Support Groups - Columbus,OH

Hi T., I just wanted to share that I understand completely. I also found out I was pregnant in October and 1 week later I had a miscarriage. My husband, was very loving, but did not understand what I was going through. We feel it more powerfully than our husband because we felt our body with the baby in it, our husbands didn't. I also felt alone and embarassed, even though lots of my friends had been through this also. What comforts me is knowing that God is love, even though at times like this it is very hard to feel that he is love. But He is, I would like to share a website that I completely love and is a great comfort to me:
www.biblestudents.com look under the topic of the Kingdom, that should give some comfort. The other comfort that has allowed me to recover much is that I take comfort in the fact that my baby must have had something terribly wrong with it (majority of miscarriages during that stage are caused by genetic defects) and I thank God that my baby did not end up being a still born, a child that would have died soon after birth, or a child who lived life in misery. That helps me to feel better. I still have a hard time seeing newborn or pregnant women, but it is getting better, because I really try to focus on the above. May God help you through this.

I have never gone through what you are going through, but my sister in law just last a baby last year. I know that my brother reacted the same way your husband is, he wanted her to get over it, and forget about it basically. She was horrified at the thought. I can't imagine, but I do want to tell you that its normal for him to react that way, and I bet its normal for you to react the way you are. I wish I knew of a support group. I do not. But I just wanted to tell you that he's not a horrible person or anything, guys are just different, and it doesn't mean that they didn't want the baby, or they don't care, they do care very much. I think they just don't see a point in holding on to feelings for someone who's not there anymore.
My brother and sister in law are pregnant agian, and my brother is constantly hovering over her, making sure she eats right, and takes naps, and doesn't get stressed out, now that says to me that he was really very upset about what happened. I hope you find what you are looking for, and God is with you, even though you are probably very angry. my family will be praying for you.

First I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I had a miscarriage about 5 years ago and often think about the baby I lost. It is important that you grieve like with any loss. Sometimes husbands don't know how to handle loss, so they just write it off. But they deal with it in their own way. I will tell you it does get easier, but with time. My suggestion with support would be possibly Pregnany Decision Health Centers, or your local church. My former church has someone who does counseling for miscarriages and I think she is still there. The church is Quest Community Church on Central College. You could call them and ask.

I'm so sorry for your loss - and it IS a loss and takes time to grieve. I had a miscarriage several years ago, between teh two children I now have, and I know it seems that people around you don't know how to react or what to say. Don't worry about them. You need to feel whatever you are feeling, and I think you are wise to look for a support group. I'm new here and don't know about resources in this area, but I think any church would be a good place to start. Also try the United Way and local hospitals. You're not alone. :-)

I am so sorry for your loss. I too had one many years ago and I still think about it. Loss and grief are normal and you shouldn't be made to feel that you need to just put it behind you. As for support groups, I know St Ann's hospital has one. You can either check their web site, or call them, but I know they do have one.

Take care!