similar to your description, and we made a road chart with squares,(about 20) and made a jar of skittles/m&ms, so she got a potty candy every time she went and a sticker. When she got to the end of the road on the chart, she got to go to the dollar store and pick out a toy.

That worked most of the time, but still I learned to back off and not be too persistent. The more I hovered, the more she seemed to fall off the wagon.

My advice: Let her go at her own speed, with gentle reminders. Get the video. Make a chart. Nothing but positive comments, and lots of those, even on little successes.
Good luck!
ps - we started with a small potty char, then she ditched that for the toilet ring chair,with a step stool in front of the toilet for her feet. She was scared of falling in and, her words, "going round and around."

Don't worry about it. She's only 2. There's no rush. Have the potty chair available. The more she sees you guys using the toilet, the more she'll want to copy. It's a process and there IS no set age when they are required to be trained. Except for starting kindergarten, and even then not all kids develop the same. Their bodies and organs develop at different rates and some kids still need to get to the restroom at school or some just can't hold it. It happens. You've got time. Be encouraging. 'Some day YOU'LL be a big girl and won't have to wear diapers anymore cause YOU'LL be using the potty chair/toilet!!!!" Stuff like that.

Some kids don't like the "big" potty they are scared of it. Maybe you should try a some potty and see if that helps. Also when she tells you she's going it might be worth a try to put her on the toilet. However I don't think any thing is going to work unless you get hubby and your dad on board. It take a lot of time to teach them to go on the potty all the time and she is going to need consistancy. Talk to them and make sure they know how importnant it is. With my DD we would set a timer and every 15-20 minutes ask her if she needed to go potty and at least every other time take her in and have her at least sit on the potty. Hope you get some good suggestions. Good Luck

It is confusing for a child to sometimes use the potty and sometimes a diaper (pullups included). She will not have any motivation for doing so unless you do an intensive potting training method and throw away ALL diapers and NEVER buy more.

I'll suggest the 3 day potty training method that I used. http://www.3daypottytraining.com/?PIA66171AYEX I was skeptical as I'd done a different one months before and with no success and regression and fear setting in in my child. My daughter had begged to be potty trained for months before I tried, but had waited due to sickness in the family and lots of traveling. I thought it would be a snap, but was wrong. When I got the book and read about this 3 day method it made a lot of sense to me, but I was so concerned that my daughter wouldn't be ready as she'd had lots of fear the 1st time around.

Day one, she didn't seem to make much progress and constantly lied about having to go. I was very discouraged. She did at the end of the day finally ask to go, but was not successful. She used 20+ pair of underwear that day and was wet at both her nap and through the night.

Day two, she started off with a major accident, but started ask to sit on the potty (small treats for this) and soon would go little bits here and there. By the end of the day she was just having a few tsp of liquid accidents before running to the potty to finish.

Day three, by noon she was able to tell me every time and only had 1 or 2 accidents (small bits) and was dry for her nap and that night.

Two days later she made it all the way through church dry. A few days after that all the way through shopping, and could hold it in the car on the way home and make it to the potty. We now take the potty in the car with us if she needs it, but sometimes she is able to use a regular potty too - its just a bit scary.

You'll need 3 days to completely focus on your child with NO distractions. Follow all her suggestions even if you think its silly or overkill. You want to get it right. Be sure husband and Grandpa are on the same page as you and will continue to ask her if she needs to go, even after she's able to do it herself. Keep up the rewards for weeks afterwards. She should do great! Its been over a month now and my daughter and I drove 9 hours yesterday in the car. We stopped 3 times to pee and she did great!

Don't feel like you have to wait for her to ask you to potty train her. There are other signs that she's ready to look for. Best wishes!

Hi Wendy,

We are potty training our daughter. First, I will say it is going to be more difficult if you can't work with her through the day. This is one of those things where repetition and consistency is key.

That being said, when we started potty training our daughter a dear dear friend of mine bought us a potty stool. It allows my daughter to get up there all by herself. She LOVES it. We had a small potty chair just for her, but after a short time she wanted to sit on the big potty like mama. So...we got a child seat for the toilet and that coupled with the potty stool has been great.

In addition, I don't ask my daughter if she needs to go potty. I tell her. "It's potty time!" Yes, sometimes there is a fight... but not because she doesn't have to go...because she is 21 months old and likes to exert her independence and would rather stay and play with her toys then go sit on the potty for 30 seconds to pee. However, the fight is short lived we sit on the potty, read a book, and voila... pee-pee.

Poo has been a little more difficult, I think the urge was overtaking her quickly and then she would poo in her pants. BUT this week we've turned a corner and she started to poo in her pants then stopped and told us she had to use the toilet.

It's like at first we've had to just take her regularly but now she gets it and understands and often will just take herself.

Remember, we told them to "go" in their diaper. Now, we expect them to unlearn that and learn something new. We are expecting them after almost 2 years to learn body awareness again (they have it as infants and we teach them to not pay attention because of diapers... infants cry when they have to pee or poo) So, first you have to be sure that body awareness BEFORE they go is there. Many times older kids will know AFTER they go and then tell you about it. This is where timing and consistency come into play.

It's a process. Keep trying. Make it a big deal. We did a sticker chart for dry morning and dry afternoons. My daughter loved the stickers.

You might try a small potty chair for your daughter... it's just her size and that may intrigue her more then the big toilet.

Good luck!

W. ; i had three kids and each kid started potty training at the age of 2 however they never finished till age 4, be patient dont fret over it, and its ok for dad to not do it if not feeeling it is right, he will help out more when you ask him and teach him, but most kids can get the pee down around 2 with some accidents but poo takes more time, keep consistant and be there when you can if not its ok, they eventually all get it around age 4 , so give yourself a couple years and work with her as you can, enjoy life and be happy too you have a husband helping at all, D. s