Hello April
I totally understand what you meant, I gain 50 pounds and I am still trying to loose them. People are really insensitive, and they don’t understand how everything changes once you have a baby. I personally, when my baby was born, was doing everything you’re supposed to do (breastfeeding, eating right, etc) and I gained weight!!! I visited my doctor and he told me everything with my health was normal, and he didn’t understand why I was gaining weight.. people were telling me.. why you don’t do exercise and other stuff.. First, I went back to work, full time, and my baby went (and still) in daycare.. my husband has very crazy schedules so my day officially ends at 8pm, after my baby is sleeping.. and I am exhausted for an exercise routine!! I don’t have family here, so nobody can do childcare while I exercise (and this is NOT an EXCUSE, is a REALITY). I don’t have many options in my life.. the reason why I am telling you all that stuff is that you have to focus in what you have rather than what you don’t have. I lost 30 pounds only with watching what I eat.. (simple choices, like eating an apple instead of chips, or drinking water when I feel like snacking around, or eating a bite of chocolate instead of a whole cookie) I joined weight watchers but I decide to not pay anymore because I couldn’t go to any meetings or so.. I am not doing ANY exercise because I don’t have time (and energy, sometimes). I been loosing VERY SLOWLY and first, it was very difficult to accept that I am not loosing fast (because I had in my mind that your supposed to loose post pregnancy fast..) but now I accepted that fact and I don’t have other option that to live with it. I believe ACCEPTANCE is the key, and once you accept your limits you can play around them. Accept your new body, buy nice and cute 14 size clothes, (if you try to fit your old clothes you will feel really uncomfortable, believe is NOT the solution) love your self, enjoy your baby and your husband and little by little you will be size 12 and so.. doing that you will feel better with your self and people will feel that. Probably the comments will still there, but you’ll have more confidence to answer those insensitive people, and, the most important thing is that you will feel better with your self. I used to be 14 and after pregnancy I have to go to the pluz size department or stores to buy 1xL or 16W.. Now I am wearing 16 normal and sometimes 14!!. I am not proud of my size but I am proud of myself for being in this journey. Good luck! I wish you all the best, you are a lovely woman!