Single Mom Dating - Maple Valley,WA

A guy asked me out once when my 1st DD was 2 months old. My hormonal response? "As long as you have a safe car to drive b/c I have a newborn!" Lol. He left me alone after that, even though I was totally willing. ;)
When I started dating my husband he already knew I had a child, and I held nothing back when he wanted to date me. We had talked for a few times and I basically laid it out as "You know that I have Julia and she comes first. I'd love to date you, but you have to realize that we a package deal." That was 10 years ago, so my advice is, let them know! The right guy won't let that hold him back from you.

You are honest from the start. You'd want someone with kids to tell you from the start, too.

Surprisingly, many men are ok dating women who have children & those that aren't, aren't for you.

I have been single (divorced) 30 years and I always tell them right away. Love me love my kids --my grandkids--my cats --my dogs oh and my freedom.

I knew DH had kids upfront. Being a dad is so much a part of who he is, but he wasn't overbearing about it. I actually met SS at the same party where I met DH!

Just be honest. Your child isn't a disease and motherhood is part of who you are. The ones who aren't ready to take you both on isn't someone you want to spend your time on. Not that they're bad guys, but wrong for YOU.

If a guy asks you out, tell him, "Sure. What night? I'll need to get a sitter for my son."
Works it right into the conversation without being awkward.

When he asks you out and you discuss the plans, I would say, "Friday night is good for me. That is a good night for my babysitter to watch my 3 year old, though I do need to be back by 11 to get my sitter home." He can cancel if it bothers him that much. You will probably be able to tell on the date if it makes him squeamish. Get the awkwardness out of the way up front.

my situation's almost exactly as yours, single a little over 2 yrs, son's almost 3, haven't dated or had a boyfriend (well, a little but they were friends fr a long time ago)...
ANYWAY, my body (pooch) tells pretty much that i've had a baby, but other than that *IF* i'm ever asked out, which is rare b/c all i do is work & take care of my angel, i always immedfiately mention something about arranging childcare, need to coordinate my schedule to meet up w/him, & also just doting on my sweet boy from the get go. i think it's important for them to also know my little guy comes first.
but...lol...i should also say that's prob why i don't have a dating life or boyfriend b/c they DO realize they don't have a chance in competing w/time or attention or love from me.
HA! turns out i don't have any advice, i'im sorry! just wanted to comment anyway, i guess. i wish you luck. single parenting & dating is IMPOSSIBLE for me, i hope you find a way to make it work if that's what you like!

Where are these ideas coming from 50 years ago? You tell him right away and if he's too much of an egotist to be able to accept "another man's child" you can eliminate him right away.
I never hid he fact that I had a child from any man I met. That's how I got a really great man to be my husband.

i agreee at the right enviorment right away. Perhaps in a loud bar setting, wait until you're actually on the 1st date or meeting up outisde of that enviorment, but any other place you'd meet I'd say it right away. Ussually when they ask what I like to do I nclude my daughter in my answer. Or if someone said can you go out thurs I may say sure I don't have my daughter that night.