I have a 2 yr old and a baby girl who was born 2 days before yours! Like you, I've been married 5 yrs and still love my wonderful husband. I read the book On Becoming Babywise about eating and sleeping schedules and it recommends nursing them and then feed them their baby food or rice cereal all in the same sitting. I nurse first so my baby isn't too full and will eat an adequate amount of breastmilk, which I think is more important for her nutritionally at this point than the babyfood.
Here's my schedule that works great for me. It has 3 naps and 5 nursings with 3 solid feedings that line up with normal mealtimes. Eventually, as she gets older and gives me signs that she's ready, I will get rid of the last nap (so I'm not stuck home all day with a sleeping baby!) and merge the last 2 nursings into one. But be careful about not going below 4 nursings a day if you want to keep your milk supply up, plus she needs the liquid:
7 or 7:30 Baby wakes and nurses, then eats rice cereal
9:30 Baby naps until 11
11:00 Baby wakes & nurses & immediately has babyfood for lunch
12:00 Baby naps (I did it this way so her nap overlaps a little with my toddler's nap so I get a little break. I put her down right before me and the toddler eat lunch because it's less stress to have her down while I prepare and eat lunch.)
3:00-ish Baby wakes and nurses (no babyfood this time. Maybe some baby cracker puffs as a snack--the kind that dissolve)
5:00 Baby naps (this is the nap I'm trying to get rid of)
6:00 Baby wakes and nurses, then eats babyfood or rice cereal
8:00 Baby goes to bed with cuddling and story and song
9:00 I wake baby up for one last nursing without food, and then put her right back down to bed unless she's so smiley I can't resist playing a little with her. I'll eventually merge this and the 6:00 nursing and just nurse her once at 7:00-ish before bedtime and then not have to wake her up again after that. It sounds like you are already doing that.
So I tried to line up the solid foods with normal mealtimes to make that transition easier when she gets older and so she can sit at the table now with the rest of us when we eat. And when she's ready to go down to 2 naps at about 1 to 1 1/2 yrs old, I'll keep her morning nap the same and transition her noon nap to 1:00 when I currently put my toddler down. Hopefully he'll still be napping and we'll all eat lunch together at noon and then I'll put them both down! Good luck. I like a schedule because I plan outings around it and have a pretty good idea when my kids will be well-rested and fed, so they won't be grumpy.