Ok, So I am ready to date again, But it seems like all the guys that I have come across are only looking for one thing, which I can see from a mile away. I am not into that and am looking for a good role model for my boys, 2 and 11. My delemna is the guys seem to be into me but not my priorities. And I am a 3 package deal love it or leave it. Any suggestions or where I can find a decent man who does not run at the sight of a child, in general.
I am with ya girl! I am a single mom of 3 and any guy that I meet out seems to just want the goods!!! I joined plentyoffish.com........its free and Im broke! but it says right on my profile that I have kids so if they cant handle it then they dont have to talk to me! Ie met a couple great guys on there. I dont know where to meet good guys in person anymore either so I took matters into my own hands! Good luck!
You should probably go on eharmony or match.com or one of those and look for other single parents who are GOOD dads! I actually have several friends who have met their husbands online and they relationships have stood the test of time. If I were you, I wouldn't post anything about having kids on my page, but I would look for men who were single fathers. You could let people know after you met them and checked them out that you had children, but you don't want to advertise your situation necessarily. Unfortunately 90+% of guys who aren't dads already do NOT want to deal with kids -or at least not until they've married someone and had kids of their own. Some do, but the good ones are hard to find from what I've seen, so be very careful! If you meet men with children, then at least you're coming from a common place and they'll understand your priorities.
Church, the park (where other dads and parents bring their kids), neighborhood or single events.
If he's running at the sight of a child........GOOD RIDANCE!
if they are worth keeping they wont run. if they dont have your priorities they arent worth having.
If you want a good role model for your boys, look in places that you would want them to be when they grow up. I'd suggest church (there are some singles events at churches in our area), volunteer groups, support groups, charity functions.
Blessings to you and your family.
Julia
Try one of the reputable online sites. That way any guy who contacts you will already have seen on your profile that you have kids. But be careful about first meetings and all of that, always take your own car and meet at public places.
I found mine at church. I also know of several singles groups that are church sponsored that seem to have good success at pairing individuals. There are several classes I know of too that will prepare you with what to look for in a partner and how to identify whether they have those qualities quickly so you don't waste a lot of your time. For the class information, go to www.trustmarriage.com and look at the Love Thinks program! I hope this helps.
I'd try a church or a social group for single parents. Good luck. You'll find someone eventually.
I was in your situation five months ago. ok, i only have one kid, but i decided it was time to start dating. I live in a small town, so there's not much to do around here. I talked to my friend, and she reccomended www.okcupid.com she met her fiance on there. I swear by it now, it matched me with a man who was a divorced father going back to school. a similar situation to mine. we talked for a week or two online, then decided to meet. we've been inseparable since. we're moving in together at the start of next month, and he has bought a diamond ring. Without that site, i would still be looking. if you have any questions please ask. i reccomend not using eharmony or other pay sites. they are statistically almost impossible to meet the one.good luck and happy searching!
I don't think there is a specific place to find a good guy. The creeps are EVERYWHERE, so continue to trust your instincts, and be cautious. You have two other lives to consider, so dating is much more complicated then a woman without kids. Try dating sites, church etc. And sometimes your friends or their husbands may know of someone, and never considered fixing them up. No matter how you go about it, it's not easy. I was a single mom for 10 years before I finally met my husband. And I kept all mens at a good arms length for a LONG LONG time before letting them meet my son. Actually only one guy did before my husband. Good luck!!
like someone else said, church or park, amusement parks anywhere there are kids' activities
