Pregnancy over 35? - Spring,TX

Updated on February 01, 2011
A.M. asks from Spring, TX
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Hi, my question is....I turned 35 this past October so I am 35 and 3 months. I have heard it becomes more difficult to get pregnant over 35. If it happens, this will be my 2nd pregnancy (first at age 32). Anyway, just interested in some feedback as to how long it usually takes (if indeed it takes longer) I know it is always different for every one. Thank you!

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D.K.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I got pregnant with my only at 39-1/2 - after less than 2 weeks of trying. My sister was 34 with her first, it took her almost 2 years. Her second was conceived 6 weeks after her first was born. You never know.

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J.B.

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I got pregnant within one month of trying at age 35 and then again within two months of trying at age 38! My grandmother had my mother at age 43. It really does depend on the individual, but unless you have some type of condition, it shouldn't be a problem.

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L.M.

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Everyone is different. I got pregnant last Jan after having an ovary removed in Nov. I was 37. I did not expect it to happen that quickly! But, I am thrilled it did!

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D.P.

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I got pregnant very quickly--at 39. :D

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M.C.

answers from Dallas on

I delivered my third one at 41. Our surprise baby! It was just like the others. this time i didn't gain 75lbs with the first and 50 with the second. I became wise! LOL!
Your blessed!

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L.W.

answers from Indianapolis on

I really think it depends on your health....My first at the age of 37, second at 39 and my surprise at 41 1/2. I had been on the pill for over 15 years, stopped it in Dec. was pregnant by march....I guess every situation is different...Your energy level is not what is was at 25, oh well ! Now at the ripe old age of 51, having a 10, 12, and 14 year old keeps you going....no time to feel old....

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D.M.

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E.B.

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First at 26 after 3 years of trying, clomid, etc. Second after a miscarriage and about 9 months of trying at 39. I swear we didn't even have sex with the third one-I just went to the dr and said "we're thinking about a third" and came home pregnant. She was born when I was 42. So for me it got easier as time went on!
Also, first baby came in about 3 hours after my first contraction. Second one took six hours to deliver. Third one took two inducements a week apart!
I think the major thing for me was relaxing. With the first I got pregnant once I decided to take a few months off and travel. I had decided that if we never got pregnant then we would move in town and just have a different life. With the second, the doctor told me I wasn't ovulating at all and I should take a month off and consider in-vitro after the first of the year. I got pregnant exactly two weeks after that conversation. And the third-well, guess I was just too busy with the other two to stress over it.
All three are healthy teenagers now.

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L.A.

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I was 31 with my 1st, 35 with my second and 42 when I had my 3rd. Everyone is different, of course, but it took me almost exactly a year to conceive with all 3. It seems like, when I was about to give up (and relaxed about it), I conceived! Best wishes to you :)

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M.H.

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I'm 39 and pregnant with my first child. We got pregnant on the first try. Because of my age, I was worried that it would take a long time, or wouldn't happen at all. Also, because of my age, I have opted for a few extra tests to give us a general idea of the health of the baby. Ultrasounds, amniocentesis and a nuchal translucency test are all indicating that the baby is doing well. While these tests can't detect every potential problem, I feel more assured that I have the same likelihood of delivering a baby just as healthy as a woman less than 35.

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C.S.

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I think it depends. I have endometrioisis, thought getting preg would be hard and when I was 35 it took 3 mo and when I was 38 it took 1 month! If you have already had a baby my guess is it won't be to hard.

Knowing when you are ovulating was key for us.

After 35 you will be considered a 'high risk' preg because of your age.

Good luck!

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M.R.

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I had baby #1 when I was 28. All I remember in my 20's is trying NOT to get pregnant.

Baby #2 when I was 39...after a divorce, remarriage and then a couple of miscarriages. That seemed to take 'forever' and I was loosing hope of having a baby with this marriage.

Then Baby #3, when I was almost 42. The conception happened right when we wanted. Pregnancy was completely normal with no complications, but I am also healthy and active and don't smoke or drink.

At 50 I still have not started menopause and could easily get pregnant again. I'm just a healthy, fecund type of woman. There are so many factors that play into a couples fertility: lifestyle, genetics, health of both partners, etc.

I am not aware of it being more difficult to get pregnant over 35 as is the risk factors increase for other issues. You would now be considered at the 'advanced maternal age.' So high blood pressure and gestational diabetes might become issues. Then a women's eggs are older so the incidence of other issues increase, like mental retardation.

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L.W.

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Well, I had my first two at ages 28 and 30, and we thought we were "done". We were using timing (not great BC!), and were surprised with pregnancy #3 when I was 37. Then thought we were done, and I got pregnant with #4 while using birth control (condom / spermicide) at age 39. So it was actually easier for us to get pregnant after 35 than before. (With the first one, I got off of the pill and it took 6 months to get pregnant.)

Good luck!

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J.P.

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My first pregnancy was also at age 32, and we conceived immediately after going off of birth control. My second pregnancy was at age 35, and we conceived on our first try. I planned the second one though by taking my basal temperature and charting it for a full month before we wanted to get pregnant. It really worked for both me and for a friend who'd been trying to conceive for several months. We both started charting our temps at the same time and did it for a month, and we both got pregnant within a week of each other.

BTW, I'd always been told that conceiving would take awhile if you were older and if you'd been on birth control for a long time, both of which applied to me. That turned out not to be true for me. Hopefully you'll have success quickly as well.

Good luck to you!

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T.H.

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I got pregnant at 30, 34, 36, 38, and 40 LOL. I consider myself fertile Myrtle though. The first time, I got pregnant 1 month after stopping birth control pills. Same with the second time. Thereafter, when my babies slowed their nursing down, at about 18-24 mos, I got pregnant again. I love the 2 yr spacing my kids have. And, as I said before, it was not difficult to conceive. Everyone is different though, but just give it a try and see what happens. On another note, I know you have probably read that older eggs 'may' produce Down's babies, but we have 5 healthy children. Good luck!

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A.R.

answers from St. Louis on

Hi there,
I got pregnant with my first baby at 36 and with my second at 42. The first time I got pregnant easily and with my second one took a little bit more, but not as much I thought it going to be. The second pregnancy was more difficult the last trimester, and I had preeclampsia. However, it doesn't have to be that way. I have met other moms who got pregnant faster than me and their pregnancy was excellent. Every person, every woman is very different from others. I just suggest you if you decide to get pregnant take very good care of yourself and have an excellent ob/gyn. Follow every instructions and eat healthy all the time before, during and after.
Take care,

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C.T.

answers from Santa Fe on

It took me longer. My first pregnancy was at age 32. My second was at age 38. We started trying to get pregnant when I was 36! I was about to give up and say, forget it! one kid is fine! Then suddenly I got pregnant. Part of the reason it took so long is my husband travels about once a month for work, but still! It took almost 2 years! Maybe we are not very fertile. ;) Good luck to you - I hope it goes smoothly.

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M.H.

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Birth control in the past could slow conception (especially the pill). Other issues are simply your health. Stress slows everything down so, so don't worry about ANYTHING~...I had my first child at 32 and my second at 35..... :)

M.

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T.L.

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I got pregnant with my first at 32, but had a miscarriage at 6 weeks along then got pregnant shortly after and had my daughter at 33. Got pregnant with no problems at age 35 (we started trying and it happened very quickly, like within a month or two) and had my second daughter at age 36. Both my pregnancies were easy, but my second when I was 35/36 went even better than the first. Good luck to you, our ages coincide :)

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M.H.

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I stopped taking birth control and was pregnant 2 months later at age 39.

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J.R.

answers from Houston on

I had three girls in my mid-to-late thirties - at 33, 35 and 37. The first one was conceived after one cycle. The second two took about 7-9 months to conceive. I am now 40, and surprise! expecting my 4th child. I think age does play some part, depending on your health, but I also think anxiety about conceiving plays into it too. It's easy to say not to stress about it, but can be hard to do. Hopefully you have a supportive family and doctor that will give you good feedback. My current OB even said I could get a couple more in if I wanted by the time I was 45 ;) Probably not, but nice to have the support. Good luck!!

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T.B.

answers from Houston on

Everyone is different. My husband and I tried on and off for over five years to get pregnant. Then it happened unexpectedly right before I turned 35 with my first. We didn't want to wait too long because of my age and I got preganant the second month we started trying, a couple weeks before my 37th birthday. I am due in 4 weeks with what we expect to be a perfectly healthly little boy. My 2 cents is don't stress about it, you know your body better than anyone! Good Luck!

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J.B.

answers from Dallas on

I was pregnant first try with both my girls. Over 35 both times. Good luck!

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J.L.

answers from Chicago on

I know we are all different...but all three of mine literally were one hit wonders LOL....1st at 33, and third at 37.....If you are in good health and have no known issues you should have no problem. Good luck and Best wishes.

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R.L.

answers from Houston on

I agree everyone is different. My manager had a baby this past year after trying for a long time they finally did IVF. She's 37. I'm currently 36 and 7 mos along, and I had the fortunate experience of getting pregnant without trying at all. (SURPRISE!) I know lots of woman who had trouble getting started, but then had a second baby no problem. So I wonder if it matters whether it's a first or second.

I know most OB's will say not to worry until you have been trying at least 6 mos to 1 year. I would suggest to pay attention to your cycle and look up some info on natural family planning. Knowing when you ovulate and doing the baby dance on your fertile days will definitely increase your chances!

Good luck!

T.K.

answers from Dallas on

I had 2 of my babies in my late 30s. No trouble getting pregnant. Easy pregnancies and quick labor with both. The worst thing about it was all the added anxiety. I had to go to a "high risk dr" for my high risk pregnancies. There were lots of extra tests and more dr visits than in my 20ies. SO many people told me how I had a higher risk of this and the babies had a higher risk of that and then of course I had the "OMG I'm going to be 56 when she graduates high school!" freak out. Everything worked out fine and danady and instead of my kids making me feel old, they are keeping young. Good luck to you and yours.

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J.L.

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