To Tell or Wait ?

Updated on January 10, 2011
S.R. asks from Hopkins, MN
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Hi .. I am currently pregnant with baby # 2 and in my 9th week. I work full time and as much as I want to be prepared for my maternity leave and all..i also would like to wait out until my first trimester to inform my co-workers and manager. The problem is that my pregnancy is showing and I really wonder if people have started guessing. I also have the constant need to graze and munch on snacks which I never used to do before. As for my pregnancy showing..I am almost the same size as I was in the 22nd week during my first pregnancy. Should I wait until my first trimester or should I tell my manager and co-workers before they start asking me or start guessing!!??

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Well...since it is winter I am wearing lots of layered clothing and have chosen to not tell until my 12 weeks are over and I have the doctor's appointment. Thank you very much for your words.

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M.L.

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Wait until you are comfortable (but do it soon)! Don't lie if someone asks, and use that day to make an announcement if it happens before you are ready. People are probably already guessing.

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M.C.

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If you want to wait until after your first trimester, wait. (I did too). I bet your changes are far more noticeable to you than anyone else. You are just so aware yourself. I personally would not lie if asked...but that is really rude of anyone to ask you point blank. Good luck with your pregancy.

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D.S.

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I would if it was me because some things you cant do when your pregnant and they wont expect you to do to much and put you at risk

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S.H.

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If you decided to wait then I would wait to tell anyone. I always just loved the idea of it being our secret until we were ready to share it. I can't imagine anyone asking you if you are pregnant but people seem to forget their manners more and more these days so it could happen but so what if it does. I had a friend ask me if I was pregnant before I told my husband (he was deployed and out of touch and I kept getting sick at work) I looked her right in the eye and said "no not yet". Later when we decided to tell everyone she was upset that I "lied" and I happily told her "I wasn't lying I was saying you couldn't know yet" :) Congrats on the baby!

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G.T.

answers from Modesto on

There have been a lot of questions lately about "telling" when pg. I know with both of mine the minute I found out so did everyone else.
I'd tell your co-workers. You'll get tons of extra attention from here on out :)

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S.B.

answers from Minneapolis on

With my first I had to tell my manager/co-workers early on because I was missing a lot of work w/ debilitating morning sickness but had I not had that I'd have waited. You tell when you feel you want to tell. I agree if someone asks to go ahead and spill the beans but you can ask them to keep it on the down-low if you'd rather not everyone find out too soon. It's totally up to you! Good luck!

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A.D.

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I told my boss early (around 10.5 weeks) because it's my 3rd and I was showing, very sick and eating all the time. This was only after I had an early ultrasound and everything looked good. The funny thing was he didn't notice at all and was genuinely surprised so it may not be as obvious as you think. But, maybe at your next Dr. apt you could reqeust an ultrasound and if all looks good, I'd say go for it. Otherwise, you do take a risk in telling. You would just have to be prepared to tell some bad news if somthing happened to the pregnancy (heavan forbid). Good luck!

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J.F.

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I would tell them soon only because I would rather them feeling like I was open with them and didn't try to hid anything. Not that you are trying to hid anything. If it was me I would tell them now.

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C.S.

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I'd wait till your comfortable. Good luck and congratulations.

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M.G.

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Do what you feel comfortable with. I'm expecting again (my third after a set of twins). I popped instantly, and I told my teaching team at work right away. I was only six weeks along and two other teachers asked my friend if I was pregnant. Then, the next week another person asked. We made the decision to announce at eight weeks when I found out I was pregnant simply because I knew I could keep it "hidden". Do what works for you.

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E.B.

answers from Fort Collins on

If people asked me if I was pregnant before I was ready to announce it, I would joke about it with answers like" yes, due tomorrow" or "why? do I look fat?" or even "yes, triplets". Just keep it light and most people will just drop it and it was great to see their faces as I walked away.

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J.V.

answers from Raleigh on

I definitely would wait until I was comfortable...let people talk. And I agree with the person that said you can probably tell more than anyone else and that is so true! I went until I was I think 6 or 7 months before telling anyone at work and believe it or not they didn't notice! Don't let what you think people are saying pressure you into saying it if you aren't ready. Good luck!

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L.M.

answers from Dover on

I understand you desire to wait but you feelings that they may already be speculating. You are still very early but women do tend to show earlier w/ each pregnancy. I would say it is ok to wait a few more weeks (maybe when you are at 12 weeks) but you should probably mention it to your manager now.

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C.R.

answers from Green Bay on

I would say wait it out if that's what you truly want to do. I went through the exact same thing, second baby, showing sooner than the first, eating constantly. People noticed but didn't say anything until I told them at 14 weeks. With my first pregnancy I told everyone right away and luckily I had a full term healthy baby. My sister told everyone right away with her first pregnancy and then suffered a miscarriage at 8 weeks. It killed me to see her not only have to deal with the miscarriage but also have to tell everyone she was no longer pregnant.

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A.R.

answers from Omaha on

We usually try to wait until I'm past my first trimenster before telling people. You have to dp what makes you comfortable. In my expirience people won't ask if you're pregnant. However, if they do I wouldn't lie about it. Most people don't ask because they're afraid you'll say no and then they feel bad like they called you fat or something.

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