Pregnancy Anxiet

I don't think you are being hormonal. You have a lot on your plate.
I'm sure pregnancy doesn't help.
You have a lot going on here so I will try to assist in asnwering each item.
First, you're pregnant & have a toddler so get your rest when you can.
Worry is part of any life but try not to worry too much. Take action when
you can: talking to your partner, saving $, not spending frivolously, etc.
I understand you not wanting him to take this course now....you needed
help w/your toddler. Sounds like he's been in school awhile. What about getting his help w/you have your newborn. Will you be getting that?
Will he be at home or in school?
Do you have family nearby you that can help you?
If so, ask for their help now w/your toddler but esp when the baby comes.
In light of what you said about 10 years down the line he might tell you
he didn't come out ahead in life b/c you held him back....my dad made
a few "not-so-great" decisions but worked hard his whole life. Did he
listen to my mom? No but they always struggled & did ok. Still it was
sometimes a bone of contention. It's hard to live that way but if he's a
good dad.....well it's not that bad & you can work through it.
Some things to consider:
If he's a good dad/husb, you can work on things. It could be worse. Are
you still right to worry? Yes, you have 1 kid & 1 on the way.
Second, now is not the time to start a new business. See if you can get
a relative or friend to talk to him about this. someone who feels the way
you do. I second the taking the job nearby. Would he be quitting a good
job now? That's a factor but it doesn't sound like it.
You're not just being hormonal.
Put $ away when you can.
What I don't like about the opening of his own business, also, is that you
will have to work more putting your kids in daycare.
Try appealing to his senses. Like, "wow that sounds great honey. I'll help you research. Oh look, I found this article about how it's not a good
idea to start up a biz right now due to the failing economy. Several long
term businesses have had to close their doors." Etc.
Be calm and come out it from another way.
Good luck.

Honestly, I think you have a valid reason to feeling a little anxious. That being said, I think it is probably being amplified drastically by being pregnant.
I have a similar story, and I started to type it out, but it's quite long, so I went against it. If you want to hear it you can message me and I will type the whole thing out for you. ;)
Honestly if he is talking about moving before you have your baby, you would want to have a very frank discussion about how hard it is to move mid pregnancy and to find new people to deal with for having your baby. If you are using a midwife, depending on how far you would move, you would have to find a new one, if you are using an OB it is even harder to switch mid pregnancy. If he is talking about moving after the kids are born, you might want to talk about what the different areas are like for raising families. It is also really difficult to adjust to a new area. I had a really hard time at first when we moved. I went from somewhere I knew and loved to somewhere that I knew nothing about. I love it now, but there is a tough adjustment period.

All that said, after the baby is born and things calm down from that, everything will seem a bit clearer.
Best Wishes!

Hey SP

Congrats on baby #2.

Can you 'translate' your hubbys actions? or reframe them, so to speak?

Right now your perception of everything he does is "negative". So, turn it around. Instead of wishing he hadn't taken the course - think "He wants to make sure he is educated so he can provide for us"
"See" the comment about warmer climate as your husband trying to take care of you and get you somewhere more comfortable, while not spending extra money to paint the house.

It's hard to give someone else the benefit of the doubt when we are feeling overwhelmed and like they don't consider you a priority. But maybe if you try to give him the benefit of the doubt you will feel less like you are doing it all alone.

Good Luck

Actually, it sounds like not only you are anxious, but your husband may be anxious as well. Maybe you need to ask him point-blank if he is freaked about having another baby to care for. I know, ladies, we carry most of the burden, but I know so many fathers at the moment who are having some very real depression about being overwhelmed with having a family to care for. My own husband, who is an awesome dad and husband, had his fair share of anxiety after our twins were born (putting our children total at three!). And he was not the only father at all that I knew going through this after the second was born or conceived even. Please don't think I'm disregarding your feelings at all, by the way. It's totally normal to be anxious about having another child. It's already super hard to care for one kid and now you're going to throw two in the mix (which is, by the way, easier than you think so not to worry you!). But yes, with all the unknowns in your life, I'd be freaking out at the moment if I were you, too! I just had my own freak out because my husband was looking for new jobs and I've been wanting to move for so long and asking him to move for so long and then he got a verbal offer, but it took them two weeks to send the formal, written offer. I was a bundle of nerves the entire time! And now that we're finally moving, well now I'm anxious about starting everything again in a new place with three young boys to take care of by myself because no doubt my husband is going to have to work long hours at first to impress. (God, what have I done? haha). But we've been needing this change, so forge ahead, I say!
But I digress... Getting back to you, I think maybe it would help to talk to someone - your family doctor, your obstetrician, whomever. Perhaps that person could recommend resources for your husband to work through his "finding himself" and for you to work through your feelings of anxiety. He seems to be in a bit of denial that you are parents now and soon to be parents of two. This is a bit what my husband was like after the twins were born. He kept planning these crazy outings as if we had just the one child and when it became disasterous and all the kids were crying, and I was upset, well, he would get mad and wonder why we couldn't pull it off. It took him a long time to realize that we had to change the way we did things now that we have three children. It sounds crazy, but really your whole life changes when you start a family and for some people it takes longer to adjust than others. Anyway, I really hope you work through all of this before baby #2 comes along. I had all those same feelings, by the way, and they are very real. So talk to your doctor about them for sure. Congrats and good luck!

*HUG*

oh those damn hormones!

Relax in knowing that everything will fall into place and what is meant to happen will indeed happen.
We had baby #2 last year and we never could have predicted how it changed our lives.
Enjoy the pregnancy, pamper yourself and try to put the stress aside (easier said than done)...trust that it will all work out just fine.