I have a 3 1/2 yr. old who just won't give up her diapers. She knows how to poop and pee on the toilet, she's done it. But still her diaper somehow manages to get full. Even if I put her on the toilet every hour. Well I just read, I should keep her naked. It worked!! She know goes on the toilet, everytime! BUT...as soon as we put pull ups or underwear on her... accidents left and right. I think having a naked 3yr. with me while doing my errands, is not an option, so now what do I do?
I think WE got it! Thank you for all your great advice. My naked daughter had an accident once in the kitchen, remembering what you guys said, I didn't make a HUGE deal about it. When we are home we get to see her cute little naked butt, but when we go out, I make her go to the bathroom first and put a "Cool sensation" pullup on. AND I reward for a dry pull up in the morning, and a dry pullup when we get home from shopping. So far so good, she runs to the bathroom like a pro now! Thanks so much. Now if I could just talk her out of wearing her bathing suit everywhere...
Try underware of something she really likes and say now you can't pee on Dora (or whatever thing you choose), because they wouldn't like it or it would make them sad, etc. It should work.
I'm not really into rewards so my suggestion isn't going to be rewards or praise based. First I want to tell you that the same thing was happening to my daughter when she was 3 and potty training. Fortunately for me, she went through the first part in the summer. She just was naked a lot. Instead of taking a naked child to the store, I would wait to go until someone else could stay with her. (Later on, as she bacame better at recognizing that she had to go, we started taking short trips.) If you know that your child can go to the potty and knows how, then stop putting pull ups on her (except at night...I'd still do it at night especially if she still wakes up with wet ones. That, too, is developmental and needs to be waited out). When fall hit and the colder weather started rolling in, I put her in her cloths. When she had an accident we treated it as just another thing in our day. (No punishment, no yelling or annoyed speach). It was a very friendly exchange, and a time to help her learn to get dressed herself (as she was changing so much anyhow...) I encouraged her to listen to her own body. I did not chase her around asking or demanding that she sit on the potty. Its her body and she gets to decide. When she does make it to the potty in time, validate her, but be careful with praise. (The idea should be to get her to use the potty on her own, not to use the potty as a way to gain your approval or get treats) Say things like "You did it!" or label what she actually did "You recognized (or noticed) that you had to go pee!" or "You got to the potty on time" That's all that is needed. With these comments, she sees that she has done what is expected and is allowed to feel proud of herself. Avoid negative comments at all times (like "Why can't you just use the potty" or "I wish you would just use the bathroom...it would make things so much easier for me") Negativity will do nothing but make her feel bad about herself and about pottying in general.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
My oldest son didn't potty train until he was almost 5. My daughter at 2 1/2. Sometimes the cloth rubbing on them will give them the urge to go and they go. This could be why she goes when she has pull-ups or clothes on. Try the pull-ups that have the cool sensation thing in them.
That was the funniest thing I read all day.
Did you try the exchange? Tell your little girlie that everytime she goes in the bathroom and pees.. or whathaveyou you will trade her a prize (lolli pop, 50 cent toy etc.. from the "prize bucket" if she trades you a nice dry diaper for it. Then stash the diaper and give her a freshie.. if it works you can switch back and forth from the same 2 diapers almost all day..
Also, go undie shopping maybe, get her really pretty girlie panties and give them to her as prizes once in awhile.
During the summer I had my daughter wear under wear and a top. There were times when she would remember, but to late and go in her under wear. And times she would remember and book it to the potty. When she did potty in her undies, she would want to be changed asap. When we started the training, I would take her every 20-30 min max. I would put pull ups on doing errands and I always put her on the car potty befor we went in to the store and after. She was 26 months when we started and was trained day and night by 2.5 yrs. It was a long summer and a lot of accidents but she did it.
Don't put a pull up on-and you might want to not use undies. Since she is a girl- a long dress or skirt my be a good transition-she can still feel that nothing is on her to hold the pee.
Good Luck
I know what you are going through I went through the samething with my son when he was your daughters age. He is now 6 years old. He would sometimes go pee on the potty butvsometimes not he was 3 years old and still not potty trained all the way. And at 4 years old he still wouldn't go to the bathroom.
Then a suggestion from a friend of mine I started makeing potty time fun for him I put up a sticker chart thatI let him put up a sticker everytime he went potty and two when he went poop when the chart was full I would take him to the store and he could get some thing he wanted. And everytime he went on the potty I would sing a song to him and dance corey went on the potty. He loved it. It really worked took awhile but it worked.
My son would also undress when he went to the potty I had to explain to him that he need to keep his closes on and when he is in the bathroom he only pull his pants down.
Remember she is only 3 years old have patience with her. But enforce the fack that she has to have cloths on.
Good luck with everything
I also had the naked kid for quite some time. I made a chart with small poster board and stickers...every "mission accomplished" potty trip got a sticker, every accident took one away. When the chart got full we went to McDonald's...it was 15 miles away and a big deal,lol.
Don't make the chart too big, I think ours had 30 or so squares on it, worked out to about once a week at McD's.
We only went throught the chart 2 or three times and we were done.
Did you try just putting pants and no diaper on her? She may just think she is supposed to go in the diaper. Are they pullups, or regular thick diapers? Maybe that would make a difference.
