A.C.
First, for a normal 4 week month, it is an average of $700/month. $35/day (or $175/week) is fair but not grand. I quoted a lady that I liked very much about that: $175-180 for her infant son; depends on where you're at I suppose. I have priced all the local daycare centers in my area because I was providing childcare, and now again because I am currently pregnant and will have my baby in a couple months. The daycares near me all charge from $185 to $230/week for an infant, and the rate goes down as the child gets older. One reason is because babies are COMPLETELY dependant for EVERYTHING. Another reason (and the main one) is because providers are limited by LAW on how many children they can watch, depending on the ages. I don't have the paperwork available at this minute, but I think you have the choice of 1 infant or 3 children. That is a huge difference! Playing devil's advocate here, I would say this lady probably got a job watching your son because she needed an income (the reason we ALL get jobs), and found out after she got into it that there's more involved than she thought, and she isn't allowed to take in another 2 children because of laws to insure an infant is well provided for and looked after. I'm sure she's not "counting the hours" or thinking ill of your "precious son" but that this is a business decision, not an emotional one.
Another thing to consider is this: often a daycare center will provide longer hours-an average of about 6:30am to 6pm. However, I personally worked at a daycare center that charged $10 per MINUTE that you were late past 6pm. Even the church nursery where I take my son during Wednesday morning Bible study charges $10 per 10 minutes that you're late. Being self employed she has the right to set her hours. If that doesn't work for you, you have the right to seek childcare elsewhere, but charging for a late pickup is routine. It is probably difficult to plan her day if she thinks you'll come at 4:30...but then it's 4:45...or 5...or a little later. When I provided childcare, I wouldn't cook or do anything that could leave me in a bind while children were up---what if someone fell and scraped their knee, but I'm up to my elbows in raw meat??? So I would have to wait for parents to pick up their children OR do all my cooking quickly during naptime. That is not a parent's problem, but you can see that if you come to someone's home 30 or 45 minutes later one day than you do another, it could throw her off schedule for her own family. So, she set a pick up time. I can see that.
As for the previous post, yes I used to provide in-home childcare for older children (toddler included) and charged $26/day (130/week)and provided them with a morning snack, a lunch, and an afternoon snack, helped potty train them, and provided wipes. HOWEVER toddlers can play on their own some, and you are ALLOWED to watch more than you are with infants. With an infant, you'll pay more and I don't know anyone that is going to take it upon themselves to provide formula and diapers NOR would I want them to for my own son....I would want MY brand name formula, MY brand name diapers, and MY brand name wipes. Infants are simply not the same as "children".
My suggestion would be that you shop around a little and see what the options are that you have IN YOUR AREA to see what's fair where you are. (Southlake, Keller, and Euless for example will have 3 different price ranges, you know?)Then have a civil discussion with her in person as to what you need and let her say what she needs. If you can come to an agreement, fine. If not, you've already got the pricequotes and availablility of your local childcare facilities. Good luck, and I hope you find something that works well for all involved, especially your wee baby.