Pregnant and Confused

Hi, Damaria. Honey, don't let your emotions get in the way of your thinking right now. If you KNOW that you conceived before you separated from your husband, then it's almost impossible for you to be pregnant with someone else. Once you have conceived, your body is not interested in becoming pregnant again, and so you are not going to be able to be pregnant on top of being pregnant. It's pretty much impossible (although there was a weird thing on the news recently).

Believe the ultrasound and your own calendar that you keep about your periods. Your body is able to conceive usually only during a 1-wk time frame each month, depending on when you ovulate (produce an egg); usually, you can only ovulate once. Once the egg becomes fertilized, the body goes into pregnancy mode, and is only interested in taking care of the developing baby.

You should have nothing to worry about, if your dates are correct and if what you want is for your husband to be the father of your child.

If you are not correct about the dates and whom you were with, however, then only a DNA test once the baby is born will be able to tell you for sure. If your dates are correct, then the baby has to be your husband's.

The development of the baby at this stage is different than at later stages. The embryo and very young fetus grows through certain definite stages at a well-defined pace; so it's easier to tell at this stage how far along the baby is than at later stages in pregnancy, because after you're 4 months pregnant, babies can grow at different rates depending on how healthy the mother is.

So take a deep breath. Ultrasound tests are accurate.

Peace,
Syl

For your well-being and the well-being of the child, let go of any fear about the issue. If it did turn out to be the other guy's you'll deal with that later in whatever way seems best. For now maintain a feeling of love for the child and for yourself... don't judge yourself over anything you've done or anything that happened. Whatever the case is with the father, this is meant to be your child for you to bring into the world with love and joy and compassion. If you maintain fear about things, the soul of the child/fetus picks up on that emotional energy and can be harmed by it. That child deserves to experience love rather than fear just as you do! You can have genetic testing later and decide if you want the men involved to both know about it should the child turn out not to be your husband's. There's nothing to fear or feel guilty about - Life Happens and we deal with things the best we can.

The law supports the fact that you were and are still married. Unless your husband questions paternity he is legally and financially obligated to care for the baby regardless of whether it is his or not. If anyone questions it, you can do a simple paternity test. If the other guy wants to be the father, he would have to fight and contest paternity against your husband. By all views I would suggest you consider it your husband's baby unless you really believe it isn't and he wants to fight against paternity. Good luck!

It goes by your last period and is confusing so talk to your doctor and they can help you.

define "some type of sexual contact".....if at any point it was possible that his semen came in contact with your vagina, then it is possible the baby is his, but it would be impossible to tell without a paternity test. If you and your husband are happily together and he is accepting the baby as his own, the easiest (and cheapest) thing to do is to just assume it is his and say nothing about any other possibility! If, however, you are tormented by guilt and need to be honest with everyone, go ahead and confess to both guys and your doctor that you have no idea who is the father. Be aware that there may be consequences either way. If you don't tell your husband and he finds out later, he may feel hurt, betrayed, and unable to trust or forgive you. At this point it is more of an emotional issue than a physical one.

Go talk to your doctor, and tell the doctor what you wrote here, and get the doctor's best input.

Then check out ChildrensBehaviorHelp.com- I know those peolpe do more than just children- and can help sort you out before the baby arrives- the baby deserves a stable place to arrive- so you have some work to do in the next 7 1/2 months- get busy- you can do it.
best, k

Well, that's up to you..Do you have deep feelings for this other person. If no, and it was just a fling, as long as the baby looks passable as your husbands, I wouldn't say anything to absolutely anyone.

Try to have the doctors pinpoint exactly when you would have conceived. I'm confused by your statement, that you had some type of sexual contact. Did you come into contact with his semen? The sooner you have the ultrasound, the more accurately it can be dated when you conceived. Good luck.

Ultra sounds are not one hundred percent. I would get a DNA test after the baby is born to make sure of who the father is...You can get one while pregnant if you need to know sooner.

I think you should be honest with your Doctor give him the dates,and he can let you know around when you concieved.
Good Luck

Are you and hubby back together??? Are you with this other person???? And if you think it might be this other persons first of all quit downplaying it just say you had sex with him because that is the only way you could have gotten pregnant. Now the issus is are you with either one of them??? And if the sonograham says june 25 thewn it probably is they are pretty high tech and accurate. But whose do you want it to be??? Sounds like maybe you wished it was this other persons. Maybe you need to have some quiet thinking time and ask yourself these questions.good luck whatever the outcome.

You do not say what type of sexual contact you had with this other person, but the only way you could get pregnant is through intercourse. If you did have intercourse with him, then an ultrasound is not as definitive as a DNA test. That said, since there is a two week time difference, if the doctors are telling you that the age of the fetus means that he is your husband's, it's probably safe to just go with that. Good luck!

Blood tests after the baby is born - be sure.