Thank You Cards - Bloomfield,NJ

Wow. How embarrassing!

I probably wouldn't send them now. It will look worse. AND it will look like you're trying to "fix it" because you have another party coming up.....

PLEASE remember this time to send thank you note in a timely manner.

They are NOT a thing of the past.
They are a sign of good breeding and that you were raised right!

I thoroughly believe in thank you cards. Vital in polite society. I would send out thank yous for the second communion and include a sentence about the gift for the first communion. If my child could write at all, then he'd be writing the notes. My 4yo writes notes, they are far from perfect but heartfelt

I dont think you should send out the Thank you cards from your oldest son's seeings how it is so late. You can send extra nice ones this time for this son's though to show people that you do appreciate their gifts and their presence. It's appropriate and a nice gesture.

Thank you cards will never be an "old fashioned" or "thing of the past" if you ask me because its ALWAYS nice to show your appreciation for the things others and their time, and things they give you. It's being polite, and common courtesy.

Have fun!

I send thankyou notes in a weird way:

I take pictures of my son USING his gifts, and send them out fairly randomly. Heck... one gift my son got when he was 3, I just sent out another "thankyou card" to my cousin who got it for him... because he STILL uses and plays with it at age 9. (A stuffed frog the size of NewHampshire that he uses as a pillow right now. He was sleeping with this GREAT smile on his fcae and his arm totally hugging the frog... so I snapped it... and sent it out to my cousin).

It's January. If you get the cards out now... you still have a good 2 months (and maybe 3) before you're sending out invitations. Which is MORE than enough space in most people's minds.

You can also include a cute little tag line with it / mea culpa.

- When they say 'they grow up so fast' I didn't realize *I* would be in a time warp, too! I swear this was 2 weeks ago. 9 months later... I just wanted to make sure you know how much we love and appreciate you.

- It's SORT of like a wedding.... yes? With a year to get these out? Darn. No. I didn't think so either. Sending you our warmest, if very belated, best wishes and thanks.

- Alice in Wonderland Rabbit on the back of the envelope (they have those stickers!) with an "I'm late! I'm late! From a very important date!"

etc.

Not that you have to. Most people will just be touched to receive them.

Do people even send TYC's anymore? I don't. We just say thank you when we get a gift and leave it at that. I definately wouldn't send out cards now, for the reason you listed. Good luck!

If thank-you cards are a thing of the past, then I think going out and shopping for someone's special event and buying and wrapping a gift and attending the event should also be a thing of the past. What a waste of time really. To go to the thought and trouble and then have someone just say "thanks."

I'm not surprised, actually, that people think that way. Nobody cares about anybody but themselves anymore. Sad.

I don't think I would send them out now if I were you. It does look like you're just preparing for another event where there will be gifts. I'll bet a lot of people forgot about it. I probably would have by now. Just make sure your child sends out a very nice thank-you note ASAP after this event.

I wouldn't send them this late but I would make sure to do it this go round. I am not too great at those either. Usually I tell myself that once I print out the pictures I will send them with the card....the pictures are still on the computer and the cards on a desk. Just do it asap this time and you should be good to go!

Thank you cards are a thing of the past, IMO. I surely wouldn't send them out this late in the game.

ETA: One and Done, YOU are a loon! 'Thank you cards are a sign of good breeding and being raised right?!?!' I didn't say gratitude was a thing of the past, just that thank you cards were, followed by IMO, which means "in my opinion" You are a piece of work....

I absolutely believe in thank you notes, in fact after my daughter's very small second bday in a local park, I wrote out notes and had my daughter scribble crayon on them as well. I agree with the suggestion to include a thank you for the first communion with the thank you's for the second communion event. I think its important to teach the kids the value of this and it is NOT outdated. Good luck!

Something similar happened to my nephew and his wife recently. They were married a year ago last October. It was a big wedding with lots of people attending and received lots of gifts. My new niece wrote out all the Thank You cards right away and gave them to her new husband (my nephew) to mail. He took them with him to work so he could mail them on his way home, put them in the back seat of his truck and forgot about them. Eventually they somehow got lost and ended up under the seat. Well just before their first anniversary he decided to buy a new car so they would have room for the car seat they would be needing for their first baby. While cleaning out the truck he found the thank you cards. He didn't know what to do so he just mailed them. I got mine 2 days before their first anniversary which was also the day before I got the invitation to her baby shower. I thought it was quite funny! Everyone in the family did! Now it's kind of a joke as to when we will receive out thank you notes from the shower. All of us say things like: "I hope I get it before she goes to kindergarten.", or, "I hope I get mine before she gets married!". haha

I used to send thank you cards out for everything, including gifts that I received in person and that I opened right then and there and gave a verbal thank you. However, Miss Manners says that this is not necessary if you say your thanks in person. So if the gifts were opened at the restaurant and your son said thanks right then and there, you're fine. If that didn't happen or he opened the presents later and not in the presence of the gift-giver, then a thank you note should have been sent. But at this stage in the game, it will definitely look weird if you send a thank you note and then an invite to another party.

I would say that 9 months is way too late to send a thank you note. I'm a huge thank you card person, and I would skip this one. Nine months is just too long. I would also say that you aren't the one responsible for the cards - your son is/was.
If you feel uncomfortable about not having sent them, I would have your son draw a picture or write quick notes of thanks and send them out with a one-line apology about the tardiness - something like, "I'm sorry these have taken so long for Joey to get out. You know how kids are."
Just my 2 cents.