S.D.
Just wanted to comment about baby gates. They do not need to be used at all times, only when children between 6 and 18 months are present. If no children that age are present, gates are not required.
I am a licensed family child care provider. A few questions I would suggest are;
What does she like best about doing this? What does she like least? If there was one thing she could change (no matter how big or small), what would it be? How long does she anticipate continuing in child care? How does she de-stress herself? How does she like to handle difficult issues (situations with the parent or the child)? Does she think your family would be a good match with the other families in her care (and why or why not)?
Remember, not only are you choosing her, but she is choosing you. She should have a policy book or contract for you to look at or take home to read. Really read it and ask her any questions you have about it.
Like someone else said, there is MUCH more to finding a good daycare than cost, toys, appearances, etc. You are choosing someone to teach and nurture your child while you are not able to. You want someone with similar beliefs, morals, and values as your family has.
Congrats on the new baby to be and good luck!
S. (mom of 3 and daycare provider for nearly 20 years)