Hello
First off I'd like to commend you for the lunch variety search. I'm the same way. My son just graduated from Kindergarten in June. And I"ve had so much fun getting different fun lunches in for him.
I think that the peanut butter thing is a shame. If my kid couldn't bring pb&j to school for a lunch - I'd switch schools. Kids who have allergies KNOW not to eat what they're allergic to. And the school's have no trade/no share rules - even school lunches offer it - even at my son's school where nut allergies run rabid. And thankfully, my very best girlfriend, who has 3 kids - 1 w/nut allergy - agrees with me. what are they gonna do next? no milk allowed b/c of kids who are lactose intolerant????
Ok onto lunches --- seeing as how you can't bring in peanut butter. Try cream cheese & jelly or cream cheese & fruit on toast or plain bread. The cream cheese will provide your child with the protein he needs (like from peanut butter). Also, a huge hit w/my son was bagels! I bought the mini bagels, & didn't toast them - just plain with some cream cheese on them. I'd pack along orange juice (i try to 'be green' so i use reusable drink containers), sliced up fruit, celery sticks (I put either ranch dressing in a little tupperware cup, or pnut butter or cream cheese for dipping). And then I'll throw in some nilla wafers or cinnamon graham crackers or teddy grahams.
OK so I not only do this for my son, but for my husband too - he likes variety - but i'll lean more towards my son's meals since that's our topic. Just think of his/her favorites & go from there. How can I get this into his lunch, keep it cold or warm, etc & make it as easy as you can for him/her. That's the most important thing.
As far as sandwiches go - whatever lunch meats & cheeses he/she likes. And then I used cookie cutters to cut out shapes for the sandwiches (I gave my dog the scraps - he loves his meat & cheese too!) But around the holidays I used cookie cutters according to the holiday - a pumpkin for halloween, a turkey for thanksgiving, a tree for christmas, an egg or bunny for easter, a heart for v-day, a clover for st. pat's day, a star for the 4th of july, etc. spring time was flowers, winter was snowman, fall was leaves, etc. You can get really creative.
I did alot of fruits & veggies - strawberries, blueberries, greapes, sliced kiwi, or watermelon. Even canned pineapple slices or chunks (just drain & put in little container or baggie), mandarin oragnes (again from the can - just put into a container).
Veggies - I did alot of 'ants on a log" celery rib filled with peanut butter topped with raisins OR filled with cream cheese & topped w/black olives. Or just give some ranch dressing for dip. Same with carrot sticks - with ranch.
One time I sent in cheese, pepperoni & crackers for my son. HE LOVED IT!!! And some olives & pickles (sliced small).
Um let's see what else. Oh! I've gotten the thermos & sent him with chicken nuggets (ketchup in a sm. container). They stayed pretty warm for him he said until his lunch time. I've also put in warm mac&cheese (if i made it for lunch for my youngest - i'd put a serving aside& store it in my oldest's thermos & heated it up the next morning before school for him). You could do simple soups like ramen noodle or ring o noodle - but I wouldn't recommend it until the child's in 1st or 2nd grade (a bit messy when they first try to do it!)
premake chicken & cheese quesadillas - cut into slices & fold or bend into thermos. Anything you can fit in a thermos to stay warm - really works.
I've also done deviled eggs for my son - perfect cold treat (he loves those) and stuffed mushrooms, heated & in a thermos (another of his favs). Oh yea, instead of bread you can use pita pockets, or wraps! I did those as well. I've send in pasta salad, regular salad (again all in containers) & it's all worked out well. Sometimes, with the salad I'd put stick some heated chicken strips in his thermos so he could put it on top when it was time to eat the salad. Also, I make my own calzones (another food eaten hot or cold) - my sons fav is cheese & pepperoni!
I did lots of oj, apple juice, cran-apple juice, cranberry juice, grape juice, milk, choc milk, strbry milk, tropicana fruit punch & water for drinks - sometimes lemonade. but i tried to stay away from real sugary - prepacked juices - it's convenient but it's not healthy.
I did goldfish, cheeze its, teddy grahams, pretzel sticks, graham crackers, nilla wafers, oyster crackers, dry cereal mixes (he loves to much on frosted flakes w/no milk or honey nut cheerios).
Yogurts, apple sauces (they've got apple sauces in all sorts of new fruit versions - pear sauce, pomegranate, etc - SO GOOD!) -- and we save the little containers for recycling - we use them for paints when the kids paint or to hold things in or even to use at the beach when building castles & things, also great for when your setting out ingredients when cooking they hold the small amounts perfectly & you don't have to wash a huge bowl! -- ok, sorry, getting off track here!
I'd also pop plain popcorn for him & send it in a baggie. For treats near holidays I'd send a brownie, choc chip cookie, rice krispie treat, cupcake, whatever.
You could also send hard boiled eggs (still good cold!). Um, ok I think I hit everything that I could think of - my minds a little boggled right now - I'm in the process of packing my camper - camping this weekend! woohoo!!!
Check out family fun magazine (familyfun.com) or parenting, parents, um, any mom sources really & they've got lots of great ideas - my fav. is family fun.
But I hope I was able to help atleast a little bit.
Good luck & let me know how you made out
C. B.