Should I Go on the Field Trip?

Updated on October 06, 2010
M.B. asks from Ballwin, MO
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Hi Moms!
Im just learning the do's and donts of Kindergarten and could use some advice. So, the class needs parent volunteers for the field trip. Since I also have a 2 year old little side kick, it is not easy for me to get a babysitter for him that early in the morning, we live pretty far from my sister (our babysitter) and I probably wouldnt make it back in time for the field trip if I took him to my sisters. So, the teacher said if I brought him, they wouldnt allow me to be a volunteer (understandable) but they said we are welcome to go as patrons. So basically I would just be tagging along and being no help to them. :( But I really want to go. :( Would it be weird if we just tagged along or should I just let my daughter go and do her own thing?

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T.K.

answers from Dallas on

Go while the gettins good! That's a country way of saying go while you still can. Soon she won't want you anywhere near her. But for now, she still wants you around. It would be fun. But sometimes she does have to do stuff on her own so she can have a story to tell you. what did Dori say in finding nemo....if you never let her do anything.........

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F.H.

answers from Phoenix on

My kids are 14, 11 and 7 and I have gone on every single one of their field trips. Its always more fun when mom is there and they are not little forever. If you are allowed to go and still take the sibling, then I think you should. Have fun!

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D.M.

answers from St. Louis on

If you want to go then go. When my older kids had field trips to public place (the zoo, apple picking etc.) and younger siblings couldn't come I would go as a patron. If it was something like a play then I wouldn't go.

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M.L.

answers from Colorado Springs on

I'd go as a patron! You'd see some of the ins and outs of volunteering for the school, which will be handy the rest of the school year when you are able be a real volunteer. And it could be fun! Unless your daughter objects - and I don't know why she should - do it!

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M.P.

answers from Provo on

I remember my first field trip in kindergarten and we went to a farm. My dad went and that is one of the few memories that I still have of him and I when I was young. He died when I was 17 and my parents divorced when I was 7. I didn't get to see a lot of him after that. I say go as a patron and enjoy it! You never know what your daughter will remember. Have fun!!

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D.D.

answers from New York on

It wouldn't be weird however I wouldn't go. Your daughter is just starting to have adventures that don't include you and it's normal to want to be a part of everything she does. Instead of tagging along find something else to do with your 2 yr old and let your daughter gush about the great time she had on her field trip.

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A.B.

answers from New York on

Definatley go. Funny thing is you'll go as a patron but being a mom, you'll pitch in with 2 year old in tow. I've gone on so many field trips with parents with little ones and those without. I even went on a field trip after knee surgery, because I promised my son and there were plenty of moms going, and was walking with a cane and the girls had to use the bathroom and one of the "volunteers" was too busy texting so I got up to take the girls and as I am hobbeling along the hallways with 9 girls one of the, "patrons" with an 18 month old took over the line of girls. You'll have a great time and get to see what is expected of a volunteer for future trips and it'll be cool to see how your daughter interacts with her friends. Have a great time!

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M.R.

answers from Phoenix on

What a nice compromise...to go as a patron. You'll get to meet other moms, see your daughter, she'll know you're there too with her little brother. You'll be able to tag along with your daughters group when convenient, and still handle your little one when necessary. It's all good. Go have fun!

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R.Y.

answers from New York on

If it would be an enjoyable trip for your younger one and you would not be overwhelmed managing both kids then go. I went on my son's pre-K trip a few days ago and there were parents there for more than half the kids. But it was still fun. I got my mom to stay over at my house the night before and watch my 21 month old for the morning.

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K.T.

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I am in the minority, but I say don't go if you can't find care for your 2 year old. 2 year olds tend to draw a lot of attention from kindergarten girls and it will take away from the adventure and specialness for the day for your daughter. It is great that you want to volunteer. Could your 2 year old stay the night at our sisters so you dont have to worry about transportation? Or could your sister have a "sleepover" at your house? I have been on the teacher side of this and while we never say anything to our parents, it's nice when they are no younger children around diverting attention from the students and the learning experience.

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A.F.

answers from Columbus on

Go! It will mean a lot to your daughter for you to be there. I remember last year when I went on my daughter's first kindergarten field trip, a little girl that was in my group said (with a huge frown) "I wish my mommy was here!" I knew from that point I would never miss a field trip unless it was beyond my control.

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R.J.

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You'll still be able to help, you just won't be RESPONSIBLE for other people's children.

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J.K.

answers from Kansas City on

You should go with your toddler! You would still be able to help out with your daughter and keep an eye on the kids, even thought you wouldn't be "allowed" to. Besides, it will be a great opportunity for you to make some friends with the parents of your child's schoolmates, and that is the best!!

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K.U.

answers from Detroit on

You didn't mention where the field trip was to, but if it is something that would be fun for your 2-year-old as well, I don't why you shouldn't go. If it was my daughter I would. Your daughter is at an age where she would probably be happy to have you there in any capacity. It won't be long before she won't want to be seen with you in public. Take the opportunity to take some pictures too!

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M.D.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I say if you want to go as a patron then go. Go on the field trip, take the younger child and do not volunteer. Younger children do tend to take more of your attention and that would not be good as a volunteer. Having you there as a visual may be a help to your daughter and calm the "Mom Nerves" as well. If you are there you can keep an eye on your daughter, just incase she needs you or if anything goes wrong, you are there. I agree with another poster who mentioned a sleepover for the younger child to prevent transportation issues. That could solve the situation if it is an option.
Good Luck

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K.F.

answers from Salinas on

Hi- Not the policy at all schools as another poster said. My oldest attended a charter school k-3rd and I brought my youngest from almost infancy on lots of feild trips. I even helped at the school with her in tow (crafty or outdoors stuff not academic of course) It was great for her and the older kids and we never had a problem, in fact she kind of became the school "mascot" and it really helped fine tune her social skills in addition to preschool. They are both at another very academically challenging charter and getting excellent grades and are well adjusted. Take your little one, you'd both have fun, your oldest will be thrilled to have you there and your youngest will learn too, just in a different way. Have fun!

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C.H.

answers from Kansas City on

I would still go. Depending on where you are going, maybe your 2 year old could be in his stroller and you could still help out a little. I volunteer once a week in my son's K class and it's so fun to get to know the kids and he's really proud that I am there.

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

That is the policy everywhere and for all grades. Go and have a good time.
Your younger one will feel like a big kid and your older one will be glad you went.
That said, if you could find a way to get care for the younger one, the older one would feel extra special to have you go with them by yourself... The older ones usually get the short stick during this sort of thing...
Either way - Go and have fun!
LBC

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S.F.

answers from Madison on

We have the same policy at our school. Not weird at all! Go along and have fun. I did that last year when my oldest was in kindergarten and brought my younger child.

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B.B.

answers from Dallas on

I would go! It would be a great opportunity to see your daughter in action and meet teachers. You wouldn't have the responsibility of watching the kiddos and it could give you some great information about her class and the interactions. I think, it would be fun. I would totally go, if I was in your position!!

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T.M.

answers from Fort Myers on

I would go on the field trip, just knowing that there is an extra pair of eyes and ears should be welcomed by her teacher! Your little 2 yr old sidekick will have fun too! Enjoy observing and learning something new, in other words, have fun with this! There will be other field trips coming up when you can become a volunteer and this is a great way to start off the new school year with your daughter.

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A.P.

answers from Kansas City on

Ask around and see if you can find a closer sitter, or see if you can make it to sisters and still to the field trip.
I think your kindergartner would feel special if she knew you went out of your way to be there.
I've taken a younger sib and it isn't all it is cracked up to be!

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L.N.

answers from New York on

i think parent volunteers are there to prevent stuff. if you have a 2 year old tagging along you will not be able to be helpful. i say this because a mom brought her son, or was bringing her son the days she was volunteering for recess, and a child got hurt in the playground because she was not paying attention. if you say i want to go then you're taking someone else's place who could be helpful during the field trip. so i say either go by yourself or don't go. other moms will make sure your child is safe.

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C.C.

answers from Topeka on

If you want to go, then go, doesn't mean you can't help either, means you won't have a position of responsibility since the 2yo might distract you and keep you too busy. As somebody who volunteered for a couple of kindergarten field trips, might be nice not being responsible for keeping a half dozen 5 year olds in line. Enjoy it with your daughter!

D.H.

answers from Kansas City on

I didn't read any of the other posts, but I do understand what the school is saying. You would most likely be chasing around your 2 year old more than helping like you'd be needed. So, why don't you see if your sister would take him to your sisters the night before for a sleepover? Would she be opposed to that? OR see if your sister would be willing to spend the night with you the night before and watch him at your house. You could put in for lunch or have her stay for dinner that evening as a thank you.

Go to as many field trips as you can, cuz when your 2 year old is in school you will most likely at somepoint have to pick which ones you go on, since some of them will be the same day. I went on as many as I could and then ended up teaching and could go to any parties or field trips. Bummer!

Hope this helped. Good luck and God Bless.

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