Meals,free babysitting~for all three kids, a helping hand in the house, laundry service, or a Starbucks gift card. I am the mother of three, and the third one is a huge adjustments, this was when all the plants in my house died, meals were mostly burnt to the pan and dinner was done with the smoke alarm went off LOL. I had everything I need for my third son since he was born only 14 months after my first son, our oldest is our only girl. And it just seemed to me that the first several months were the hardest to keep a schedule of any sort, and learn how to adjust to the new chaos in your house and some things suffered for that. So those are the kinds of things that I remember most; the friends that brought over meals with paper plates, or offered to water the drooping plants, fold a load of laundry while we visited over caffine products =} The little things that seem HUGE at the time, but really only take a few mins. Good luck with your friend and CONGRATS with being a survivor.