Seeking Mothers in Their Forties, of Elementary School Age Children Who Are Feel

Hi A., I am 46 and have a 4.5 year old and a 15month!! My eldest will be starting kindergarten this September. YIKES!! I don't feel too odd about it. My cousin didn't have her twins until she was 40. My one girlfriend is 44 and has a daughter 5 and a son that is 4.5. So I am fortunate to have others that are out there like me.
I am a little nervous about the elementary years and what kind of mothers that I will encounter. Yes, the other girlfriends have grown children, and I take full advantage of that. They can then babysit for me. HA HA!!

Hi A.,

I just turned 40 this year, yuck. I have a 10 and 11 year old, almost 12. I am in the West Bloomfield/Waterford/Union Lake area. I would love to meet more people.:) The kids too. Just reply back.

S.

*smile* That's me alright! My son is nine and a half and we adopted him when he was six and a half months old. I was 34. Can't tell you how many times I have thought the same thoughts as you describe. I applaud your boldness in reaching out!

S.
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Hi A.,

I'm in my mid-thirties, but I coordinate a mother's group that includes moms of all ages who have young children. There are some moms who come regularly who are in their 40's, and have children as young as 3. We have a great group of supportive moms! It's a Moms & Tots group, but you're welcome to attend even if you don't have a preschool-age "tot". Check out our webpage at www.oakarbor.org/community/momstots.html.

L.

Hi A.,

I live in Troy and am in a similar situation. Your situation seems to mirror mine. Married 10 years, in my 40's, 2 children ages 9 & 5, wanting to meet new friends.

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Hi, A.,

I felt like I was reading my own story. I'm not in my 40's yet. I will be 40 this year! Yikes! I have an 11 year old in middle school, an 8 year old and a 5 yr old. I always worked full-time until I was laid off after 9/11. I just started back to work full-time last June. Before that I worked part-time as a recruiter @Kohl's. I scrapbook and I was able to find a couple of moms who's kids were the age of mine and we started our own playgroup. Now I'm a Brownie leader and our kids are involved in stuff. Things are better. I remember seeing the same things w/the other moms at the school and my work friends weren't dealing w/the same issues I was. Hang in there!

Hi A.!
I will be turning 40 this year and I have twin 5 year old girls who will be starting Kindergarten this year. I've lived here in Rochester Hills for almost 7 years and it's been hard meeting new people. My husband is quite a bit older than me also and that makes it even harder. The people we meet around his age have adult kids or grandkids and people my age usually have kids older also, so it's been crazy.

I've noticed this too. I guess I'm an older mom too. I had my son at 36 (he's now 2-1/2 and I'm 39) and I've had a hard time connecting with moms in playgroups since most are in their mid-twenties or early thirties. I have a 13 year old daughter and I've had more in common with her friends mothers who are around my age than the moms in my sons age group. It seems like people who are around the same age tend to gravitate toward people close to their age. Why that is, I don't know.

MC