A.,
You Are not alone. Almost everyone I know is struggling one way or another. I've read most of the response to find out new ideas to help my family. Here are a few things that have helped our family and I hope they can help yours.
Food- OMG a lot of $$$$. I shop at Fresh N easy, everyday they have 50% of items throughout the store. I even found dough there to make pizza with!! I usually go on a Monday or tuesday after the weekend rush. ( I used to price match, but it had me to frazzled looking through the papers time and time again, I lost my sanity. For you women that do it, I admire you!!) Also, when I check out of this store I make sure I gets someones help so they can give me 5 dollars off for every 20. I saved 30 Dollars last week. I also do the bountiful baskets every two weeks. I volunteer and get to leave by 7:30-8 am and have the rest of the day to spend with my family. Also, anything I would buy out, ice cream and what not I try to make at home. I also switched from coffee to tea, because you can get a lump of it through bountiful baskets for like 4 dollars.
Fun/ Movies/ things for the kids- We got rid of cable at the beginning of this year. It was the best thing ever for my family. We spend more time together instead of watching TV( we still have internet or I would go insane, but that's all we pay for). We used to have the blockbuster online, but we had to cut it. So we do now at least once a week is the library!! I know the library!! AT the footbills branch you can rent as many as 10 movies at a time for a week ( don't bring them back late 1 dollar a day in late fees). Also, they still have reading time twice a week for little kids and have things for the children to do while they are there. I get all kinds of books for the kids, myself and my husband.
Clothes- I'm not sure about anyone else, but we are really into hard times, so when it comes to this department we are really CHEAP. I've been shopping at the thrift store so the kids clothes and toys ( shoes I just can't!). I haven't really bought myself to many things ( because of flactuating weight HAHA). I really save the money of my husband though becuase he works a place where he has to wear a tie.
Washing clothes- The biggest thing that helps here is not wearing as much clothes. I'm not sure about your family, but we were going through a lot of clothes a day. Use bibs, and try to wear the same thing all day ( except at bedtime). We keep the ac up to 80 which can be hot sometimes, so sometimes he kids don't wear a lot of clothes to keep them cool and it saves ( no one is going to see us if we are at home anyways). Also, we have excema in our family so I can't buy anything generic in this department ( you have to pick your battles) so we still buy name brand detergent. I do use less though. I actually watched the amount of soap it took to make suds for the first 5 loads and have it down now. I don't wash anything in hot, becuase the water it already warm anyways, and they have cold water bleach ( it works) Also, I use the SOLAR dryer when I can.
Energy-this one is tough, becuase I hate to be hot and get hives ( i'm allergic to excessive heat, talk about living in the wrong state). I have APS which sucks, so at night we close the vents to the rooms we are not in that way the air goes to just the bedrooms ( make sure you leave one open next to the ac unit so it detects when to turn off). Electronics, ac, dryer, and stove use up a lot. we have pretty much all it covered, turn it on, turn it off, stove only 3 times a day, becuase it makes the whole house hot. Or use the grill to cook. Also, you make want to turn your water heater down.
Cell phone/house phone- keep the one you use the most and then down the plan you already have. ( probably your cell phone!)
Home- we actually had to move from Tolleson to north phoenix to be close to my husbands work. Yes, it's smaller, but we live so close that we are now saving over 500 dollars a month in gas!! OUCH!!!!( we were filling up 3 times a week with an SUV). I also, get to see my husband at lunch time, so it's a breather for the whole family.
Car- we only have had one car for the last 2 years. It's hard at first, but totally worth it. Only one to fill up, get washed, pay insurance on and so forth. It works for us becuase I'll take the car at lunch time to go shopping, or take the kids to the library and by the time we are done, it's time to get dad.
Here are the things we have been doing and probably more that I can't think of right now. I know some people would rather work then have to go through all this trouble to save. I think it's very important to teach our children that it's okay to be going through hard times and to show them how to do it with a good heart. It's important to me to be with my children so they how to be a family. Yeah, I could probably go back to watching children, but I wasn't happy dealing with others children or parents that weren't responisble. It's easier for me to control what i can, than what I cannot, which includes the things I listed above. Another thing A., you are not alone by any means!! and whatever you do, don't feel bad becuase your kids don't have cable. If anything you are doing your children a FAVOR, for showing them alternatives and not everything in life is just GIVEN to them, becuase they are there and they are you children. GOOD LUCK to you and everyone else who is going through this.
N. M
Mother of a 3 1/2 year old and a 1 year