K.G.
I hear you completely! Not only that, but when I tackle the different therapy options, I hear, "But he's already doing so great. Why do you need to try something else?" Yes, he is doing great, and I am so very thankful. But I also know that I will keep fighting for him for the rest of my life, just as I will fight for all my kids no matter their needs.
My son needs very minor modifications, to the point that in most cases, people don't know that he has a diagnosis. But it's for those times that he needs modifications, that I need to say, "He has autism," for the times when no one can console him as silent crocodile tears run down his face for fear that if he speak, he'll lose it completely... Even though those times are few and far between, it's when our needs are great.
Maybe that's it. Maybe it's not that others have more needs. It's that they have more times when they are in need of support. I am thankful that my times of need are not as often, but I am also thankful that when I have times of need, the support is readily available.