T.S.
Hi Catherine,
I think our kids have a lot in common! My son, 2 1/2 is also very spirited and independant. Although he's been at the same center getting excellent care for two years now, I am thinking about moving him now that he is in pre-school. Have you considered a Montessori school? That's what we're investigating. I think Montessori does more to encorage children who are naturally independant and want to make their own decisions and there is less of an "everybody do this at this time, everybody stop at this time" vibe.
Good luck with this.
T.