Sleeping Problems with My 5 Yr Old.....

Updated on January 08, 2011
S.S. asks from Havre de Grace, MD
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My daughter is in kindergarten and a little boy in her class told her that he was a werewolf and a vampire and that he hid under her bed at night. This was earlier in the school year but it has stuck with her even to this day. Sometimes at bed time, she will say, " I just can't get that out of my mind Mommy." I talk to her and we say prayers together at night and until she goes to sleep fully, I check in on her to make sure she knows I am there for her. Inevitably, she will wake up at around 3AM and wake me up too. Sometimes she just needs to use the bathroom, but more frequently it is because she is scared. I think what happens is that she will get hot and kick her covers off and then get chilly and wake up just enough for her mind to wander and then she is up needing comfort. I feel so badly for her. I also make sure that we don't watch anything scary that would further play on her mind. I guess it's normal for kids this age to wake at night but I would really love for her and I to get a good night's sleep. I need ideas!!!! I'm tired and each day this goes by only leaves me more tired but I try to think of her and how she must feel ....

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We do check under her bed, but that seems to not matter at 3AM. Very, very good idea to have a toy guard her bed!!!!!

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J.C.

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I have not read the other answers, so I apologize if I duplicate. I would suggest that you put some water or something else in a spray bottle that you can explain to her is something that will keep away any monsters or vampires or anything else unwanted! (or get febreze and put another label on it - she can love the smell and it can be one that vampires and werewolves can't tolerate!) Then you two can spray the room and under the bed before bedtime. Then she can keep it next to her bed and spray it when she wakes up at 3AM. More nightlights and/or brighter ones may help with the nighttime look of a room too. Good luck. I feel for her too, to be scared that way is not fun!

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S.B.

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What a weird thing for that boy to tell her. Have you had her check under her bed with you so she can see that there's nothing there? Maybe she has a special toy that you can set on the floor by her bed to be her "guard" at night?

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D.Z.

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I'm fifty years old and I haven't forgotten the fear that lived inside me when my friend's older brother told me, at age 6, about werewolves and vampires and they told me they would steal me away from the house and I'd never see my family again. And they could come from under the bed, in the closet or through a window. That night I watched all three places and worried, cried, etc. terrified. I don't know how I got over it, I just remember the terror.
I have seen young children (mine and others) work with their fears with different actions and adult nurturing: draw a picture of child able to fight the fearful thing (my daughter told me she gave herself skills of Kung Fu and fought the dragon she feared at night; a few nights later she just had to say "no" real firm and the dragon turned away). count to six (her age) over and over when ever the thought crept in. sing a mighty ballad of her courage against this fear - and she can conjure up any people or weapons or skills she needs to be successful.
Finally, I found that the footsie pajamas (with a shirt underneath to keep her warm when she has to take it all off to use the bathroom at night) reduces the number of nights with waking initiated knocking off covers.
With my children, there would be play acting with peers and siblings of fighting monsters, damsels in distress, and more night time talks of scary things... and these activities made the dreams more empowering for my child to face her fears and the nightmare becoming a dream. Good luck.

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A.P.

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The spray is worth trying. But to up the power of the spray, use Holy Water. If you are Catholic, or know someone who is, Holy Water is easy to come by. We go through a lot at my house. My daughter gets blessed every night and every morning. I have a friend whose teenage daughter uses it every night so she won't worry about school. You can put the Holy Water into a spray bottle that that held something fragrant, such as a room sachet, and it will have a bit of a fragrance to it. Holy Water also works well on bad attitudes and poltergeists. I'm serious. Mostly because if you believe it will work, then it will. My daughter also has a dream catcher and we pray for God's protection every night. It really helped her when she started getting worried.

Also, I told her I paid to much for our house to have monsters or werewolves in it. Also, we are the first owners, so I know there is no residual energy here. Pets are good deterrents, too. We don't worry about mummies or aliens because we have cats. The dog keeps everything else away. So, if you have pets, you can tell her in all seriousness that they will protect her.
Then she can tell that weird kid that "No, you are not under my bed because my cat/dog/gerbil/bird would alert me if you were there, protect me and chase you out." and she gets to own the solution, too.

Also, make sure she gets to bed at a good hour so she won't be prone to night terrors.

Hope this helps

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N.B.

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What's worked with my daughter is that she has a little fairy that is on the headboard of her bed. If she gets scared at night, she takes her fairy down and tells her fairy what good things she wants to dream about. At first she found it a bit difficult, so I sat with her and we made a long list of all the things she loves and would like to dream about (she told me and I wrote it all down).
Good luck!

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I.C.

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I would suggest a few things that she might do on her own. Get her to spray a nice smelling air purifier thing, it could deter the vampires. put one of those blue lights as a nightlight. Leave her with a flashlight, so she can check when she is scared when she wakes up. And lastly, get her to play her favorite night music (my kids like the sounds of waves, they have been both sleeping with that since birth - we have a simple night music player so it is easy for the kids to restart it without help). this might help her to "self-sooth" herself back to sleep without waking you up.
good luck!

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R.M.

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That is so creepy-it scared me! Did someone talk to his mom? I bet he is afraid of her-maybe if everyone sat down together, perhaps over lunch, it would put things in perspective and the bad thoughts would subside-I'm surprised that just being in class together doesn't ease the impact-but I know how your daughter feels when you just can't shake a feeling of fear. Good luck!

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B.P.

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The spray ("monster spray" or "werewolf spray" or whatever) is a good idea. She can keep it by her bed and spray as needed (if you trust she won't soak the carpet or something!).

Also, one evening before bed, sit down with her and encourage her to draw a picture (or more than one if need be) of what frightens her at night. Look at the picture(s) together and talk about it, reassuring her (as I'm sure you've done a million times). Then have a "ceremony" in which she tears up the picture(s) of what scares her and puts the pieces in the trash. Help her think of it as getting rid of the problem for good!

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