Should I Go Back to Work?

Updated on February 27, 2008
B.N. asks from Wilmer, AL
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I had plan on going back to college and also working again. I have a slight problem. The little one I have has been with me since she was two weeks old and she is now 21 months old. She has always been around me. Every other weekend her granny gets her, which is the granny from the fathers side, and everytime she comes back she seems to have a problem with me. Like she is angry that I left her. It takes me two days to get her back to normal, as I call it...that means not hitting me and giving me hugs once again. She does this to my daughter as well, hitting her also. My daughter plays with her quite a bit, so she is sister to her and has always been in that role. Just Like I am mom. So I have been debateing as to whether or not to go back to work. I have a job offer and the money would come in handy, but would it be worth it, also the cost of daycare. I need to do something, I have no outside support or income from either parent to this child, and have not received one penny from them. What should I do? Please advice me. Surveys on line is not paying what I need...LOL

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After reading and thinking about what to do, I decided I would go back to college just one night a week and it is just a few hours. I will see how she does with mommy being gone just a few hours, if all works out then maybe a few days a week back to work, I could go back on Tuesday and Wednesday and every other Saturday is what I am offered. So, I wanted to Thank all who replied to help me with this dilema.

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A.H.

answers from Tulsa on

This will be a tough decision for you. You can plan on at least $400 a month (on the low end) for full time daycare, so will you be bringing home enough after that to make it worth it? Also, I am concerned that your youngest daughter hits when she comes back home from Granny's. Is Granny enabling this or is this just something your daughter does? It might be good for your daughter to have more time with other people. Maybe you could try going back to work part time, if that job would let you, or maybe let you work part of your time at home. I personally would not do well as a stay at home mom. Being able to work and have the adult interaction and sense of responsibility at work makes me more appreciative of the time I have with my son and, I feel, makes me a better mother. I'm sure others will disagree, but that's just my opinion. Good luck whatever you choose!

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M.N.

answers from Little Rock on

Is there any way you could afford to try the daycare thing part time before you go back to work? You didn't say what area you live in, but maybe there is a local mothers day out program? She might really enjoy the interaction with other children her own age...

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A.M.

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Children grow up in a blink of an eye, if you can afford to and want to stay home, then you should. If you decide to go back to work maybe a family member can help you out with babysitting a day or two a week so you wouldnt have to put her in daycare full time. About the hitting, are you sure the granny handles your daughter when she acts up as the same way you would. Good Luck

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A.R.

answers from Tulsa on

I say no. I went to work when my daughter was a baby, and I really wish I hadn't. I had the same problems with her. I never felt like I really got to spend time with her anymore. Your daughter is a blessing, treat her like one! She will only be little for a while, and it goes so fast anyway. Daycare is really expensive too. Hope this helps.
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K.H.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Hi B.,

That is a really tough decision, I have a 13yo and an 11yo and worked part time when they were little, but now have an awesome home based business so I have the best of both worlds, an incredible income and a very flexible schedule. You may look into options of working from home.

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S.B.

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Babies are babies just once. I have been home with my youngest 4 children and I have no regrets about being here for them. I would like to invite you to look at my business The Wellness Mommy. I work from home and make considerably more than I would working a "JOB" and paying for daycare. I meet so many moms who are working just to pay the sitter. Please check out my website and if you sign in on the comments page you will be put in a drawing for a $50 shopping spree. I would love to talk with you about this opportunity. I am trying to build a team of moms who want to be moms first, but still help thier family.

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