Pregnancy and Crying

I have hyperthyroidism and am 17 weeks. My thyroid doctor just got back from a conference and said that vitamin D deficiency has just been linked to several problems in pregnancy including preeclampsia and diabetes. It is also linked with mood changes and anxiety. He put me on 4000 a day plus my prenatal vitamin. It really helps. I feel a lot better since I have been taking the extra vitamin D. I hope this helps and good luck with everything.

Talk to your doctor ASAP. Ask for a depression screening. Both pregnancy and thyroid problems contribute to chemical imbalance. Exercise helps bring balance but may be tough with pregnancy and a house full of children. Get help before the baby comes and keep them monitoring you after the baby's birth when post partum depression is very common. It is treatable. It is manangable. It is chemical. Untreated it is miserable.

I was really weepy and EXTREMELY tired with both of my pregnancies. I mean tired to the point of barely being able to drag myself around for the whole time -not just the 1st trimester. It could have something to do with your thyroid, but I just felt awful the whole time and everything made me cry, and that's just the way it was. I know plenty of women in their 20s who have felt terrible and tired too, but I think maybe I felt SO tired because I was 36 the first time and 38 the second time. Not sure how old you are, but that could be a factor. Good luck with everything, and just keep in mind that this WILL definitely pass!

I completely understand. I hope that my answer will give you comfort in this time. I believe that you need more rest. Please reach out to your family and friends to step up and help with the other children. Let your husband know that you are not feeling your best and need him to step up too. As woman we want to believe that we can do it all but sometimes even we need help.

My gosh! Go back and read all you have on your plate, I would say you have a reason for feeling the way you do, even if you didn't have hypothyroidism or were pregnant. If everyone isn't helping you out in your household then you need a family meeting to get everyone on track. Dad needs to be the one to get the ball rolling. If he doesn't, then have a little pow wow with him and help him to understand that things need to change pretty quick, you are falling apart in case he hadn't taken the time to notice anything except the crying. If someone else has to cook the meals for a bit, then assign them to it, or do their "own" laundry. Delegate delegate delegate until you are doing better and even then they can still do their part. As long as they are human they can work to help you with the household stuff. Once everyone is helping out and not adding to the problem then things should get better for you. Make sure you get enough rest, no matter what.
Now, go put your feet up and take a break. "If mom ain't happy then nobody's happy" is very true. With some of the load off you, there can be more "happy" in the house.
I wish you the very best, and admire such a superwoman, but that superwoman needs to take time for herself. Find you a close friend and cry your eyes out until you get some of this stress relieved.

Tons of Love and Understanding,
G.

WOW... you have a lot going on! I am sure your thyroid meds are probably off, pregnancy changes everything. Also, I know you probably hate hearing this, I know I hated hearing this myself, but... you are 35 now and it really does make a difference! I was 30 with my first and 36 with my second and the difference in my pregnancies were like night and day! 1st one, didn't show until 5 months, 2nd one showed at 6 weeks! - 1st one, slept great, felt great, lots of energy, just wonderful! 2nd one, couldn't sleep after 9 weeks, tired all the time, achy everywhere, sciatic nerve issues and EMOTIONAL... and I only had ONE other child to care for and wasn't working! Give yourself a break... literally! Take a break and take care of yourself! You have lots of people in your life that can help you! There are 5 of them living in your home that can help you!!

Yes, I have experienced that just the other week. I too have hypothyroidism and I am 33 years old and 17 weeks pregnant. I had my thyroid checked and it was very elivated so they changed my prescription and I feel 100% better. No more sadness and erractic emotions. My husband noticed the difference immediately.

The fact that your emotions are strong enough to make you question if they are normal, I stongly suggest you talk with your OB regarding depression. A lot of times we blow off the emotions as being due to the pregnancy, but in some cases it is more than that and if unchecked, develops into post-partum depression. I'm not saying you have depression or need medication, but you should take what's happening seriously and consult your physician. She may have suggestions on how to cope with this that may or may not include medication. You do have a lot on your plate and some of this may be due to your thyroid condition. I wish you luck!

Sounds like simple stress to me...you are working, attending online college, dealing with the dynamics of a blended family, caring for 4 children (at least some of the time)which entails meals, laundry, school work, extra curricular activities, not to mention 3 of them are teenagers, AND you are pregnant!!! Have you thought about not working or maybe taking a break from college until this little one growing inside of you is at least a yr old??

I would recommend slowing down a bit. You are pregnant and that does take a toll on your body.

SAHM of 3 - ages 6, 3 and 16 months.

I know how you feel too. The only thing that I can suggest is taking as much B-12 or folic acid as is allowed. It is a natural mood booster and I've heard a deficiency in it can cause depression. Check on some holistic/healthy websites to see what the recommended dosage is because most prenatal vitamins don't have enough in it. I hope this helps!

Hi D.,

I understand completely! Honestly, I know more now than I did when I was pregnant. Additional nutrition will help a lot because you are losing pretty much all of it to the baby now. Most prenatals don't even absorb properly, even prescription ones, and some do more damage than good. Your thyroid meds may be adding to the problem as well.

I can recommend a superior prenatal if you're interested. Let me know. God bless and congratulations!

M.

Hi D.,
Wow, just those few words about your life and i can tell you i'd be crying too - you have mucho stress on you - despite the joy of a new baby coming -- you MUST delegate and cut back on stuff if you can - for the health of the baby....wow, blended family, teenagers (my boys' ages), working, college - can you put some of it off for a while? you need sleep, sunshine, spa... are you taking good prenatal vitamins? (oh my god i sound like a mother) can you get a little walk in with some sunshine? you are smart to write about it because writing is very therapeutic - have you ever blogged? it's really fun - I just got my sister into it and she has been through a lot - view her blog for a good laugh if you want - it's serendipit-US1 I think or you can get to it through mine which is easier to spell - savannahgourmet.blogspot.com
Hang tough, eat well, and good luck!!!!
K.