Regression in Potty Training

This is common. I think you are on the right track by talking to your daughter, and when she gets defiant, I would just say "the sooner you go to the bathroom and get that done, the sooner you can come back to what you are doing." Be insistent, and be sure she understands that when she starts back to going by herself, you will not be telling her to go so much.
If your 2 year old is training now too, that could be some of it. There might be the sense with your older child that there is competition there or something. It is weird to me, but it happened with my two who were 21 months apart. Just a heads up. GOOD LUCK!! It will work out!

We had the same kind of problems with my daughter. She was completely potty trained and then all of the sudden started having accidents all of the time. We tried everything that we could think of. Nothing seemed to work so I asked my pediatrician if there could be something physically wrong. He sent her to a urologist and they did an ultrasound of her bladder right after she had gone to the bathroom. They discovered that she was not completely emptying b/c she was too busy (wanted to go back to play or whatever). She had trained her bladder to not completely empty so she was having tummy aches (bladder contractions). The Dr. put her on a strict potty schedule (every 2 hours) and gave her some meds called Glycolax to make her regular (she didn't have a bowl movement regularly and this can cause accidents also). The meds were are not addicting and anyone can take them. After a couple months of that, we don't have the problems we had anymore so we took her off of the meds. We still have an accident every once in awhile, but nothing like it was.

Unfortunately, I don't have a great deal of advice based on experience (my daughter is 20 moths old, and we are just staring to potty train!), but I can tell you that when this happened with my niece, we stopped ASKING her if she needed to use the potty, and started TELLING her, "time for a potty break!" She got irritated by it after a few days, b/c we made her stop whatever she was doing every hour on the hour for a potty break. When she got mad, we said, "when you can tell us you need to go to the bathroom and have no accidents, we'll stop doing this". Sounds a little harsh, but it worked in 3 days!
Good luck, and hang in there!

I would suggest setting a timer either for you to remind her or for her to be reminded to go potty. And I agree with someone elses comment, instead of asking her if she needs to go potty, tell her she's going to go in a nice way. Dont' give her the option. You should also consider that maybe she has a bladder or urinary tract infection.

well if I was you. I would not ask her and just say real nice "come on lets go" and don't make it a question make it more of a command. Just like when she was being potty trained.
Remember she 4, I watch a lil boy who won't tell me and he is 3 1/2 so in stead I tell him come on lets so and he fought me at 1st but now he knows that no matter what he is still going to have to get up and go no matter how much fighting he does..
I read you have a 2 year old .. is he/she being potty trained right now. Mabey that could be why she is doing it...
i know it all will work out good luck and god bless

If she isn't having accidents at school, I suggest you call the school and ask what their schedule is, and immulate that schedule at home. Such as, how often they have potty breaks. Asking her only irritates her, because she is in the middle of playing. But you need to let her know that you are doing this to prevent an accident. That accidents can be embarrassing, and if she goes to the bathroom on a schedule then she won't have as many accidents. You may want to talk with her teacher anyways, and ask if they have any suggestions to help you. Teachers are there for your child, but they are also there for you. Good luck, S.

My little boy is 5 and has kidney problems, so its very important that we go to the bathroom every 2 hrs. So we have learned to make it a game. (We set a timer sometimes because we do forget to make him go). We race to the bathroom, count to see how long we are in there, whatever we have to do to go. We also have "drink races" to make sure he is getting enough fluids in a day. My son had accidents at the beginning of this year in kindergarten, but after talking with his teacher we figured out what worked for him. I agree with the others see what schedule her teacher follows and use that as an example. My best advice though would be to make it fun!! Make it a game if you can. Hope this helped

be as emotionless as you can when you clean her up. This is going to start being a power struggle, otherwise.

I found that just leaving my little one in the wet pants is a great deterant.

You might just make sure that she's healthy too. Get her to drink a little cranberry juice for a few days and expect the accidents to increase during this time.