Stay @ Home Mom

Hi R.! Yep, I'm there too. I'm a SAHM of a 3.5 year old and my hubby is a truck driver. He is usually home every other day but he sleeps a lot. Sooooooooooo... just me and my Boo. We visit friends & family, browse the store (even if we don't need anything) and occupy eachother. We play games. Right now her favorite is Candy Land. And I love to cook so I try to take the time everyday to fix good from scratch meals. That keeps me busy. :) You're not alone though. Message me next time you're bored. LOL! Misery loves company. LOL!

At times I feel like I'm everything (banker, cook, housekeeper, sitter, teacher........) and I can get very lonely doing it.
Your not alone. It's hard. I really suggest that you look into a local playgroup in your area if you have one for some outings.
Also when things get to nutty, just drop everything and get out of the house. Do anything. Make a day of looking for place mats if you have too. lol
Helps to get yourself and your child out of the usual environment.
And also it's very important that you get some time for yourself too. It would be great if you could get a mom's night out every once in a while. Plan one if you can ") Get a pedicure, a massage, hang out with some girlfriends for dinner or dancing........just do something for YOURSELF and not feel guilty about it.
Best Regards,
C.

Oh i can relate, like 12 years worth. My hubby has always been govt job related. That means long grueling hours, gone days at a time and me...a attached single basically. It got really hard having 2 kids under 2 for the last 4 years. I had bad PPD. he also attend school full time. Its draining but you really have to pick yourself up on this one. Its about reclaiming your independence and doing what you want to do. Get out there and do something to keep your mind from being bored. Be you be proud and ya have to work at it, but I feel ya girl. Im in the same boat and some days are harder than others.

Hi R.
We are all mothers,we all relate.
I've yet to meet a mother that says "life's a breeze".
Try to think more positive,join some groups,meet with friends etc.

Wishing you all the best
B.

I am a stay at home mom and have been for 7 years now. The best thing to do is find a playgroup or create one of your own. To be able to meet up with other mom's is the help you need. It does not matter if the kids are not the same ages, moms talking to moms, helps cure the loneliness. Another thing that helps is to have a day once a week or every other week, when a friend can meet you for lunch. Make a schedule and plan on the lunch. It helps knowing that you can have adult conversation and knowing when. Ladies night is great too!

You need to make SAHM friends. If you can afford it do something like Gymboree. If not, libraries and community centers and churches always have programs. Also, look around your neighborhood. And try MOPS amd Moms Club too. You may have to make the first move....be brave! All SAHMS feel like this-esp at first when it is much harder b/c they are so little. And if first you don't succeed, try again. There is not always a good fit the first time around.

Yes it is hard sometimes... when I feel that way I try to focus on the I love you Mommy that I get to hear all the time. Getting together with other Mom's helps a lot. My daughter is in a gymnastic class once a week and for an hour I get to sit and have coffee with the other Moms - after a gab session I am usally a happy camper. It let me know I am not alone...

Also this board helps too! There are so many helpful moms who post!

I work from home and is a SAHM. When my son was younger, I had to give him time and my business. It was hard because I had to do this day in and day out with no help. My husband worked strange hours and sometimes we wouldn't see him because we would be sleep. I did whatever I could to make it fun. We went to the malls, museums, zoo, park, playdates, etc. I found a gym for him to go to and I could have a few hours to myself. When he turned 4, I put him in school all day. I am still at home, but I have a lot of work often. I still keep the house together and find time for myself. I don't feel guilty if I just relax for a day because I know what I do everyday non stop. My husband appreciates it because when I have to go to a meeting/training, he has to takeover what I do everyday and he is very exhausted..
I think maybe what is missing with most SAHM's is the adult conversation. I meet people at my childs school and attend whatever socials they have. I talk with other SAHM's as well. I think if you find something to do that you like, you won't think about it as much. Idle minds sometimes wonder.... Play some of the games online with other people, go to the spa, listen to some music, relax. Get out there and meet some people physically also, it helps....

I understand and give you a big hug!!

For nearly 5 years, I was practically a single parent, with the exception of seeing a steady paycheck every week that was delivered during a brief visit with a man I occasionally slept beside in the same bed. My hubby worked a rotating swing shift that, depending on what shift it was, he'd have so many days off prior to starting the next shift. It was total hell most times; we had newborn twins and a 4 yr old that I took care of all by my self. Sesame Street and Barney became my best friends. Living in a very rural area, I had no choice but to turn to the internet to seek friendships. However, I did gain some very close friendships in the process that I still have today. Feel free to send over a message anytime you need to vent...I'll be here :)