Sleep Habits - Tampa, FL

Updated on May 10, 2008
J.S. asks from Tampa, FL
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My 2yr. old has recently started having problems going to sleep. This all started about a week ago. Until then, she was a great sleeper. Now, she doesn't want to be put down in her bed at night. She was agreeable to sleeping on a blanket on the floor in her room until a day or so ago. Now she wants us to lay w/ her until she's asleep. I've read that it's normal for sleep patterns to change at this age, but I still don't know what to do. I don't want to get her used to having us sleep w/ her all the time b/c she needs to learn to go to sleep on her own. But, on the other hand, I'm reading that the sleep disruption is about anxiety and they need the reassurance. I would love to hear what some of you have done. Also, as a side note, this is only a problem at night. She goes down w/o any problems for her daily nap. Thanks everyone!

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J.C.

answers from Lakeland on

My daughter is 2 1/2 and not too long ago we went through the same thing. I tried a lot of different things, but the one that finally worked for us was this~
I would put her down (go through the whole story, tuck in....routine) and tell her I would come back in in 5 minutes to check on her. And I would (going back when you say you will is key to this method)! Then I'd tell her I'd be back in 5 more minutes. After 2 or 3 "5 minutes" I made it 10 minutes. Usually after a couple of those she was fast asleep.
It only took a few nights, maybe a week, of this routine for her not to beg us to sleep with her. Now, she's back to her normal sleeping self! :)

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A.R.

answers from Naples on

Hi - I had this happen to me after my daughter turned 2. We had gone on a short trip (with her, too) and when we came home she started climbing out of her crib and would cry at bedtime. Prior to that she had been a terrific sleeper. I did the "supernanny" technique -putting her right back in bed even if she was crying. Then when she finally (after about 30 min.) stayed down I sat at the edge of the bed then every day I moved further away until I was out the door. It "only" took 4 days. She went back to sleeping (in the crib) and now her bed without any problems since then. The crying is hard but I thought it was for her own good b/c she was very cranky without the sleep and I knew she needed my help in being reassured. I think the key was moving further away each night. I remembered it from the show and it did work! Good luck.

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N.S.

answers from Sarasota on

Ok, we have a 5 and 4 year old, so we dealt with this twice within a year and it was tough. I can tell you that it is very much an anxiety thing usually. They're more aware of themselves and being separated now, and they don't want to be left alone. My kids too would sleep fine if I slept with them, but we did that with our oldest and paid for it, they won't break the habit until you make them...it's not something they'll grow out of, you have to teach them. The best thing we did was do this: First, a bedtime routine, i.e. bath, teeth, story, bed...or whatever you guys do, is so important so they know bed is coming. Then after the story or whatever, tell them good night, give a big hug and lay them down. When they get up, shorten the statement, and say only 'bedtime' and put to bed. Don't ever show anger, just lay them down. Next time, don't even make eye contact or say anything, no matter how big the tantrums are, just lay them down. If they wake in the night, do it all over again...in the beginning it will be very frustrating, because they'll cry and not like it, and you'll want to give in, but DON'T!!! It's so important to be consistent, or you send mixed signals and it only upsets them more down the road. The other big thing, is make sure that during the day, that she is getting adequate attention...I still find with my kids that if we're going through a stressful time or a time when they're not getting as much attention, they'll do it more at night...in those cases, I try to make story time a little longer, give more hugs, but still be firm with the bed routine, otherwise, you'll be back to newborn sleep, which is never good. Good luck :) Oh, I forgot, also it may help to try this...which we did too: Do this technique I said, but the first night, sleep next to her bed and do this, then the second night, sleep in the room but by the door....the next night...sleep in the doorway, until you make your way to the bedroom...in a sense you're weaning your child from you as a need at bed.

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E.H.

answers from Pittsburgh on

J.,

First Happy Mother’s Day (a little early I know). I know exactly what you are going through. About when my daughter turned 2 she did the same thing and it was all of a sudden. Then she started to have night terrors which didn't help. Before her pattern changed my husband and I were able to basically give her a kiss, lay her down and leave the room and she would fall asleep. Like I said one night she just refused to take a bath (because she knew that was the routine) and she absolutely loves getting baths. Then putting her to bed was very difficult. What we did was basically stuck it out and did the routine the same way still. Then we read to her and rock with her in the glider. Before she would fall asleep in our arms we would then lay her down we would give her a kiss. We would stand (I refused to lay with her because I didn’t want to make a habit of it) there for a little bit to reassure her that going to sleep was a good thing. If she was still awake I would tell her I will be right out in the living room. We then would crack the door and leave. If she cried for me I would go back in and reassure her that everything was okay. I would calm her down and do it again. I don’t believe in letting them cry it out. I think it’s hard enough being a toddler. On top of that I didn’t want another night terror which according to my pediatrician is worse than a nightmare. She will be 3 in just a few months and bedtime is again no problems. So it will get better.

Hope that helps.

Beth

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H.B.

answers from Tampa on

Do NOT worry about creating so-called 'Bad' habits with yor little girl. This is a stage (one of many stages and changes she will go through) and it will not last forever....meaning that you will not be rocking her to sleep in college! Right now she needs you, for whatever reason or change she is experiencing and you are totally right to feel that you should be there to reassure her. Many people talk about how babies and toddlers 'need' to learn to sleep on their own. In my opinion, they will be fine in their own good time, and sleeping with them for a while, changing her routine, offering her comfort will not do damage, but will create trust, understanding and give her the sense that she can count on you (and people in general) when she is scared or has any other need.

From what I have read, turning to family and people for comfort is a much better habit than being left to fend for themselves, especially at age two. I have a 12 year old as well, and I am gald he will turn to us, rather than a bad group of friends, drugs, alcohol, etc....

Also - could she be getting her 2 year molars?

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L.L.

answers from Tampa on

Same with our two year old. I read the begin having night terrors around this age. My son recently started telling me he was scared of the dark. We got him a glo-worm and a night light. It has helped. He still does not go down easily but we tell him stories and talk to him alot about not being scared. We do silly things like close all closet doors in this room and just let him know all will be o.k.

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B.C.

answers from Tampa on

At around the age of 2.5 kids brains have more emotional awareness of self and this often results in them having nightmares or night terrors.
Both my son and daughter went through a stage where they would wake up screaming every night around 2 AM. Our Dr explained the brain development stage and recommended that we wake them up by rolling them over or talking to them about 30 minutes before their night terrors would occur. Waking them up a bit help disrupt their sleeping pattern enough to prevent the night terrors.
But they didn't last long and she will eventually out grow this phase. I'm sure your love and care will make her a great sleeper once again.

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R.R.

answers from Tampa on

My son is 22 months old and he is having some sleep issues too. My physician is saying it is nightmares or possible molars coming in. I believe that it is a phase and continue your love/support to get through it. Hang in there. Good Luck!

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A.C.

answers from Tampa on

Hi! This is definitely a phase! My daughter went through this for about a month or so and she was scared to go to sleep, would wake up terrorized in the night, etc. She would tell me about a witch she sees in her room and a scary man and would have a story to go with it! These were her reasons for not going to sleep. I talked with other moms and they reassured me it is just a phase and at this age kids are recognizing feelings and thoughts and having nightmares. It used to bother me alot that she would have nightmares because we never exposed her to anything scary or upsetting. She is 21/2 now and sleeps fine. She doesn't mention the witch or scary man any more. I used to tell her that if she saw either of them at night when she closed her eyes to tell them to go away! I would reassure her in the middle of the night when she woke up that she was safe, mommy and daddy are here with you and encourage her to go back to sleep. I can assure you this is just a phase and hang in there! It will get better.

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