Reserved After Miscarriage

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I too had a miscarriage but I had mine at 20 weeks. It is only going to be natural to be scared this time around. I believe your bodies hormones would be back to normal by now. However, it would be best to go to the OBGYN to be sure. I wish you all the luck. Do not stress out about having another miscarriage. Stress is no good for you or baby. If you are pregnant, be happy and joyful, miscarriages are unfortunately one of the bad things a lot of people have to deal with in life. Too many if you ask me. Just know that it "can" happen. Just try to relax, don't be on your feet all day long, and stay as stress free as possible for the first few weeks (with a two year old will be hard, but you can manage). Good Luck and Best wishes to you and your family.

The same thing happened to me in Sept. 08. I found out I lost the baby at 7 weeks when I was 9 weeks. I had a d and c. Then in Jan. 09 found out that I was pregnant, it was a total surprise! I was paranoid my entire pregnancy, I think that is just normal after a loss. I bought a baby heart monitor and used that daily...really a few times a day. :) My baby was born perfect in Sept. 09.
As far as your question, my Dr. told me to wait for 3 months after the D and C for my hormones to get back to normal. And that you can have a false negitive but not a false positive.
I think its normal to be freaked out. That is how I was on the inside, but no one around me knew it. I also wouldn't tell anyone until I was 4 month pregnant, I think they were starting to figure it out, since I was wearing jackets when it was warmer. :)
Good luck to you.

You are preggers! Get used to it. Most women have miscarriages including myself (in between my two girls). Start getting your happy hormones on so it is good for the baby!

Hi Mama-
What heart break. My sister in law lost a number of babies, and then had to deliver a dying child 6months into a pregnancy. The silver lining- she is now the proud mother of 2 year old twin boys! It absolutely CAN happen.
To ensure the best health for this possible new baby, go see your doctor right away. I have been told that one miscarriage is par for the course for a lot of women. True or not, I would say, see your doctor and do everything that YOU can such as vitamins, healthy eating, healthy lifestyle, regular visits to your doctor, etc. The rest is up to God and nature. Also, wait 3 months to tell people (but tell your husband right away--keep communication open). What you tell your husband is that you think you may be pregnant, but are going to the doctor to confirm. Also let him know that until you are in the clear, you would like to wait telling people. It's hard enough to have the emotions of a lost baby--and in my opinion harder when other people are asking you about it. They mean well and they love you, but it's still hard. It took my sister in law almost 6 years to grieve her lost baby. I digress.
See your doctor--try not to freak out. I know you want to, because you worry, but at the same time, think of the miracle of your body and the fact that sometimes nature knows what is going on and helping you survive while helping a healthy child come into the world. For me, any silver lining I can find is what makes the days go by.
Good luck mama! And see your doctor right away, lol!
-E. M

Hi M.,
I had three miscarriages before I had my son. I know it is devastating and I'm sorry for your loss.
There's no way to tell what may or may not happen in the future. And I don't know the odds that you had a false positive.
But I do know this, you will most likely be able to have another child.
So stay positive.
Call your doc and make an appointment to make sure.
Good luck!

It is completely normal for you to feel reserved about this pregnancy. I had 2 miscarriages, both at 6 weeks, after having my son. I'm now pregnant again at 24 weeks. I'm really excited now, but it definitely took me a long time to "accept" that I was pregnant and feel comfortable with it. I think it is just a way to cope, as if somehow it will hurt less if you have another miscarriage (although I know that it won't). Hang in there and try to think positively. It will happen eventually, and everything will be for the best.