My niece is almost 3.. this whole yr my sister her boyfriend and my niece all lived with my mither.
She was a very hyper active child and threw horrible tantrums they think she might be adhd
But she still talked and laughed and interacted with others. Well my sister moved out about a month
Ago and she has stopped being the hyper happy kid she was.. now she cries about
Everything. She doesn't participate in her gytmnastic class. She whines doesn't talk much. Sometimes
She points and will get mad if you don't understand.. she is not potty trained.
So when I change her butt and my mother has her bottom is always red and has little red dots.
She doesn't want really anything to do with my daughter and they use to be best friends..
She walks around all depressed. I shared my concerns with my sister and she doesn't
Seem to think much of it... now.... my sisters boyfriend has always had questionable
Parenting skills... he seems more concerned withhis video games and sleeping
Also my mom yelled at him for spanking her bare bottom with strong force
Leaving a hand print for hours.. she told him to never do it again.. she's 2
And also has adhd just like him so he should be most understanding..
He also has left her in thw bedroom screaming ontop of her lungs for a punishmeant.
Again my mom told him not to do that.. I honestly think so he wouldn't
Have to deal with her he would lock her in a room all day long..
He has taken her to his moms house told my sister he would be back in
A couple hrs this was at Spm and at 1am she was calling everywhere
To find where he was with her. She finally got a call back saying I'm 15mins away..
Fishy? Weird? I dunno... what is your opinion? I want to do what's best for
That little girl.. whether upsetting my sister and her bf or not
I beg to differ with Cheryl B. a friends daughter was being sexually molested by her grandma's unregistered sex offender boyfriend and the signs were change in behavior, problems with toileting, and a constant red rash on her privates.
Trust your gut and call CPS. I think it may even be annonymous. Please do what is right for this child.
Trust your gut and call CPS.
Please report this. And two year olds do not have ADHD, they have ignorant parents who don't understand child development. At worse, she IS being abused. At best, your sister and her BF need parenting classes. In any case, this little girl needs help.
I don't know, I don't think anyone can truly weigh in without knowing these people personally. Not exactly sure what your question is, really. I know you love your niece but you're not her parent, and it is VERY, VERY hard to get a child removed from her parents. Even if you involve CPS, it is likely that nothing will be done based on what you have stated here.
If it were me, I'd pray for her, every day of my life, and tell her as often as I can that if she ever needs me, I'm there for her. Soon, she will be old enough to talk to you about her family life and what happens to her. Be the arms of comfort for her when she needs it.
God bless!
It's possible that she is being neglected in a 'time' aspect. They may be providing food and shelter, but not much else. It would be interesting to see if she spent a weekend or a week back at your mom's house if her attitude changed.
If you have concerns that your niece's current living situation isn't in her best interest, then you should contact CPS about doing a home study.
It could be many things. However, if you have an inkling that she is being abused, it is your responsibility to report it so that it can be investigated.
What are you seriously willing to do for your niece? For a 3 year old, she's gone through a lot. Maybe her mother and her boyfriend need some parenting classes but do you seriously think she's being abused? You are the only one to answer the questions, you don't need a sideline to agree with you, your a mother, you know if you felt your child was being miss-treated you would be a momma bear.
Can you talked with you sister seriously, what she wants for her little girl, what she wanted as a child. Sometimes taking a step outside the situation and looking at it, you get a better perspective. Also, give her some great parenting books, maybe have a play date with your sister and niece. Your sister sounds young, her perspective on life, may still revolve around her, not all young mothers are like that, but I've seen a lot in my life.
Your niece also needs consistency, she'll learn survival skills, we all do in order to cope, but they may not be healthy. Maybe just offer your services to watch her, if you are willing. There is no quick solution, time will show everything. Keep showing her LOVE, she needs that. She may use attention, negative, just to have some, not her fault, just her coping skills.
My heart breaks for her, hugs going out to her and you!
Hmm do you think your sister will let you have play dates with your neice. Something liek gosh I miss her mind if I take her for a few hours. Spend time with the girl one on one. Also talk to your sister about being worried about her is she happy hows it going with the kid. Not accussing but consolitory(sp).
What the heck is wrong with your sister?
How could she allow her daughter to be subjected to this kind of life?
If I was very, very certain about what was happening I'd call CPS anonymously and see if they think there is enough to file a report.
That being said, she could be removed from your sister and that could also be very traumatic too.
Gosh I don't envy you. This poor child . . .
