Potty Training Resistance

I bought my daughter a potty chair when she was about 18 months and at first she liked sitting on it and getting stickers but the novelty wore off after a couple months and she didn't want to do it any more. She is now almost 2 1/2yr and now she is very interested. I put the potty where she can easily get to it by herself. I've also noticed that if I put her in pullups she would wet herself so she goes around with nothing on but a dress (it's easier for her to lift the dress up to go potty)and she's doing great. I hope this helps and good luck.

We used this method and it worked for both my older children.
But you have to be able to devote an entire day to nothing but potty training (not fun )... we bought a doll baby that pees for my kids. Then we brought the potty chair into the kitchen and we had a party. I pumped them full of juice and water all day. I put them in underpants. I had balloons and party hats and noise makers and I also got little prizes and candies...
Then I told them that we were going to help "the baby doll" (I let them name it, my daughters was Sally) we were going to help Sally learn to pee pee in the potty like a big girl. I put the doll on the potty and squeezed it so the "pee pee" came out and then we thru a huge celebration!! We clapped and congratulated Sally and told her what a big girl she was and that now she can wear big girl underpants. THen we put a pair of underpants on Sally. After a few minutes I made "sally" have an accident in her panties. I had my daughter tell Sally that it was not ok to pee pee in her panties and that panties were to stay dry. So after a few minutes of gently scolding Sally I asked my daughter to show Sally what she is supposed to do when she needs to go potty since she forgot....
We do this ALL DAY... Sometimes Sally goes to the bathroom, sometimes she messes up ... but I continued to have my daughter be the "good example" for Sally. Everytime my daughter went in the potty we again thru a huge party and made a big fuss over it and I gave her the treats and prizes...all the time keep pumping that juice so she'll have to go allot....
It sounds crazy.... but we read the technique in a potty training book and it has worked great with our kids. We plan on doing it again when our youngest is ready to be potty trained.
If nothing else, it may get her comfortable with using the potty and then she can gradually get better.
This is a hard thing to do..she'll get it.
Good Luck!

It sounds to me like your instinct is correct, she is under stress and it really is not a good time to be adding to that stress. I say let it go. When they are ready it is much easier.
My doctor told me not to confuse the issue with going back and forth between underwear sometimes/diapers other times. He said to wait until you feel she is really ready, and then just make the switch. It sounds to me like she's not ready. As for the pullups, I'm not a fan. It's diapers or underwear for me.
My daughter was pretty easy to train at first, and I just made the switch and let her run around on the linoleum without pants on for a couple days. She got the hint pretty quickly. She had frequent accidents until I started rewarding her (with a tic tac or yogurt raisin) each time she went, and then I said she had to go all day without an accident to get the reward. When I did that, she started having daily accidents again, like she'd refuse to go and then 5 min later have an accident--that was a little different issue so I dealt with it like disobedience because she had obviously regressed because she was angry that I withdrew the reward!
I think you have to know your child and trust yourself!
Blessings,
Lynn

Something a friend of mine did with her daughter was let her run around with no pants on (this was last summer when it was warm) and had her potty chair where she had easy access to it. within 3 days she was trained. there was a few messes at first to clean up.

i know my 4 year old when he was 3 i had the same trouble getting him trained. i pushed and he resisted, so i back off for a couple weeks, then started again. one day it clicked with him, and now he is trained excpet for nights. somethng i did with him was choose one thing he really liked (M&M's) and that was his reward. i didnt waver on it, and to this day, that is his special reward when he goes #2 (still have issues with him doing a BM)

i hope this helps :)

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time with potty training. I know what you are going threw though. I've potty trained my two kids plus a few of the kids I babysit also, so I've had the easy trainers and the VERY DIFFICULT. Since your daughter is almost 3 years old I would get rid of the pull-ups and diapers all together. With my daughter we had a your a big girl now day. I started out by not hiding all the diapers/pull-ups so she would not see them and told her we gave them to a baby since she didn't need them anymore. I set a timer for 30 minutes and every time it went off we would run to the potty and try to go. Every time she went she would get a piece of candy. I've got to say potty training is much harder the the parents then the child. Just be very consistant and don't give up.

My son was not trained until he was 3 1/2. We would try for a couple weeks, to no avail. Then go back later. We found out that we were moving & decided to wait until things settled down. I let him know every time I changed his diapers that I wasn't buying any more. He went into underpants. It took 3 days to get him to pee. Pooping took almost 3 months. For us, we found a treat that he really liked & values. There is something out there for your daughter, it could just take lots of time to find it. I had to remind him several different times, but he got it. Yours just may not be ready. It certainly isn't going to hurt to wait until after the move. It may seem like it is taking forever. But, she will get it. We are even at a point that my son won't pee/poop in his pull up. He does still wear one to bed, just in case. Lots of patience & time is the biggest key. Good luck

Hi,

I have had the same problem with my daughter, she's going to be 4 in July. I ended up telling her that she makes potty and poop and it is her responsibility to put it into the potty now that she's a big girl. Then she just wore big girl undies and I tried to keep her in dresses so if she got her undies wet, most likely the dress would be ok. This took a week or two, she'd wet her undies then stop, then want to go to the potty either because she didn't like the wet feeling or because she was learning the feelings connected with the pottying. SO, we had lots of undies.

She did great after she got the hang of it. But then here we are moving and she is going back to having accidents. She's ok sometimes, but I think the stress just gets to them. She's really worried that we're mad or disappointed when she had accidents, she doesn't mean to. I keep encouraging her because I know she can do it.

Also, my daughter was taking the move rather hard. I kept trying to get her excited about preschool and we'll have some neighbors her age, but then after a bit she didn't want that either. I found out, through other parents that are moving too, that she didn't know all her toy's, clothes, bed, whatever were going with us when we move. We talked about that and everything else we are taking with us and what is not going (the walls, the floor the bathtub) WOW what a difference. She's getting excited or ok with it now. We try not to talk much about who/what we are moving away from. We just say we are sad to leave, too, but we're excited about the new place and we will write/talk to/see our friends and neighbors. It's exciting to get mail. Anyway, that's helped us and our daughter. Hope that helps a little, good luck!

Don't push the issue, but you can try getting rid of the diapers all together for a while and see what happens just don't make plans to go anywhere because if she has an accident you'll want to be at home to handle it. alos, she will have accidents at first if you try this but then she'll realize that she gets all wet and might decided that it is easier to go on the potty than to have her clothes changed all the time. or you can just drop the issue and let her know that it's there if she wants to go. good luck

Even if you get her potty trained before the move, the stress of the move will probably cause her to revert back to having many accidents. I potty trained my son for over a year. Less than two weeks after giving up, he did it himself. He didn't potty train until after he was 3...actually it was more like 3 and half. I wouldn't worry about it at all! Good luck!

Well if she is not taking the move of your husband well, then the best thing is to wait till you two move w/ him and she gets used to the house.

I also had a VERY resistant daughter who did not want to go on the potty. She knew when she was peeing or pooping b/c she told me, but she didn't want anything to do w/ it. And, I was getting a LOT of slack b/c my niece who is 1 1/2 yrs older than my daughter was already going on the potty. About 3 weeks after she turned 3 (before I was going back to work from maternity leave) I decided that we needed to do it. I bought her one of those bucket potty chairs (we had one of those throne ones and she just looked too big for it and we had one for on the toilet and she sooned hated that) and as soon as I brought that home she tinkled, a VERY small amount, but she did it. And I think b/c she was so much older she got the hang of peeing of the potty in 3-4 days. Poop was a little tougher, she had one accident, but 5 days later (she did hold her poop in afte I took away the pull-ups) she POOPED. She had wanted an art easil so we told her once she pooped she could have it. That worked well I think. Also, b/c I waited till she was older she had better control of the muscles down there. I have had to clean less than 10 accidents up. My niece, who started when she was 1 1/2, has had countless accidents. She has done awesome, don't get me wrong, but she doesn't have the control down there kids do at 3. It might be a little annoying b/c you feel she should train (I know I did), but you'll have a LOT less headache if you go along w/ her time line! Good luck to you and her!!! =)