Sweet 2 Year Old Boy Turned into Little Monster

I agree with the others that you have to take the control. Sounds like he is in that stage where he is testing limits to see what he can get away with. You have to be consistant. If time outs and spankings don't work, then find HIS button. What does he love that he can't do with out? It could be movies or dessert or a toy but something that will make him upset that he can't have it. Make a big deal when you hear or see him doing things the way he is supposed to do them so that he will understand the difference. They are all about attention and praise at this age and it won't take him long to figure it out. But be prepared for some battles along the way.

You just have to be consistant and not let him think he is getting away with any of it. If you have to take something like a toy away that he really likes and let him know he has to earn it back (not sure how well he will understand this but worth a try if the timeouts aren't working) Don't give him choices unless it has to do with food, what to wear, etc. Discipline isn't a choice you have to let him know that this isn't right. We used 1,2,3 Magic with our children and it worked very well. I have never looked to see what age to start it but our children were 3 and 4 and they understood it. Here is the link for it http://www.parentmagic.com/ We still use it today and our children are 11 and 10. Hope this helps some.

When it comes to discipline and punishments doing timeouts you dont give him a choice you just tell him that its not acceptable to behave that way and put him in timeout. PERIOD.

You tell him the reason he is going in time out and put him there for 2 minutes and then when he is done, with his timeout you ask him do you know why you were in timeout, and make him apolgize for doing what he did.

SuperNanny is a great show to watch, cant learn alot from her.

No "Next" time. Immediate response every time.

If they play with matches - there may not be a next time.

i also love supernanny, i'll S. that! although mine is yet to hit the full-force "twos" (he's 20 months) and he's an only child so i think i'm getting off real easy so far...could it be an attention thing? it must be so hard with three little ones, PLUS staying at home (i'd lose my mind so my hat's off to you!) i've noticed that when i'm busy with other things is when my son deliberately tests me- pulling the cat's tail THREE times in an hour, for instance! i have so much to do but i literally have to STOP what i'm doing, and spend time with him. it drives me nuts sometimes, because there truly are things i NEED to do, but it works like a charm. maybe have the older girls get involved in a project and cuddle up with him on the couch with some books. just my two cents. hope it gets better!

I totally agree with the other responders, especially not giving him one more chance. He knows not to push or hit, there is no need for another chance with stuff like that. When he's saying he wants to go to his room, he's trying to push your buttons. He's telling you that your punishment won't work so ha ha. Don't play into that. I would do the supernanny naughty chair and if he says he wants to go to the naughty chair, say 'that's good, we agree.'

Also, make sure you are giving him positive attention - notice when he is playing nice and reward him with praise or some of your time.