E.A.
Hi N.. When I read your request, I just had to respond. My name is E. and I am a 25 year old single mother of a 1 1/2 year old boy. I've basically been a single mother since the day he was born. I'm not going to lie to you at all. I've alwayz been a strong independent woman and have been able to face and deal with any problem that has come my way because, just like you, I've been taught to be independent. But being a single mother, has been one of the hardest things I have ever had to do my entire life. But you know what?...I'm doing it. Me and my son have all we need and are happier than we ever been, when his father was around.
N., I feel very strongly about a woman's happiness. I feel that every woman deserves to happy especially when there's children around. I've alwayz been taught that if a man is not making you happy, you do not need him around. You do not need to live an unhappy life and if you are not happy with him and continue to stay with him, you are basically choosing to be unhappy. Because we all have a choice to live the life that we want. I chose to be happy which is why I separated from my son's father. Alot of woman stay with their partner only because they fear being alone or they fear that they are not going to make it. But if you are a strong independent woman, I believe u can make it on your own. Only you know how independent you are and only you know how ready you are. If you feel ready to be on your own, do it. You don't need somebody by your side that it going to be bringing you down or acting like a second child. You have a newborn that you are going to be attending to and you need your partner to assist you with that newborn, not act like another child and make things harder on you. Let me just say this, I feel very proud of myself for what I do for myself and my son. I work a full time job and everything I have, I have purchased on my own with my money cuz I worked hard for it. My son has everything he needs and he has enough people around him that give him all the love he needs.
Besides your independence, another good thing you have going for yourself is that you will be graduating soon. I have an associates degree myself and believe me, that has helped me out alot because due to that, I have a great job as a paralegal in a huge law firm.
I believe that when a woman has her education, a job, strong independence, and family memebers by her side such as her parents or brothers or sister, I believe you have it all.
I have my mother that helps me out with my son and that's all the help I need. I will say this, when you come home from giving birth, I hope you will have someone around to help you because you will need it.When I came home from giving birth, my mother was a great help. The best help I could get and even now she helps me out a little here and there but what ever help she gives me, it's alot to me because it helps me out somehow.
I really hope things work out with you and your husband so you will not have to go through a divorce but only you know if you're at the point where you know that it's not going to work. Woman alwayz know if it's worth to keep trying or when it's time to just let it go. I wish you the best but alwayz keep in mind that it takes a real woman to be a single mother and by the little that you mentioned in your request, I know that you can do it. It sounds like you have your head on your shoulders. I know you will be a great mommie. : )Here is my email address in case you ever need someone to talk to ____@____.com