I have one daughter that is 12 and one that is 9. the 12 yr old at some points acts if she loves her sister the next acts like she can't stand her. I never had a sister growning up so I need help is this normal? This is my first time with the preteen stuff so I dont have a clue what is going on. I really don't remember what I went thru with it.
Thank you all for your help. I talked to my oldest bout the things she is going thru again. I told her stories of my childhood cause I was the oldest too. She thought it was funny. When I told her that that kind of thing even happend when I was young. She basicly told me I was old. We then talked to her little sister and told her that sometimes her sister was going to need "Sissy time". Then I let her and her little sister have a talk alone. Then when they yelled for me to come back they were giggling and talking in the own language. They have always been close so that is why it worried me.
I don't have any first hand experience with this, but I do have a a 13 year old and 10 year old niece. I only see them at holidays, but this sounds a lot like how they behave. The younger one drives the older one crazy.
I think it's normal. Good luck!
Having had a sister myself; and two daughters of my own (1 1/2 years apart in age, I can tell you that it is VERY normal for sisters to have a "love-hate" relationship. While they love each other, they also vie for attention, friendships, and just about everything. Although they will continue to have this type of relationship, while at home, when they grow up and go their seperate ways (ie: one gets married, or goes of to college, or whatever), they will learn to appreciate each other more, and most likely will grow to rely on each other, for advice, friendship, etc.
yes this is normal. I have a 15 and 11 year old and they fight sometimes too, but make them respect each other. Do you yell alot?
Hmm....maybe it is normal, because my almost twelve year old has been acting the same way, and the way some of her friends treat their younger siblings is just down right horrible. I did have a talk with my daughter one day, and told her that when she is angry, try and think what her life would be like without her sister, and see if she still feels so badly. The reason this works for mine, is because they were exceptionally close until puberty hit. Also, as with many grown women, certain times of the month are harder than others. I've started giving my daughter midol when she needs it, and it is very helpful. I think that maybe they don't understand their own mood swings and hormonal changes very well, so they lash out and act out of frustration.
Yes, and it won't get a whole lot better until your older daughter approaches 20.
IT'S ALL PERFECTLY NORMAL!!! I HAVE 2 OLDER SISTERS AND 4 BOYS OF MY OWN AND MY SISTER AND I AS WELL AS MY SONS ALL BEHAVE EXACTLY THE SAME WAY. :)
I have to say Yes, this is very normal. I had 3 sisters and 4 brothers. And all of us did that at one point or another. The teen years are the worst. And if she hasen't already your 9 year old will do the same thing to the older daughter. You will see this behavior until they are about 17 or 18 years old. Good luck.
This is TOTALLY normal! My sister is 4 years older than me, and those years when I was still a child and she was entering her teens were rough! If they were close before, they will be even closer once they are both going through the same things. It may be a few years of a lot of yelling and screaming, but they'll make it through just fine I'm sure.
Good luck!
PS One thing that helped my sister and I stay close during those years was that we were reading the same series of books together. It gave us something to discuss and bind us together. Maybe give it a try!
I know that this is a serious question but I couldn't help but laugh when I read it...
I have two sisters and we are all 5 yrs apart(30,25,20), and believe me this is very normal. We loved to hate each other, we would be best of friends and then be our worst enemy, it is just something sisters do. Don't worry about it, me and my sister still love each other and I am sure your girls will love one another for the rest of their lives to.
God Bless
D.
Totally normal... my cousin is in the same situation. The 12 y/o thinks she knows more, so more cool, and will fight with her sister. I think you should sit down with both of your daughters and husband and let them vent. Ask them how they feel and if there are any hurt feelings have the girl talk it out. I would also encourage you to start talking to your daughter about SEX, drugs and peer pressure (more for the 12 y/o). Also talk with them indivually to found out if they have any questions. Girls and Boys are starting to do thing early and early these days. I wish you all the luck with your daughters. Remember to try and spend together and also one on one time with each girl.
L.
Yes this is so normal. They will have their squabbles. Your 12 year old is going through body changes and her mind may not be able to catch up with all of these changes for a while. Give her her privacy and be her reinforcement.
I have a sister who's 3 yrs. younger and I recall us growing up like your kids- loved each other at times and fighting like cats & dogs at other times. I think its pretty normal.
I'm talking hair pulling, fist fighting, we never held back. ha But at the same time we knew we had each other always to lean on.
Now we're mothers ourselves, I have a 4 year old and she has a 7 year old.
I wouldn't worry too much over it, thats what siblings do I think; at least the ones I know of.
