Hi B.,
Good for you to be addressing these issues now before your daughter gets older. So many of us neglect ourselves until our lives become so chaotic that there is no other choice or until our kids are grown and we realize that we've forgotten who we are!
I am a mom, step-mom, and therapist and I devote most of my practice to working with moms. I even have a child care room in my office. Unfortunately, my office is not as close as you were hoping for. My primary office is in Benicia and I work in Oakland one day a week. Even if this is too far for you to come on a regular basis, I do offer some classes and workshops that you may want to come to occasionally (I just did one called "Pruning the Family Tree" that is about looking at the family you grew up in and choosing how you'd like your family to be similar or different).
I don't personally know anyone working in your area, but I would be happy to put a request for referrals out to the east bay association for Marriage and Family Therapists. I'm sure I could come up with some names for you, but I could not personally vouch for their work. It might be a place to start, though. Let me know if you'd like me to do that. Feel free to email me with any questions or concerns.
Good luck on this journey. It can be challenging at times - but ultimately very rewarding. And I truly believe that the best gift we can give to our children is our own happiness and wellbeing. There is no better way to teach them how to be happy themselves!
Warmly,
C. Todd