Potty Trainning.

I would recommend this:
1) http://www.3daypottytraining.com/ Go to the site and buy the thing and follow the directions exactly. I am on day 5 with my 3 year old girl and it REALLY seems to be working. SHe will recommend that, since you've been trying to potty train him, you stop all potty training for a month and then do her method so that it's more of a clean slate. It really seems to be working for us.

Good luck

E..
I potty trained my son about 3 months ago using the 3-Day potty training method . It was recommended to me by a couple friends who had great success and I've recommended it to other friends with same success.
it does work.! In 3 days my son was accident free ..
It should actually be called 3-Day Potty Bootcamp because the premises to make it work are:.
1. No diapers.. AT ALL. never again.. no turn back.. once a big boy/girl always a big boy/girl.. so be prepared to get rid of all diapers
2. For 3 days you must not leave your child's side at all.. you should monitor him constantly for potty cues and have him initiate the "I have to go potty" process.
3. It's the child who says he has to go potty, not the parent.. Therefore instead of saying "time to go potty" and having a timer for the child, you ask him constantly if he has to go for him to understand that he has to listen to his body and decide when it's time... so NEVER say "lets go potty now".. instead, "tell mommy if you have to go potty ok"..
4. Lots of fluids and fiber to make him go more often.

It's tough and the first day I had 12 dirty undies.. I had messes all over, I caught poo mid way to the floor.. it was tiring.. 2nd day, we had only 2 accidents.. 3rd day, no accident at all.. and it's been like that since May..

You could check online for more info on the method. http://www.3daypottytraining.com

Good luck..

L.

Morning. I too have the same issue with my son, except we have been making exceptionally big steps they are just taking a really long time! My son has been peeing in the toliet since he was 3 and has never had an accident at night. However, at 4 1/2 years old I still can't get him to poop in the toliet. I have tried every suggestion given to me and I have come to accept that this is one thing that he has complete control over no matter how bad I beg, plead, offer treats, etc. Our family has gone through many transistion over the last year. When big things happen like, a seperation, moving, etc that kids do not have any control of they often begin to excert a strong will to control what they can. My son went from hiding in the house when he had to poop and never telling me when he had (he would be fine walking around with it in his underwear) to going outside and poop in his pants when he had to go - still not telling me he had pooped. He then started telling me that he was poopie. Which was a huge step. It does not matter how many times I would sit him on the toliet he would yell scream cry etc. Finally, just last weekend I asked him to tell me when he had to poop and that I wanted to go outside with him while he did it so I could see if sqwatted or stood up etc. I couldn't believe it when he actually told me that he had to poop and as much as I wanted to tell him that we needed to go sit on the toliet I had to refrain from doing so as I didn't want to discourage him from telling me that he had to go. So, I went outside with him, watched as he walked around for awhile and then he stood up straight and started pushing. I know that it seems that I am not being a good parent by allowing my son to do this outside, but I have accepted that i can not make him do it until he is ready and the steps that he has made from hiding to actually telling me he has to go are huge! I am still taking him into the bathroom to push and am still encouraging him to go into the bathroom rather than outside, but this will be something that happens at his own time, not mine no matter how bad I want it to be. His birthday is not until the end of Nov so he will not be starting school until next year. This gives him one more year to prepare for school emotionally and physically. I am relieved at this as I do not want to be dealing with the whole pooping in his pants issue while in school. Long story short don't get mad or frustrated with your son, keep it positive and encouraging and have patients and faith that when he is ready he will do it. It usally takes boys longer to potty train anyhow.

I would take it one day at a time right now. With a divorce and new baby you have a lot of things to juggle. Start with giving a reward and lots of praise for each successful attempt on the potty. Encourage him to sit on the potty once every hour and praise him for doing that even if nothing comes out. When something does come give him some reward (hug, kiss and an M&M worked for my son). The key to potty training is to make it fun and successful. Be as consistent as you can with taking him every hour for the first week then the next week let him go a little longer. Don't worry about the night time training until he's mastered the day time for 6 months. Good luck!!!! He will do it when he's ready and feels confident!

This may not be the best idea but has worked for my daughters and my neice. I would keep a container of licorice of tootsie rolls and let them pick one out every time they went potty. If there was an incident where they had to hold it for some reason til they got to a toilet I would up the ante. Just a thought, take care
Single mom of 3 1/2 and 14yr old girls

I am in the process of potty training my 3 year old and I also have a 18mth old, both boys. 3 years does not seem terribly late for a boy, I've heard boys not only take longer, but they start later than girls. I know for my son, he used to play on the potty, going sometimes, not others and than one day it clicked. We are now working on the night time staying dry, but are 100% during the day. I know it is also VERY difficult to put your all into the potty training when you are not only by yourself (I am home alone 99% of the time) and you have another child to care for.
Is there a treat your son REALLY enjoys? For my son, it's yogo's, he gets 5 if he goes BIG pee-pees, 2 if he goes little pee-pee's and 10 if he goes poo-poo. He ONLY gets them when that happens. It is to teh point now that he doesnt' ask for them at all, but in the begining, we went thru a LOT of yogo's ha ha. but they're small, so it's not even half a piece of regular candy.

good luck, it does happen when they're ready, give him some time.

Hello E.,
I so feel your frustration. I found out on my son's 2nd bday I was pregnant with #2. He had an instrest in the potty at 18 months. My hope was to have him out of pull ups by the time the baby came (2.5years old) My second son came 6 weeks early so I lost that time getting him on the potty full time. So much so I had to start over as he stopped showing any interest at all now with the new baby in the house now. ugh! I totally gave up all together for 6 months. My baby had acid reflux and was getting up a dozen times a night and my husband was on a plane every week to LA for 3-4 days. I had no help and i was exhausted/zombie. Once I got my house in order and baby on meds. We went back to potty training again when I was more awake. It was really hard. I started telling him, you are a big boy and you go potty on the toilet. Your baby brother is a baby and he goes in his diaper. I would also ask him. Ryan, where do you go potty? He would always say. I big boy, I go on the toilet. I explained to him why his little brother goes in his diaper and he on the toilet and I let him watch me clean up his baby brother's diapers.Making a big deal out of like it was dirty. I acutally cracked up a few times, when he said, EWWWW YUCKY, I don't do that. when I showed him the soiled diaper from his little brother he didn't like it. I made the potty an important part of his daily routine and he liked that. We also used a reward system. I started giving him little choc. chips. 1 for pee 2 for poop. 3 if he goes on his own. It really worked. He is 3.5yrs old now and is doing great. I never had a problem with night time. Phew!!!! I always make him go potty right before he climbs into bed and right when he gets up. Make him feel important reminding him he is the big brother, big boy does fun things that his little brother can't do. I even tell him at dinner time when my second son was 6months old because he is a very picky eater. I would say. Logan can't eat the big boy foods like you because he doesn't have enough teeth like you do. etc. However, the baby would eye all the food on big brother's plate at 5 months old. my hulk.

Hang in there.

SAHM. 40 yrs old with 2 funny little boys. 3.5yrs old & 13 months.(walking before 8 months) They move at the speed of light. I love it.

My little guy was not potty trained until he was 3.5 years old...and the first day I tried was an abysmal failure! So I went back to diapers because I knew I was doing something wrong...here's the thing, not only is he learning a new trick, YOU are learning how to teach him this new trick. So there's a learning curve for you too.

My mom passed away and my daughter came along in the same month when he was just over 3...and I knew that was NOT the right time to start...so we waited a few more months. People can be judgemental. I had a daycare person tell me "my children were potty trained at 2" and then proceed to be judgemental of my son--he lasted in her location for about 4 days and he still brings up how painful it was being there. They get that people disapprove...you're his mommy. Don't stress, no one ever started Jr High in diapers...he'll get there. He's ONLY 3. Some kids walk at 11 months, and some at 19 months. We don't judge them to be anything...your son will get there. Your life is challenging right now. Be gentle with yourself and your son. It's OK that he's not ready. Like one mom said, it's one thing they can COMPLETELY control...and there's so little they are in charge of at this age. So just love him and don't worry. It'll happen.
blessing
P.

Hi E.!
This usually works... get a very small vase (from Target, or somewhere like that), stick your son's name on the side of the vase with those puffy stickers. Buy a container of those decorative beads that you sometimes see inside vases with flowers (they look like little glass rocks, and usually come in different colors). Every time that your son uses the potty, tell him he gets to put a potty bead into his special vase. Have a "treasure chest" (I use a large gift box) on hand with stuff you can buy at a dollar store, and each time he gets three beads in the jar, he can choose something from the treasure chest. When the jar is full, you can take him somewhere fun like Chuck-e-Cheese. :-) Good luck!

http://www.3daypottytraining.com/

I swear by this.

Hi E.~

I can totally relate. My little guys was 3 1/2 when he finally got potty trained. My husband and I are teachers, so the day after school got out for the summer we told him, "no more diapers". I made a potty chart and let him pick out stickers. Everytime he tried, he got to put a sticker on the chart. We let him pick out a special toy that he would get when the chart was all filled up. I also went to the dollar store and got a bunch of little prizes and put them where he could see them. Everytime he successfully went on the toilet, he got to pick one out. I know it is a lot of bribery, but by the end of the first week of summer break, he was done! He has an accident from time to time, mainly when he is too busy playing, but other than that he is doing great. Good luck, and try not to let him see your frustration. It will only stress him out. Remember that you aren't alone, and a lot of times boys just take longer. Keep in mind that the new baby and the separation may interfere with your efforts though! Hugs!

It is not uncommon for boys to take until 4 (at least) to toilet train. Be patient; don't make it a power struggle - he will win. Get him some books, like "Everybody Poops" or "Once Upon a Potty". There shouldn't be any tears involved. Good luck

A little about me: Mother of a 19 yo boy, who was 4.5 when he learned and a 12 yo girl who was 3.