A.B.
My brother is 42 years old and was not officially diagnosed with Tourette's until he was in his twenties (Tourette's was not widely heard of as it is today. Even in the 1980's when he was diagnosed, there were not many doctors who knew anything about the disorder).
With Tourette's, as I am sure you know, also comes a wide array of everything else: OCD, ADHD, Rage disorder, Panic disorder, etcetera. My brother never took any of the medication offered to him, as he was in the military when he was diagnosed, and the side effects were unbearable.
That being said, my brother, not knowing why he had tics and echolalia (verbal outbursts and swearing), used humor as a way to overcome teasing from his peers. Of the three of us (myself and my siblings), my brother was the most popular in school, and although his grades were always a struggle, he was and still is a very happy, well-adjusted person. He spent 12 years in the Army and during that time developed his talent as a stand-up comedian. He now is the host at a very well known Comedy Club in the United States, and he's 'made more of his life' than both myself and our oldest brother. I think with everything he had to go through he felt like he had something to prove, and he overachieved and worked hard to achieve his goals in life.
He drives (he can't purchase vehicles that have the number 85 on the speedometer, because he focuses on the number), he has a college degree, he has an AMAZING apartment, he chose not to get married (although he was engaged for 4 years), he is highly successful in his career, and he makes a lot of money doing what he loves to do. He is a Christian, but because of the echolalia, he does not attend church. He does not feel that this makes him a bad person--he just avoids quiet places.
I guess I told you this because yeah, it was tough for him, but he's amazing. He is the success story that I guess I thought you would like to hear.
You are going to have a lot of ups and downs, and so is your son. But with patience, understanding, and endurance, his life can be as normal as anyone else's. Keep your head up and stay strong. And especially keep your sense of humor. My brother has made myself and my entire family a group of very funny individuals. Laughter really does diffuse a situation. And in the case of my brother, it has made all the difference.
Good luck to you J.. My thoughts are with you and your son.
:)