Stepping over the Boundries????

Please ask the family court judge for a "Guardian Ad Lit em". This person will be able to help your child and the whole custody situation! Sometimes an "outsider" can see & hear more then we realize and inform the judge of the unhealthy attitude involved in your situation. Also you may want to consider getting your child some counseling! This way she can meet and talk openly with a counselor, so she can see that this "girl-friend" is trying to teach her a very unhappy, unhealthy, situation. Nor the proper response from an out-side adult in your child's life! I had to fight the biological mother of my nieces; and after repeated request to her the bio, psychologically tested, the results were an eye-opener for the courts and myself! I now have permanent custody of both my nieces and the biological female has a court ordered NO-Contact order from Broward County Courts! You and your daughter ARE TRULY in my family's' prayers. If I can help you in any way, please feel free to contact me back! I too havebeen thru hell and came back stronger!
Sincerely,
Kathy N.

Document, document, document.

Every paper that she has signed as a 'Parent / Legal Guardian', try to get copies of. She is not and is breaking the law by signing as such.

M.

It's pretty important that you come across as the bigger person here. Whatever she does - do not react in any way in front of her or your daughter. Accept that for now your daughter feels pulled in different directions and is just trying to make everyone happy. Whatever the situation is that has led to your not currently having physical custody, work on resolving that, not participating in your ex and his girlfriend's drama. I'm sure a guardian ad litum has been appointed and they will interview everyone involved in the care of your daughter. If you come across as calm, rational and motivated by love for your child, not spite for your ex - you will have presented the best case possible. Let the girlfriend be the crazy in this dynamic and you will be rewarded later on.

I would document on paper (and try to have proof to back it up) any time you have heard she had signed her name on a document requesting a parent or legal guardian. You may also want to ask the ballet and Girl Scout leaders to write out what exactly she said about you being unstable and not permitted to be around children.

Good luck.

Make sure you document everything your daughter tells you and ever instance of this behavior. One parent alienating another parent is frowned upon in the courts, and if you can prove this is a pattern, it will help you in your custody battle. This sounds like a very damaging situation for your daughter, so make sure you have a good lawyer. I have never heard of this situation before, although my cousin's mother did behave this way toward my uncle's new girlfriend - but I've never heard of a girlfriend behaving this way. This woman is obviously disturbed, so I hope you are able to resolve this in court as soon as possible. Good luck.

Why is your ex living with his "girlfriend"? She probably won't have any legal rights, at the very least, until she is a stepmom. Right now, she's nothing to your daughter.