Ok, so this is the first time it has really happened(while in a relationship) but omg I feel horrible. I fantasized the other night about a movie star. I am asking you all if this is normal because if its wrong atleast my friends will not judge me. I feel horrible, like I cheated.
(but Vin Diesle with his shirt off is soooooo amazing.)
Am I wrong, Is it a form of cheating? I feel horrible! Trav laughed when I started to tell him about it because I was obviously distraught about it. He says its normal. (mind you it was foreplay but I dont think I am cut out for it.)
I would be worried if you didnt some times have the thoughts:)
It helps keep a married woman sane if ya ask me:)
A form of cheating?
Girl, I don't know what your "deal" is but you have some serious relationship issues.
Your history with this guy is way off the charts.
Sure, every relationship has it's ups and downs but YOUR ups and downs are like a ride at the fair: a little scary, totally unreliable, gut wrenching stops and starts, and frankly, it just smells bad.
If you "feel horrible" about a personal, private fantasy then your self esteem must be way, WAY low.
We are all entitled to our own private thoughts, and we should never feel bad about it.
Maybe you are really feeling bad because you know this guy is a jerk and you deserve better?
Sorry to be a downer on Christmas Eve but COME ON.
Based on what you've shared here on this site nothing about your relationship is "normal." I hope the New Year brings you the wisdom and foresight to see that.
Normal, but I wouldnt bring it up with the hubby. Of course, if he's going to come on to me while I'm reading Avengers fanfiction, he really should expect me to be thinking about Hawkeye's arms.
Totally not cheating. I worry about you since you broke up with him less than two weeks ago again. Please don't let "the holidays" cloud your judgement. Be strong!!
totally normal.
In fact, last night my brand new hubs and I were listening to Christmas Music and the Boyz II Men version of Silent Night came on. We listened to a few of their songs, because they are soooooo good.
Then he left to go switch out laundry and I said "really - you're going to leave me alone with these crooners that I fantasized about in my youth?" and he said "what are you going to do.... masturbate yourself to death?".
I would say if your fantasies get in the way of you being turned on or wanting to be intimate with your hubs, then you may have a problem. But..... a little fantasy is good for you, IMO.
Extremely normal and yummy fun. Under no circumstances do you share it with your husband....would you like it if he told you he just fantasized about Jenny McCarthy while making love to you?? Guys may seem to take it in stride but it hurts their ego's so be quiet about it. Fantasizing helps break up any monotany and keep you sane. It's not cheating, it's creative fun for women. : )
Nothing wrong with fantasizing, even if you're with someone at the time. Go with it. Just do to him in bed what you're doing to Vin in your head.
People do all sorts of stuff like this during a relationship. That's why school girl skirts, white shirts, and mary jane shoes sell so well at sex shops. Also high school cheerleader outfits. Because everyone does it sometimes. I'll change that and say that almost everyone does it.
Whatever gets your motor revving :) Just keep it with your main man in reality. Not cheating!
I thought you two broke up...
I have sex dreams on occasion. I do NOT tell hubby, though.
ummmmm George Clooney. Kodak theatre. DURING the oscars. Isn't it funny? so not cheating. so normal.
Not cheating, having fun. Lots of fun.............
ooh heck no!!!!
There is NOTHING wrong with it in MY book!!!
Vin Diesel and Dwayne Johnson can knock on my door ANY DAY!!! :)
Please do NOT feel back about this!!! YOU GO GIRL!!! NOT CHEATING AT ALL!! Not in my book!! I'm sure there might be someone who feels that way - but not in MY Book!!!
Not only normal, but fun!
Guys could really care less what you think about during sex...as long as they get theirs. OK, that's maybe not fair to say of all men. But probably some truth to it.
And no, it's not cheating. Sex WITH Vin Diesle? That's cheating.
I think it's pretty normal. I would however, stop telling your husband about it when you do! ;) You did not cheat and sometimes a little fantasy is pretty nice! Haha!
All in all it's an individual choice. I fantasize conditional..I only fantasize about other men when I'm alone (not "playing") or falling alseep. If I'm "playing" alone, I think about my husband because, like you, I feel "bad" if I'm thinking of someone else during those types of sensations. I definitely don't think of anyone else while I'm with my husband. Don't need to anyway.
If it's really making you uncomfortable then don't do it. To each their own.
So So Sooooooooo normal. People fantasize about many different people and situations when they are having sex, most of which have nothing to do with the person or the situation they are actually in. They may imagine being with a star in a grassy field of flowers, or it may be something grittier or dirty, but whatever the fantasy, as long as it serves its purpose (helping you get off!) then it is perfect. You should feel no shame, and it most certainly is not cheating.
