K.R.
We also live in Carmel Valley.
I second the recommendation for The Parent Connection. It is a great resource and there are tons of members in Carmel Valley. The website is on the response below or you can contact me directly if you have questions - I am on the board.
Our dentist is the Dixon family of dentists at San Diego Pediatric Dental Group in Sorrento Valley. They are really good and even my then 2yo sat for a cleaning. ###-###-####.
Most any preschool in the area has Pre-K. Savvy source is helpful. Our school is full, I believe, but we have liked it so far (our 3yo has been there for 2months) - Sorrento Valley Children's Center. I would check Kinderhouse Montessori because they had openings. Also Solana Beach Presbyterian is supposed to be great if you are willing to drive north.
Good luck with the move and contact me with any other questions - we love Carmel Valley with excellent schools, lots of parks, and so many families with kids.
K.
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