Single Mother Groups and Things to Do with Daughter

Hi Jenny,

My heart goes out to you and your little girl. You must be struggling so much right now. Your house situation is enough for anyone to have to deal with let alone the pain and guilt you are faced with in this realtionship with your boyfriend.
No judgement here Jenny, complete understanding.

In my past, I had a relationship with someone that was definately toxic, and I too was a single Mom, dealing with the struggle of attachment. I knew that the relationship was not good and for a while I used the attachment between my boyfriend and my daughter as a reason to stay with him, as if leaving him would be too devastating to my little one. Well, when enough was enough, I got strong and guess what... so did my little girl!! That truly was the BEST thing I have ever done as a Mother. I was scared and hated the thought of being alone. The truth was, I was more alone while being with him.

After the initial break up came a couple more break ups (that's how they operate, they realize you mean business, they get scared that you will really be DONE this time, they come on with the "Honey Moon" attitude...I love you, here's some guilt, what about your daughter, you know I love her like she's my own..yada, yada,yada.) you really want to beleive him, and then BAM, it starts all over agian and you are left wondering if you have the energy to do it all over again.

Here's what I did! I went to Church! I got involved in a Single Womens Small Group and for the first time in my life I learned how to be a healthy, confident, strong woman of Christ and a much better Mother to a little girl who may have had to struggle the same way I did all those years, because i didn't show her how to be in a healthy relationship. There are so many ways we as women feel responsible for the wrongs in life, but to realize that the only ones we are able to control are the ones that are before us at this time, not in the past, not in the future, right now.

Good luck Jenny, I am praying for you right now, and I go to my Married Women's Small Group tonight, we will pray for some peace and clarity on your home and relationship situation. Mail me anytime.

Blessings,
C.

www.meetup.com has groups for everyone with every interest.

Sorry that is my only idea, but you and your little girl are in my prayers.

Good Luck and God Bless
K.

there are alot of yahoo groups in michigan that meet up for playgroups. just type in michigan moms and browse them.

Jenny -

I may be able to help you with a home to rent. We recently purchased a foreclosed home in the Square Lake Road/Adams Road area and are renovating it. It should be ready to rent in July. It's a three bedroom tri-level, no basement, but it's very spacious, has a big garage and sits on a large, gorgeous lot that backs to the neighborhood elementary school. The location would be very convenient for getting to work quickly in Pontiac and the proximity to the elementary school would be great for your daughter. I've personally found that getting involved with school/PTO groups is a wonderful way to make new friends and I believe it could be helpful for you and your daughter. There is also a nice Lutheran church in the neighborhood and I'm sure they have parenting support groups that you could get involved with. Those are just some of my thoughts. If you'd like more information on the house, please feel free to give me a call, ###-###-####. Thanks!

I lead a moms' group at The Shores Church in St.Clair Shores on Thursday mornings from 10 - 11:30. You'd be most welcome to come with your daughter if she's not in school at that time. It's very infomal. Moms come & go w/their kids as they need to during our meeting. We discuss parenting issues and pray around the circle of moms at the end. We have both single and married moms 7 not all from our church. I think you'd find a good deal of support in this group of 7-10 moms. We'll meet thru the first week of June then do monthly picnics over the summer and start up again in the fall. You enter the church on Lange St. just off Manhattan which runs off 10 Mile between Harper & Little Mack, a little east of I-94 (10 Mile Exit). We have an annex on 10 Mile but we meet in the main church behind that. Church: ###-###-####.

Hi Jenny my name is S. and I am your sister in Christ. I think if there is a prayer group at your church maybe you should try attending. I cannot begin to tell you when I started getting serious about prayer how the marculous happened in my life one being my daughter being healed of kidney failure,and Lupus yes,all this happened because of prayer and my Faith in Jesus that He is a Healer and He can do anything,but fail. The Lord has a husband for you sis and maybe distancing yourself is a good idea. This will not be easy and this is where prayer comes in. I will pray for you when I go to prayer this afternoon. This is how I start my day off by attending prayer whenever possible. The presence of God gives me a peace that I could not begin to explain,and this all happens when I meet Him in prayer. I never leave the way I came awsome !!!!!!!!! I will leave you for now, but know that Jesus love you,and He sees and He cares.

Your Sis In Christ,
S.

I'm part of a play group that meets on Tues/Thurs. at 11:30 at different parks. My daughter is 4 and that's about the average age. If you'd like more info, please email me at ____@____.com'd be happy to have you join us. E.

Hi Jenny, It sounds like you're having a rough time. But you will make it through. In 10 or 20 years, you'll be going through drivers training, graduation, your own daughters marriage, and so on. This will just be a distant memory.
In the meantime, I think staying busy is a good idea. Church is always a good place to start. Alot of Baptist churches have many activities throughout the week to keep you busy. You might want to try that.
Also, I'm sorry to hear about your house, but, maybe moving will help you out, since the price of gas is so high. Packing is a job in itself. When you don't have activities outside the home, try sorting, and getting rid of what you don't need.
Actually, taking your kids to the library can be a great way to get out. And, some local libraries have free passes to museums, so you can try some different things.
I want to recommend 1st Baptist in Troy for a church. Because they're a bigger church, they have a lot of support groups and activities. I have some friends that go there that love it. I hope the best for you.