Problemed Behavior

You haven't said what the "adult behaviour" is so I'm guessing. How old is your daughter?

Girls tend to be more sexually aware than boys even at a young age. However, they usually don't engage in adult behaviour unless they have experienced it or seen it on TV or somewhere else. Has she been exposed to inappropriate things on TV or the computer?

Maybe she is being sexually abused or approached by someone. I would talk to the teachers about it immediately and change her circumstances. Maybe another child is causing this? Maybe someone in your circle of friends/family? Is your daughter trying to tell you something you missed? It happened to me.

My daughters sometimes engage in inappropriate behaviour - but it's definitely child not adult-like. I tell them it's inappropriate, and also, in the very young you want to "extinguish" the behaviour by not talking about it and not reacting to it, at least until you have had some time to think it over.

I wouldn't punish her, but I would be the detective to find out what happened, then teach her appropriate behaviour to replace the inappropriate behaviour.

You don't say what the behavior is... not knowing this makes it difficult to offer any advice. Some things she may get off of tv, she may witness you doing, who knows. There is nothing wrong with having a conversation about what she's doing and who did she see do something like this. It's not inappropriate if no one has told her so and why. And if it's inappropriate for her, then it's really inappropriate for anyone to do in her presence. Kids at this age are trying out all sorts of things, and they need to be questioned about the who, what, where, when, why..... Not an inquisition, but a conversation, not one tinged with anger, but curiosity and concern. Sending her to her room as a punishment maynot be the right thing to do because there is anger not concern and you won't get many answers or establish an ongoing communication. Again, I don't know what the behavior was, so it makes the advice harder. If this is indicative of your conversation with your daughter, she's probably just as confused and doesn't know what to say to you either.

try volunteering in her classroom you will see shat is actually happening and then maybe need to try counseling. she just might be trying to become a little more independent. sometimes with children the world is their stage and she wants to see how you respond

If she says it's at school, get down there and talk to her teachers, principal, counselor!!! Is she in day care or after school programs???

I was a headstart teacher for 12 years, I would talk to the teacher either at a Home Visit or tell them you have concerns and would like to talk to them ASAP. Pulling your child out of class is a short term fix,you need to explain to her that this behavior is not something she should be doing and why it is not okay. Knowledge is the key, also make sure the teachers and staff are on the same page and watching what is going on in the classroom. I would also ask the teacher's supervisor to be in on the meeting, so that everyone is understanding what is happening.

Unfortunately, you don't mention the age of the girl or what the behavior is. These are important to know as they make offering useful advice easier.

If your daughter is young (pre-K to 2nd grade) it could be that she's discovering herself (physically) and the feelings that can come from arousal. It would be a huge mistake to place adult interpretations on this behavior----there's nothing adult about it, it's merely a child discovering herself and getting to know her body---like all children are want to do. If she's comparing herself to others at school in the bathroom----this too is normal. Children compare themselves---adults do it too. There's nothing "adult" about it----they are just curious----invite her to talk about it if she wants to and answer her questions honestly. I've seen boys and girls compare themselves---yes, I put a stop to it----but they are curious about male and female parts, feelings, circumsized vs. uncircumsized etc. There's nothing sexual (in the "adult" sense) about what they're doing---it's just curiosity.

Should your daughter be older (3rd grade and up), she may well be exposed to other children with more knowledge than she has. Some children are precocious, some are exposed to inappropriate things at home.... Unfortunately, there does exist the possibility that the school has adopted a ciriculum that assumes all curiosity in this area to have adult conotations---especially in regards to homo/hetro sexuality. The only way you'll know is to go and sit in on her classes and get to know her friends well (I would urge you to do both).

Whatever the case may be----please remain calm and rational. Your reactions may do more damage the her "inappropriate behavior."

Good luck! All parents need it.

You didn't mention how old your daughter is however they do learn alot from school unfortunately. If she is at a kindergarten age or a little older sit down with her and explain the difference between and boy and girl. Let her know that she is never to show herself to anyone only mommy and daddy.
Councelling is good because they will teach her but in the interim you can as well teach her right from wrong, even using a doll. Many children go through this so don't be overwhelmed by her behavior. You may not like it but most children experience, she just has to be taught right from wrong.
Take care and I wish you the best. P.S. Don't scare her, or tell her your feelings that you don't like it, or she will think that she can't talk to you for fear that she is in trouble. Sending her to her room is already giving her a negative response, open up with her.

what is the behavior??