Did anyone loose their sex drive during your pregnancy? I have none what so ever. I know my husband is getting worried, although he hasn't said anything about it. It's been almost 4 months since we have been together and that is the longest dry spell in our history. Any advice would be appreciated.
Oh yeah, I've had ZERO interest in sex throughout both of my pregnancies. I feel so unattractive.
BUT, I still do it. There may be a longer gaps between times we do (like every 2 weeks or so), but I still do it. I've also increased the "other types" of favors for DH so that he's satisfied. It's not his fault that I'm not feeling it.
My first pregnancy, I had NO sex drive. My husband and I probably had sex twice during the whole pregnancy. This pregnancy, it diminished, but didn't go away. It can be a hormones thing or a self-image thing or a combination. My advice would be to try it once, even if you have no desire. You may get the desire part way through. However, if it's a terrible experience, then tell your husband that your hormones are just interfering and there isn't anything you can do about it. Give him lots of cuddles and affection so that he doesn't take it personally. Good luck.
Yes, mine pretty much goes away for the first trimester. It comes back 2nd trimester, drops again 3rd trimester, and is pretty much gone for the first 3 months postpartum. However my husband and I have an understanding that we will do our best to be compassionate about each other's needs - if I am not sexually available because it would actually be painful for me (like postpartum) or because too much movement would make me throw up (first trimester) he channels his energy into loving me in other ways like bringing me ginger ale and crackers or rubbing my back. For my part if I am just not in the mood but there is no real reason why we can't be intimate, I'll be honest and let him know that I'm not "in the mood" but I understand that he is and I want to be loving, so we'll go ahead and be together. Sometimes I end up getting in the mood in the middle of things, sometimes not, but I always feel good about being close and making him happy.
Yep. I also had NO drive afterward- I couldn't even watch people making out on TV, it grossed me out too much! And my daughter just turned 1, and I really still have no interest in sex, although I can now see it or talk about it without getting grossed out. Good luck, and I hope you don't turn out like me!
Mine increased like crazy! I couldn't get "it" enough! : )
But my bestfriend basically went her entire pregnancy w/o any desire. She's fine now, but it did take a while.
I actually had the REVERSE when I was preggo with my 2st kid. ALL I could think about was sex. My boyfriend of course was SOOO happy lol
But Right now, Im 32wks preggo with our 2nd kid, and I don't really have a sex drive.
I think about it...but can't do it. I don't know if its just the hormones, or being too tired or what.
Honestly at this point I feel ANYTHING but sexy, and trying to visualize myself naked in any sexual way is hard to do.
I'd say try new things? Try cooking dinner in something "sexy" or walking around in something you know your hubby LOVES on you...then just let him kiss you and let the feeling rush all over you...You'll find yourself SOOO into it...worth a shot
Yes, same here. I think since we're not ovulating, our bodies have no need for sex.
Yes, it goes away! We didn't do the deed very much during pregnancy, but my husband was so understanding. Just to warn you, it doesn't come back for awhile after the baby, either, especially if you breastfeed. It has to do with your hormones. Just talk with your husband that these are changes that are out of your control, and it has nothing to do with him or your attraction for him. That way his ego isn't hurt.
Mine totally goes away and stays away until I stop breastfeeding. But for me I just feel like even though I'm never in the mood it doesn't mean I can't have sex with my hubby. So I will still have sex with him 2 to 3 times a week even though I don't feel sexual in the least. I know it's healthy for us to continue to do it even though I never want to. The funny thing is I am now pregnant with our third and my hubby is going to Iraq for a year starting this Sept. I planned it this way cause I new I wouldn't miss having sex with him at all LOL. So I know how you feel and it will return.
this is my third pregnancy and i've lost mine every time. I always get it right back as soon as the baby is born. I think it has to do with the hormones. I would encourage you to have sex anyway. 4 months is a really long time. do things that relax you or put you in the mood. (i like back rubs and romantic movies) I always enjoy it after we get started. We usually use a sorta side ways position. it's too imporant for your marriage not too have sex! I could go the whole nine months without it but I try to initiate about once a week or every other. just let him know that you may need a little more time and attention to get turned on. i'm sure he will be willing to do the work. ; )
Pregnancy, breastfeeding.... both drastically decreased my sex drive. I'm pregnant with my second right now, and we've only been having sex maybe once every two weeks or even longer.
Try to give him a helping hand or something.... That way he still feels like you're into him and he can still "release".
You don't have to have sex with him to be intimate. :)
Good luck, it won't last for long! I knew I was fertile again once I started actively pursuing sex again- so watch out for that! LOL
Everyone is so different!! I have been the reverse for both pregnancies.
yes, I lost mine with every pregnancy. I think it's a combination (for me) of feeling unattractive, my belly being in the way, and sex being just darn uncomfortable. I found it to be an exercise in frustration. Sorry to hear you are experiencing the same thing.
