For moms with tattoos and moms without, I have been with my fiancé (husband) for exactly a year now and I honestly can't see myself with anyone else. We have a beautiful daughter together and he has an amazing son from a previous relationship. But I was wondering what is your opinion on getting my fiancé (husband)'s name tattooed on my body? Is it a bad idea or would it possibly ruin our relationship?
So i'm sure every mom that commented to my question judged me and think that im trashy for getting pregnant so soon but to the ones that didn't say anything about your opinion on me, thank you. To the moms that judged me and said I got pregnant on the first date.. No, I didn't. But when I found out I was pregnant, it want planned but to be honest, I wouldn't change it for the world. I love my daughter to death. But I didn't make this question to be judged but to ask you alls opinion on getting my fiances name tattooed on me but thank you for your opinions and your negative comments were unnecessary end maybe you should grow up before judging someone. @Veronica p. If you read the negative comments then maybe you would understand but you know what.. Its my body and ill do what I please.. I have been wanting his name tattooed on me for a while now and if shit hits the fan, I'll get it covered up but I can't sweet myself with anyone else nor will I ever be with anyone else if we do break up.. But we are getting married soon which is why I said fiancé (husband). But for the women who told me their story, thank you and I'll take your opinions into consideration. But to be completely honest again, I don't judge anyone who writes post about whatever they want opinions on but I only wanted opinions on tattoos of names, not being told that I need to grow up, I am grown up and id appreciate it if some of these moms acted their own age.
That's just tempting fate :)
After I got married, I got a tattoo of the rune for patience. It was a trait that I hoped to develop and knew I would need in my marriage, so it was representative of my marriage without being my husband's name. The only names I would ever tattoo on would be my kiddos.
#1 rule of tattoos - no names of significant others. It is almost a guarantee you will break up. No, no, no, no......
My husband & I have been together for over 21 years and still wouldn't even consider putting each other's names. Now we are looking at getting similar tattoos or tattoos that fit together when they are next to each other but no names.
I know couples who have had their wedding bands tattooed on their fingers...I have thought that was kinda cool.
But names are a no-no to me...my sister had to have her ex-husbands name covered, after they split and it just didn't look very good...
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I read your SWH response. Now I am positive that you are very young after you said " I can't sweet myself with anyone else nor will I ever be with anyone else if we do break up.. "
Do you seriously think you NEVER will be with another man if this relationship ends???????? How old are you?
BTW I was with my ex for 7 yrs. We had 1 child, I was 17yrs old when I had her. I thought he and I would be together forever too. Thank God I didn't get his name tattooed on me cuz we haven't been together in 20 yrs.
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I'm sure his now ex thought the same thing.
One year is absolutely nothing, that's called the honeymoon stage. You are already starting out with a lot of negatives against this relationship like only being together 1 year, having a child, not married.....although you really want to be married since you are calling him your husband.
Don't do it. I hope you guys last forever but realistically odds are against you and over half the population. With those odds, I WOULD NEVER CONSIDER IT.
For what it's worth, here's my experience. At age 16, I believed I was going to be with my boyfriend forever. A friend of a boss of mine did tattoos, we got tattoos with each other's initials. We broke up around 19 or 20. I again meet a man I thought was forever. We get married at 22. On our 3rd anniversary we had matching kanji signs that meant eternity tattooed on us. We were divorced (with 2 young boys) by our 7th anniversary. I'm 35 now and I've been with my husband for over 5 years and have learned my lesson. Although I do believe I am finally with my mate for life, we both won't do it. We have gotten tattoos together but they weren't about each other. But I do have a tattoo that represent the kids. And last summer I finally covered up the previous 2 mistakes with new tattoos. Cover ups are larger and for some reason hurt more. So that's my story, I hope it helps.
My honest opinion? DON'T DO IT! Nothing in life is guaranteed. Also, I think it is pretty tacky, like marking your territory or something. Your kids' names? Maybe. Definitely not your man's.
When in doubt, ALWAYS WAIT!!!!! If it's an amazing piece of ink you'll love for the rest of your life, you'll still want it in a year. If you don't, PHEW! you'll have nothing to regret.
I have no tattoos but my ex is covered head to toe and we have many tattooed friends. Most of the people with the best tattoos waited each and every time to make sure they wanted the piece. If you're asking us, you're not sure enough.
I don't think it will effect your relationship either way, but make sure your fiance isn't opposed. And remember, unless you're psychic, you don't know if he'll be your ex one day.....
Personally, I would never tattoo someone's name on my body. But, you know, it's your body and all that, so whatever, I guess...
As to ruining your relationship, if there's a chance it would be ruined simply because you tattooed his name on your body, then deciding to get that tattoo is the least of your problems.
You asked for my opinion, well, that's it.
Sounds romantic at the moment however nine out of ten times these moments pass..Keep in mind he may not be there forever, your tattoo with his name will be.
Ive been married 15 years, love my husband dearly however only have my childrens names tattooed on my body.
i have about 65% of my body covered and i would NEVER tattoo my DH name!!! now we both have our wedding bands tattooed on...but i can all fill that in
Without responding to the drama: no, I don't think names on one's body are a good idea, period. My dad has "Linda" on his arm and his wife's name is Becky. My grandpa had "Mary" on his arm before he shipped off to ww2 and was married to Patricia for the most of his life.
I'm not going to say anything like "the relationship won't last" or anything of that sort. I am a woman who has tattoos, who had our baby before my husband and I were married... I have NO preconceptions about either situation. That said, I would never advise someone to get a name tattoed on their bodies unless its the name of their mom or child- in short, someone you would never break up with or find 'a new one' in your life.
@SB-- your wedding sounds awesome! I'm actually a little jealous---and I've never been jealous of anyone's wedding! :) Yep, we love Star Trek too.
Rule number 1 is to never tat someones name or picture on your body.
No names, EVER, unless they are your childrens' names or in memorium.
How about tattoo a design somewhere on your body that symbolizes him to you.
In theory - it sounds romantic.
But in practice - SO many people regret doing this.
For me at least, my Hubby's name with mine on a marriage certificate is more important than injecting ink under my skin.
When our bodies are dead and gone, the record of our marriage will live on for all of our descendants to find.
How do you do an ancestry search on a tattoo?
Think about it this way.. the mother of his child may have thought they'd be together forever and got his name tattooed on her. You have NO idea what's going to happen in the future. He may cheat, you may fall out of love, he could be abusive. There's just no telling what could happen.. I'd say wait. My husband of five years told me that he wants to get my name tattooed on him, once we've been married 50 years. Let your love do the talking instead of a tattoo. And I would say FOR SURE wait until you're at least married.. good luck!
It's not a good idea-buy a bracelet with his name on it.
1st rule of Tattoos: No names of significant others.
I would never have anyone's name tattooed on me except my kid. I've been married three times and every time, thought it was forever. But it wasn't.
I don't know how it could ruin your relationship unless he has a strong opposition to tattoos. But if you end up splitting for some reason, it could be a tattoo you regret.
I would, NEVER tattoo a person's "name" on myself.
It doesn't matter if you are married or not or will be forever with this person.
A Tattoo is real permanent. And I think that its just, too over the top and not "practical" to tattoo someone's name on your body. I don't care if others do this or not or if celebrities do this or not.
Its just not a good idea.
I have a small tattoo. Which me and my classmates got when we graduated from college. But I would never tattoo any name or their face on myself.
Its just, not a good idea.
Once you are married, you will have a wedding band to show that you are his/he is yours. You can wear your wedding band forever, or you can take it off if something doesn't work out the way you thought it would.
100% of tattoos are permanent (unless you pay and go through the pain to have them removed); unfortunately, only 50% of marriages are permanent.
The only time I could see myself getting a tattoo related to my husband would be if he died and I wanted a way to remember him. Otherwise, I don't need a tattoo to show how great our love is; that is evident by our relationship.
I've been married to my husband for 8 years and we have 1 and a half kids together. I would never in a million years get his name tattooed on me and I would not want him to get mine. It's a recipe for disaster.
Perhaps something meaningful to the two of you instead? If I were to get something symbolizing my husband and myself, for example, it would probably have to do with Star Trek as we are both Trekkies and got married on the Bridge of the Enterprise. Were something to happen, God forbid, at least I wouldn't have his name permanently on my body.
I do have a tattoo and I have nothing against them, especially when they are tastefully done, HOWEVER I would NOT tattoo the name of my husband, fiance', or SO on my body.
There are no 100% guarantees and it would be expensive and painful (both emotionally and financially) to go through the removal process.
Now, I would consider some sort of symbol.
Is your fiancé against tattoos or something? If you both 100% sure in your relationship now, how would a tattoo ruin your relationship unless there is some underlying concern already?
You've got a lot of responses which I haven't read. If you've never seen the show "Tattoo Nightmares", you should watch a couple of episodes. A good majority of those people are in there getting cover-ups of their "loved" one's name. Of course they also thought it would last forever, or that it would solidify the relationship.
If you do it, make sure it's in a way that is easy to cover later- no heavy black ink or large, heavy letters.
That's my only advice.
If I were you, I would get a flower that he likes put on. But I sure as hell would not put his name on me. I don't feel that I have to be "owned" by having a name inked on.
Perhaps I am from a different generation. But there is still a bit of a no no about them. At my age it is not so much a big deal as I will be leaving the workforce soon. However, if I do get one, it will not be visible to the world.
As far as your attitude about who does or does not answer your questions this is a public forum and we all have ideas of how we perceive the question. So you may get your feelings hurt even if you are a "big girl". It is your body and you can do what you will but just don't get offensive here.
Yes, I do watch the show Tattoo Nightmares and the one artists says it is the fastest way to have a relationship end by inking another person's name on them. Tatt your kids names and be happy as they will always be around.
the other S.
PS We are just trying to save you some heartache. That is all.
BAD idea. You feel this way now, but who knows if you will feel the same way in 10 years.
Tattoo your kids names instead.
The only names I would ever get would be my kids.
The only names I would ever tattoo on my body would be my kids. As horrible as it is to say, marriages/relationships fail everyday and why get a permanent reminder if it doesn't work out. I've also heard that it's bad luck, but that could just be coming from someone who got a tattoo like this and regretted it later. Don't do it.
Name tattoos seem to be "jinxed" to me.
Maybe get the birthdates of your kids instead? Or perhaps the date of your marriage?
When you do go and do it, make sure to shell out the money for something really nice or go small...just in case. *knock on wood*
Good luck!
I would never have my husband's name tattooed on my body. The only names I would ever consider getting tattooed on my body is my girls. They will ALWAYS be my children no matter what, but there is no guarantee that my husband will ALAWAYS be my husband. Right now I hope and feel that we will be together forever, but nobody knows what the future holds.
Do NOT get your fiances name on your body. He isn't your husband. And even then....don't get the husband either.
I have tattoos. No names. I have thought about putting my kid's names on me, but haven't even done that.
My husband has tattoos but doesn't have my name either. He has the kid's feet and their birthday.
If you REALLY want his name tattoed then wait. Wait until you get married. Wait some years after you get married. Then consider it again.
Not trying to get on ya...but it's just not a good idea.
L.
Not unless you want to risk needing to go through the pain and expense of either getting it tattooed over or removed in the future. Right now you probably think that that would never be necessary. That's what my hubby thought, too, when he got his now ex-wife's name tattooed on his ankle...
My brother had his wife's name tattooed on his arm. When they split up he fortunately knew a first-rate artist who was able to create a new tattoo over the name and no one can tell it's a "correction." I have no idea what the change cost him but he said it was worth it. So it's possible to cover a tattoo if eventually circumstances change, though it's costly.
If you are even asking the question about whether to get this tattoo, then probably you have some doubts in your mind already about whether it's wise at this time. Go with the doubts -- for now -- and don't get it if there's any tiny nagging question in your head. Then get one as a post-wedding present for yourself and for him, if you want!
When you ask, would it ruin our relationship, do you somehow think he would dislike the tattoo? Or that seeing his name inked on you would somehow drive him away? If you have concerns that a tattoo would come between you in some way, that indicates you should think more about why such a tiny thing worries you or would upset him.
Sorry you're getting flak for issues that really aren't relevant to your question which is only about the tattoo.
Definitely do not do it until after you are married. Tattoos seem to be more permanent than many marriages.
For what it is worth, I would never tattoo my husbands name on myself but I would never get any kind of tattoo either.
I am not opposed to tatoos at all but I do think people should be smart about what they get and where they get them (for instance I have seen some beautiful tatoo work but they really should be a picture hanging on a wall and not a tatoo across your back or on you hand).
I have a tatoo that I got about 20 years ago. Still like it, wish I had went a little bigger with it (it's small and extremely low on my ankle). Have considered another tatoo but haven't decided for sure (only recently thought of what I might want so I am still considering it because once it's there, it is there).
Absolutely do NOT ever put a girlfriend/boyfriend, significant other/spouse or fiance's name on your body...EVER!!!! If you really want to have a tatoo for that person, get a symbol or something (like double rings for eternity, a rose, or double rose) but not their name.
I would say "don't tatoo names" but I can see getting your kids' names or MAYBE a parent's name (like a tribute type thing) but really think a symbol for that person is better (especially since my son's name is the same as his father's).
I got my husbands name on me, it's actually an exact copy of a scribble I had done on a piece of paper once, but we have been married 23 years. I did it 2 years ago. I'd have never done it any sooner then that, although he has had mine for years and years.
At this point I wouldn't regret it even if we did split. He gave me 8 kids, and a decent life. I can honor that no matter what happens in the future.
Why would you think it would ruin your relationship? I think tattooing people's names (besides kids) is not a great idea, but if you think it would ruin your relationship it is definitely a bad idea. My husband would like the idea of me tattooing his name, mainly because he doesn't see a point, but if I did it, it would ruin our relationship. If your relationship is strong enough, it should survive a tattoo, even if the tattoo is a bad idea.
Well I haven't read the comments, but from your SWH, I'm shocked. People act like it's worse that you all stayed together after getting pregnant early on than him running? Um, no!! My husband and I started the same way, we will celebrate 9 years of marriage in a few weeks. We also have 3 children together...we were married for the last two, but we got married when we did because #2 was on the way, we just fast forwarded things. Not bad, just not the "typical" way to do things - if there even is such a thing anymore.
As far as getting my husband's name tattooed on my? HECK NO!! No freaking way. I'd rather walk on hot coal. Sorry, but we have our ups and downs and while we fight through it all, what happens if one time it's just not worth it anymore? I pray that doesn't happen, but there is no guarantee we will be together forever. Obviously we got married because that's our plan, but things happen...the divorce rate being so high shows that.
So no, I wouldn't do it.
I have been with my husband for 23 years (married 17) and I do not have his name on me. I don't care for obvious name tattoos. I am considering getting a rose tattoo with his name discretely in it. It would be for him and no one else. Kind of a hidden thing.
Now that is my opinion of them, but what about getting a tattoo for your child along with something that represents your relationship with your fiance? I prefer artwork to lettering anyday and there is some really nice lettering out there.
