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Aww sweetie, I'm so sorry. Sorry for you having caught whooping cough that you shouldn't have been exposed to, and sorry for this additional bug.
Honestly, I really think you should go to the hospital. What is happening can trigger labor and that's the last thing you need right now. You need bloodwork done, you need IV fluids and you need REST!
As far as your husband is concerned, give him my post. I'm talking to HIM now:
My husband and I both worked while I was pregnant with both babies. With the first pregnancy, I spent 23 weeks throwing up, had ONE good week, and then went into preterm labor at 24 weeks. We were lucky that I got to go home from the hospital, on medication that made me shake, I had to set the alarm clock every 6 hours to take the medicine or I started contracting again, and had to lay on my left side 24 hours a day. I got to pee, brush my teeth while I peed, and every other day, sit in a chair in the shower and spritz off. I had goals - 28 weeks, 30 weeks, 32 weeks, 34 weeks, then 37 weeks. My baby and I were darn lucky to make it to 37 weeks.
My husband had to do EVERYTHING because I would have lost the baby if I hadn't followed doctor's orders. They wheeled me into the NICU before leaving the hospital to go on bedrest and showed me PREEMIES. They were so tiny. I would ask "Is my baby that big?" They'd solemnly shake their heads no. They told me that they wanted me to see what I was fighting for so that I'd go home and rest.
With my second pregnancy, we were taking NO chances. I came home from work and lay down. My husband took care of our toddler and did everything. We both wanted to give me every chance of getting through the pregnancy without bedrest. I only ended up in the hospital once.
Don't lose patience with your wife. Her body is doing the equivalent of walking up flights of stairs without stopping 24 hours a day. She actually has a parasite growing in her. It saps her of EVERYTHING, and takes, takes, takes. Add to her physical state of having had whooping cough and everything else. Everything could just turn on a dime for your wife. She needs to get well and she needs to rest.
Mama, listen to everything I've said here. It's really important. You do NOT want to give birth prematurely. Drink water - the uterus is a smooth muscle tissue that contracts when it becomes dehydrated. It also contracts when a full bladder pushes on it. So drink and pee, drink and pee. Do whatever you can to keep baby inside you for as long as you can. That's the best way to insure a healthy outcome for baby AND you.