OKay so this might be too much information... but I was wondering if anyone else has problems with sex during pregnancy. Let me explain. This is my second pregnancy and with my first one we had sex all the time- this time i don't even want him to touch me down there and when he does its very uncomfortable- it almost feels like we are having sex for the first time. Has this happened to anyone else? And this isn't normal I am normally not like this.
Your hormone levels could be different with this pregnancy. It could be that you are just dry "down there". Try to water based lubricant and see if it helps with the comfort.
As for not being in the mood. I never had that issue, but maybe it's the boy baby vs. girl baby! Lol. I had both boys and was pretty much the same as if I wasn't pregnant - desire wise.
Congrats on #2!
Hi K., I agree with Jennifer - when I was pregnant with my son I wanted it all the time and it was great, when I was pregnant with my daughter I didn't feel the need as much for whatever reason. We still had sex, but little less and I didn't enjoy it as much..... but as soon as she was born and I was ready to have sex again, things went back to normal....
Hi K.,
I have to agree with the other posters. My first was a girl and if he never touched me the whole 9 months I would have been oh so happy and that is very unlike me. My son on the other hand is now one year old and let's just say my husband plans on buying him a Corvette for his 16th birthday to say thank you because never in my life was I so into sex as i was when pregnant with my son. Seriously! Totally could be a hormone issue and I would suggest lots and lots of lubricant or simply wait it out a bit and see if things don't change as your pregnancy progresses. Whatever you do though, don't endure painful sex. It's simply not worth it and there are many other ways you guys can connect emotionally and physically without causing you pain or discomfort. You are carrying his child and not 100% yourself and I'm sure he gets that.
Sex begins in the mind so you might try journaling to help you become aware of your thoughts.
I wonder if you are feeling stress in anticipation of mothering two or perhaps some other developments are causing you worrisome or fearful thoughts.
Yoga, meditation or self-hypnosis are good relaxation techniques.
Wishing you wellness.
K.,
I have two sons and went through the same thing. I kept waiting for that *special* feeling to come back and we could really enjoy sex during the second pregnancy like we did during the first, but it never happened. So, I would say that it is normal.
Best wishes,
K.
