Hi J.-
I wanted to reach out to you and let you know that you are not alone. I too went through this although they discovered that my daughter had an enlarged ventricle a couple weeks prior to yours (I think it was at the 13th week check). Anyway, I was told that one of her ventricles was enlarged and that if I wanted to have an abortion, I could. I was mortified, devastated and furious at the Doctor for his lack of beside manner.
I chose to continue with the pregnancy because in my heart of hearts I believed that she was going to be okay. The coming weeks were difficult at best. With each visit, I was hopeful and yet we would leave without much change. Fortunately or unfortunately, her measurements remained the same despite everything else growing. And so we just held out hope that she was going to be okay.
Today, I have a very happy, loving and wonderful 16 month olda baby girl who has just been the apple of our eyes and has completed our family in so many ways. While there were no problems noted at birth with regard to her ventricle size we did have a scare that her head size was too small at her 3 month check up. With the ventricle problem indicating an enlarged head size, we somewhat welcomed the fact that her head size was too small. Although any kind of brain issue is enough to put a Mom over the edge.
I am sorry if this is rambling. I just wanted to reach out to you and let you know that you are not alone. Additionally, I wanted to let you know that I have found through my research the following:
1) Docs really don't have a good sense of what is "normal". If you think about it, the vast majority of new Mom's do not have this level of testing done and so they don't know how wide the range is and can be.
2) Your baby's brain is borderline. What is your heart telling you? Do you *feel* like there is a problem?
3) Be strong. Keep the faith that this will either resolve itself or that it won't change...like mine. I know all too well how difficult this is and all I can say is that my heart goes out to you and your family.
Feel free to write if you want to talk further. Otherwise, hang in there and best wishes.
N.