Time for Yourself

My alone time is in the shower. I cherish it which results in very long evening showers.

Other than that I may have some alone time in the car on weekends, but that's it. But, to be honest, when I'm away from my family for too long I start to miss them so I wouldn't change this.

I don't really know how much of alone time per week to say, but if I need a break from the kids or just time to chill, then I do it. He is always more than happy to play with the kids while I do whatever. He works an evening shift so when I put the kids to bed, that's also kind of my "me" time until he gets home around 10:30pm.
With my free time I will either go to the mall, get a coffee, go to target. If I am home, then I will watch a movie or work on my edits (I'm a photographer).
With my husband alone, not as much as I would like.

If your Husband ALSO.... spends time with the kids, and takes them out, and does things with them... then that is when YOU can have, alone time or just down time to do what you want.

If you have a healthy marriage and a Husband that is not chauvanistic and ALSO does care taking of the children and the house, then you can, have downtime for yourself.

My Husband spends time with our kids or takes them out. Even when they were younger. Then that is when I have time to myself.
My kids are school aged, so when they are in school I also get time to myself. BUT as a SAHM, (who also works part time), I am always busy. So even when I am by myself, I am doing household upkeep, errands, cleaning etc. Its not really down time, but I am by myself when the kids are at school or I am not working.

As for time with Husband, we have to plan it. Or when the kids are asleep. As it is with most Wives, who have kids.
Or, you have someone babysit your kids, so that you and Hubby can go out.

I hit the gym while our son is in school. That's my FAVORITE time of the day.

We have next to NO time alone together now that we have a five year old boy to wrangle. We're fine with that. We had 20 years alone before he "showed up." Good thing we had him or we would be running out of things to talk about!

Next week we'll go out for his birthday and week later we'll go out for our 20th anniversary. BOTH times we'll end up talking about our son no MATTER how hard we try not too.

My husband is gone about 11 hours, 5-6 days a week. So whenever our son is napping I guess I get alone time. But I don't always consider it "alone time" since I'm often doing household duties that are difficult to do with a toddler around. To me, "alone time" is when I can truly relax and do whatever I want. That I get about 1-2 hours a day, after our little guy goes to bed. I usually end up falling asleep on the couch :P That time is also the time for hubby too...it just depends if we decide to do something together or separate. Usually it's about 50/50. Usually we watch TV together since we have favorite shows. Separately, I might read and he'll probably play computer games.

I try to spend at least 15 minutes (sometimes an hour, if I'm lucky) for myself. This can be anything from reading a book, crocheting, treadmill time or just a hot shower. My husband and I try to have at least 2 hours a week, just us. He often travels to see his clients and I'll go along just so we can talk in the car and catch up.

I will say that when my boys were babies and young children, this was often very hard to accomplish, but worth working for. Now that my boys are teens (14 and 18), my me time and my honey time have grown exponentially, often in to several hours a day/week, again, if I'm lucky.

Just as a side note, you might want to consider thinking outside the box on what constitutes me or honey time. When my eldest was born, me time was my husband taking our baby grocery shopping so I could sleep in. When our second was born, me time was my husband staying home with both boys while I did the grocery shopping. Another example: when the boys were little, honey time was the children going to bed early on a Saturday night so we could have a quiet dinner at home just us. Sometimes we cooked up a meal together and ate by candlelight. Other times, we sat on the back patio, watched a storm blow through and ate pizza. Now that the boys are older, we leave them at home to clean house while we do the grocery shopping together. Sometimes this includes breakfast out or a Starbucks run; other times it's just shopping.

The point is, me time doesn't have to be an expensive day at the spa and a date night doesn't have to require a babysitter. What counts is that you and your honey commit the time to each other, in a way that works for your family at that point in time. Yes, writing it on the calendar takes away spontineity (sp?), but it does show commitment. You and your honey get to decide which of the two is more important to you!

Good luck!

I'm not sure if you could say we're "healthy", but no major bumps in 6 years.

I'm a SAHM, I have a 5 year old who can now play in her room/watch TV/play on the computer for an hour or two. That's my alone time, I usually read in bed or nap. As for husband time alone...8pm to 11pm in various ways. Watching a grown-up movie or playing a computer game with him, or being true nerdy dorks and messaging each other online while I'm in the living room and he's in the office. Some nights I just tell him I need "me" time and he's more then happy to entertain himself.

I read and watch tv. My husband is a twin and doesn't like to spend time alone, so if he's not playing his game he's right up next to me, and I like having time to myself.

I have alot right now since I am not working, I clean, read, doctor appointments (YUCK), try to catch up with friends, but mostly I just like to be home. I do not get alot of alone time with my hubby, but working on it! Have a daytime "date" with him on Tuesday!

I get an hour to myself during quiet time/ nap time. I usually veg on the computer half the time and do house work or fold laundry the rest. Every once in a blue moon I go out for a pedicure or shopping trip when my husband watches kids. We try to catch up around the dinner table. But often we only get 10 minutes together because my husband owns his own business and works in the evenings doing faxes. Its kind of sad.
However, this week, I did join a very nice club that has a kids club that I can leave them up to three hours. The club has a restaurant and my husband and I can have date nights even though he's not a member. i've also been exercising and enjoying the steam and sauna this week. I'm not going to lie, its heaven, its making me feel very happy, but alas, I cannot justify the expense year round- so its just for the summer. i feel like i've died and gone to heaven.

I have as much time with or with out him as I like - so does he. Now, for the most part I have Mondays with my choir that are scheduled and the few hrs my son is in school. My man takes time when he likes, last Fri went out with the guys after work, tonight is at a friends watching the fight. We have our own lives and then we have a life together - we mostly share our time during the week and on the weekend take a few hours alone/away from the house.

I have joint custody so half the time I don't have my kids so 50% of the time we have no kids though the older two pop in an out every now and then. They live on their own. That will change this fall when I have them all week but I digress.

I don't do a lot by myself cause I am well an extrovert so I drag my husband or kids along for the ride. Really my one alone time thing is watching Judge Judy cause most of my family will make fun of me for that. :p