Pregnant and Not Really Excited

I felt exactly the same way both times (especially in the beginning when I also suffered from severe nausea and vomiting). The first time I was convinced I was going to hate my baby and was so upset with myself, but fell in love very, very quickly with my beautiful baby. The second time I knew I just hated pregnancy (why wouldn't I...I was miserable, despite being very skinny for a while :). I found that when I could start looking at food and eating I felt a lot better about everything, but still never really got excited about the pregnancy or either of my babies before they arrived...maybe it's just too abstract for me. I think I get prenatal depression that lifts when the baby comes!

I can't speak to why you're feeling that way...
But I wanted to let you know that I HATED every second of being pregnant with both of my kids. It's OK to not be psyched about it.

I love my kiddos dearly and would do anything for them. But I positively hated carrying them. I found nothing cool or magical about it. And that "glow"...was simply the oil slick that my face turned into for 10 months.
LOL!

It's not terrible. And being sick doesn't help. Don't be too hard on yourself. I really believe that anyone that says that they LOVED being pregnant is a little nuts!

Go shopping with a friend. Find a baby store and spend an hour or so just looking at all the super things out there since you had your last baby! It might help get those happy baby feelings kicked into gear!! Congrats on your pregnancy and I hope you start feeling better soon!!

BTW: I found some relief from my hyperemesis with Zofran. I'm sure your OB/Mid-Wife has already tried it with you but if not, give it a try.

Totally normal, even if planned. Once you are actually pregnant it's not just an idea anymore it's real and happening and that can be scary. And adding on that you feel horrible, don't beat yourself up. Once your baby gets here it will be a distant silly memory. Dont beat yourself up!

I had hyperemesis and it is truly miserable! Give it time. It'll come. Congratulations!!

Have you tried Zofran? It may help with the constant nausea, you can even get it in a drip form so you have a constant flow.

Perhaps you are feeling down because you are not only sick, but overwhelmed with the thought of having a baby since it's been so long since your last. Try to embrace the good and look forward to when the baby comes, the sickness will stop eventually, so just keep hanging onto hope!

I also hated being pregnant! I really wanted to enjoy it, but I felt awful and it was just not a good time! I went into my second pregnancy with the mindset that it was going to be good and different than the first -and it sucked too! It's okay. I love my boys more than anything, which is evident in the fact that I actually decided to do it more than once. I'm glad some enjoy being pregnant, but not me -and actually most of the people I know hate it too!

Don't beat yourself up about it, I was pregnant three times, the first pregnancy is all about everything being new. It's blissful at times but the truth of the matter is, the outcome is way better than the means. I voluntarily got pregnant with my second and third, not because I loved being pregnant (actually really disliked it, a lot) but because I wanted my children. I think if you can get passed the whole puking part (I've heard Zofran works wonders) you will be able to look at the big picture and soon you will be holding your little bundle and forgetting about all these feelings. I promise :) Hang in there.

I agree about the Zofran...the only thing that worked for me...not a complete miracle but very nearly (I was still not myself, but much less vomiting and nausea.) I also hated the weight gain, acne, and everything else my lovely pregnancies gave me (I most definitely was NOT a glowing pregnant woman!) That said, every second was worth it because my 3 kids are healthy and beautiful and we could not imagine our lives w/out them. Congrats and try and hang in there!

I understand how you feel. I had my second child almost 20 years after my first (surprise) 9.5 years ago. Found out I was pregnant at 15 weeks. I had a hard time getting into that pregnancy also as I was going to be 44 yrs. old at delivery and feared for the health of my child. I chose not to find out ahead of time. Decided to play the cards I was dealt. But with all of that said, I delivered a beautiful, healthy 6 lb. 9 oz. baby girl who is the absolute highlight of our lives. Our grandchildren (3 of which are older than our daughter, one younger, but all close in age) and our daughter get along great. She is a blessing from God and we cherish her!

Fortunately I had no morning sickness with either of my daughters. But I can imagine how hard it would be to enjoy the pregnancy when you feel lousy all of the time. Hang in there! The end result will be well worth it!

I was sick like that with my first. At 6 months pregnant I had lost so much weight that I fit into clothes I didn't fit into before I was pregnant! I would LOVE to get into those now! So yes, it's totally okay to not be psyched about it. Try to find the things that you can eat. Even if is't nothing that stays down. I figured if I ate a bowl of Cheerios and lost most of them, at least I was getting SOME of the good stuff. Talk to your OB, mine was able to finally give me some meds about 5-6 months in to help with it, though it did not cure it by far. Maybe try NOT taking prenatals, and taking another vitamin? Those made me horribly sick, no matter what time of day I tried - with all 3 kids. And if nothing else helps, in 9 months, when you have your baby, you'd do it all over again :o). I had two more after my first!!

I feel for you. I just had a baby last week and was seriously not into the pregnancy at all!

It took us 2 years to get pregnant and by then I had given up and worked really hard to move past it. It was mentally difficult to get back in to something that I had come to see as negative after so much trial and error. I was in a bit of denial, I think, that i was actually pregnant. Plus, I am not one of those people that loved being pregnant with my son, age 5.

I hated getting compliments about being pregnant as well. Hated the attention. I have to say I was a little worried about how I handled the pregnancy. I did everything correct, in terms of prenatal care and what not, yet I could not get into it. I felt so unprepared in so many ways.

That being said, I just love my little daughter more than anything. I look at her and it seems the way I felt about being pregnant has not correlation to how I feel about her. I am so lucky to have her.

Pregnancy is not for everyone. It can be a scary and unsettling time...especially when you do not feel well.

Best of luck! Think of how much better physically you will feel when you have that baby!