My son is going to be 3 in April, and has never shown much interest in sitting on the potty. This past week however, he has decided he no longer wants to wear his diaper. I will find him in his room with the door clothes taking it off and putting his clothes back on. The biggest problem with this is that he still refuses to sit on the potty, and instead goes in his pants. Can anyone relate or give any suggestions???
Hi K., my daughter will be 3 in April, and she too shows no signs of interest in potty training. She knows what "stink-stink" is and "pee-pee" is, but she does nothing on the potty but sit there. I've tried the mental route. I consistently talk to her about being a big girl and doing her "stuff" on the toilet like mommy and daddy every time I change her. NOthing has happened yet, but we'll see, hopefully.
L.
Hi, My son is exactly the same age (3 on Apr. 27th) and I have also been having some issues with him being a little terror! =)
It's funny bec. he was such a perfect baby... until about 6 months ago! But he is awsome anyway, just strong willed. Anyway, the potty traning issue had been hard with us too. My son previously would rather go in his pants than anywhere else. Now I have him on the potty on a set scedule every day: after naps,food, playtime, and especially have been monitering when and how much he drinks. I put him on the potty 30 min. or so after he drinks. He never wanted to go on the potty, but I just have to be stern with him. I don't force him, but I tell him very clearly: FIRST potty, THEN you can go play. But you cannot play UNTIL you potty first. By stern I mean straight face, intent on this being how it is. I definately do not yell or anything, I just make it clear that these are the rules and it is important that he listens. When he extremely resists, I give him a choice of potty or back for a nap. (which sounds harsh, but he would rather ANYTHING than to go back to nap, and it works. We never had to put him for a nap, he always listened after that) I say that only when he is screaming and extremely resists the potty. Which funny enough, usually is right after he had a nap. You may choose to not do that and instead tell him that a favorite toy or movie is off limits for the day is he chooses not to sit on the potty and try. Remind him to try for only 5 min. and if he doesn't have to go he can get up. I know it might sound tough, but when you have a strong willed child like my son, sometimes they resist just to test and see what they can get away with/ and/ or they genuinely are reluctant to put the effort in. After all, it's not exactly fun. Picking up a potty book that illustrates a child using the potty might help too. My son now with our method will sit 90% of the time and goes sucessfully without any resistance at all. I had to remind him of the rules for about a week or two, but then he got used to the new scedule. I just have to still remind him when to sit. We are working on him knowing when to go himself. I hope I was a little helpful to you =)
Unfortunately boys are slow to go to the bathroom. My son was almost 4 before he went to the bathroom on his own and had to do pull-up for about a year. His daycare was a God-send and worked with me to potty train him. I think for kids when they see other children "using the potty" they are encouraged to do the same. Just like as school my son would eat everything on his plate, veggies included at home I have to fight with him to eat. It's a slow gruling process for us "the mom" but boys take time for EVERYTHING!!! Haven we learned that from out spouses? lol
Also try potty books, I had about 4 i read to my son every night. We also did "potty parties". Everytime he made "pee pee in the potty" we we jump around in the bathroom or whereever I had the potty (WHICH DOES NOT HAVE TO BE CONFINED TO THE BATHROOM) I learned that through my YAle Child development training. I thought it should be in the batheroom but I would sit him on his potty in forn of the tv or the kitchen when i was cooking so that I could keep an eye on him and do our celebatory dance when he did "make pee pee".
Good Luck to you, I hope I helped ease your frustration. But bear with him, he'll get it!
my son was something like that. If you can sense that he knows when he wants to go but just isnt get him the pull ups - and well this may sound harsh but it worked for me - I told him I wouldnt change his diapers anymore. I gave him a sponge and baby soap and a little stool. Whenever he went on himself he had to clean, both his clothes (yes you have to rewash them but dont let him see) and anything he wet because he went on himself (furniture, floor, whatever). He was at a sitter and she co-operated also and he had to clean at her house too. 2 weeks later, he potty trained himself.
good luck
D.
Hi! My name is Y.. I have a 3yr son and I'm working on potty training him too. It's a long process. I've been taking him to the bathroom every two hours or sooner if he had a lot to drink. I ocassionally ask him and of course the answer is always NO or NOT YET. But I still take him anyway. As for his number 2, he always tells me now that he needs to go. Remembering back, I notice if he farted a lot then he is ready to go. I would put him right on the toilet. My son can really hold both of them in. I know bc he can count how many streams he can create as he is going. I use stickers of his favorite tv characters as well. One for #1. Two for #2. And if he fulls up the whole sheet then he gets to pick a prize. So far so good. All of my friends that have boys says to me that I need to be patience. When they are ready, they will let you know and it could be a surprise.
I hope this help. Good Luck! Just hang in there!
My son was two weeks before his four birthday. We used marbles in a glass jar. It he went pee he got one if he pooped he got two. If he went in his pants he got a marble taken away. At the end of the week if he had all his marbles I took him to the store and let him pick out something small that he wanted. It worked great. At the end of the month if he didn't get any taken from him he got to pick something big or go out to lunch. Good Luck
Jenn
send him into the bathroom with his daddy. have him show him how a big boy goes potty. my son is thrilled cause his daddy is teaching him how big boys go. although he doesn't quite get it he really wants to figure it out. good luck.
Hi K.,
My son really enjoyed my "potty games" I put Cheerios in the toilet as targets,put food coloring in the water,taped a picture to the inside of the lid. ........you guys will work it out in your own time i'm sure,you don't see many adults still in them! Summertime makes everything easier too. good luck!
M. P
OMG!!! I have a similar problem my son was going on the potty until we sent him to school in underwear. For some reason now he refuses to use the potty and he keeps taking off his diapers. He will be 3 next week and I am very worried. So if anyone has any ideas ???
Hi K.,
I'm a stay home mom of 3. I had similar trouble with my son when he was a little over 2 yrs. Have you tried purchasing regular underwear for him? Maybe take him to the store and let him pick out ones with his favorite character on them. Thats what we did with our son. He was real excited about them. It did take a few days with accidents (mostly with #2), but he was potty trained really quickly after that.
Good luck! I hope you find a solution that works well for you and your son. :)
J.
Hi K........My name is S.......When I was trying to potty train my son he didnt want to use it either I tried everything ...untill finally after every meal I would put his potty in the livingroom infront of the t.v. & leave him there until he went.........He wouldnt move bc of course he was watching t.v. but it worked..I dont know if this will work for u but its worth a shot....good luck
It sounds like he's beginning to show interest in growing up. I'd go along with it and if he wets himself, help him get changed and show him where the potty is. If he's afraid to go on the big potty, provide one that is low to the floor; that's portable. Like for example, http://www.theecstore.com/index.php?main_page=product_inf... It's a picture of the Baby Bjorn Potty. I love this one for boys, because of the front built in sheild. Also a good place for info is http://www.WhatisEC.com/ One thing to keep in mind, is that toddlers are little people and to not pressure them to use the potty. Doing that can make their potty learning not go well. But just offer the potty and be a source of help. My 3 year old has been using the potty for a long time now. He was EC'd though (see the link what is ec above). He will be 4 in April though.
take care!
Holly
