Seeking Other Moms Who Have Had Stillborns

A.,
I am so sorry for you loss. I have been there, I was 34 weeks pregnant and had to go in the Dr. office for an emergency ultrasound. There they told me that my baby had passed. So I had to stay over night and give birth to my deceased baby girl. I know your pain! Shortly after my husband and I did have a little service for her with close family members and that seemed to be a slight closer for me. However the pain hasn't subsided completely, and it has been 3 1/2 years. Along with Renee R. I do recommend either becoming part of a group or counseling. ( I never did either but wish I would have...)Just know there are people out there for support. If you ever need to talk just send me a message.

A.:

I have not had your experience but just want to offer my sympathy and on-line support. What a difficult, difficult loss. Have you asked at your obstetrician's office about support groups or networks or at your pediatrician's office? You might get connected to some other women that way.

Of course, there's always therapy if you are not doing that already. My partner is a psychologist who worked at neonatal intensive care some years back and could give you some referrals.

My heart really goes out to you.

A.,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have never lost a child but my sister did. My niece passed away when she was only 16 months and it took my sister a long time to get to where she is right now. She is a parent advocate for different support groups in Albuquerque such as NM Share and Compassionate Friends. From what she has told me these groups are amazing. There are so many other moms that are going through the same thing you are. Look into them and think about attending one of their meetings it may help.

Even though you are at the beginning of a long, bumpy road you will get through. God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. I wish you and your family the best and my thoughts and prayers are with you.